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My boyfriend and brother don't get along... how can I change this?

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Question - (30 November 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 30 November 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and my brother don't get on, I'm not sure why but apparently there were some messages sent between the two of them but neither of them are willing to say what they were about. My brother and I always fight after my boyfriend visits and he is very hard to talk to, I think it's very unfair the way he treats my boyfriend especialy since i've put up with his girlfriends and tried hard with them. Now my boyfriend, Daniel, is reluctent to visit and it's a shame that me and my brother fight since we used to be very close, I'm not sure how to handle the situation, and christmas is coming up!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009):

If no one is forthcoming in telling you what the real problem between your brother and boyfriend, then you have hit a wall. Could it be that you brother knows something about your boyfriend, that he can't tell you? Sit down with your brother, and ask him to give you the respect and common courtesy by letting you know why he doesn't like this fellow of yours.

If you don't feel, that this is the problem and your brother just 'doesn't like him' then your brother has very little right to interfere in your life. Families need to be supportive and be polite for the family members who have guests that come into the home. You have given your brother the respect due, when he brings home the gf's. He needs to respect you, love you enough to do the same for you.

If you still live at home, I can only imagine how your your fights, might be affecting other family members. Have you ever asked one of your parents, to speak with your brother? Let them know what's going on, if you haven't, I don't think it would hurt.

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