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My boyfriend always wants to have sex, what should I do?

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Question - (17 April 2008) 11 Answers - (Newest, 12 July 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

What should i do?? My boyfriend always wants 2 have sex... And i dont wat should i do??

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A female reader, Mimi1990 United Kingdom +, writes (12 July 2008):

Mimi1990 agony auntIf you have already had sex and liked it , then have sex but make sure you use contriception , and give him a limit of how much he can have a day/week/month . If you havnt had sex and dont want to yet and your boyfriend doesnt no that then just tell him you want to wait , and make it really special when you do have sex !!

If there is anything else let me know


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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (22 April 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntTo previasc, for you information I lost my virginity at 18, and having sex at this young lady's age is far too young in my book. She is not emotionally mature enough to handle a sexual relationship, neither is she physically mature enough. So please do reseach on underage sex and you might learn something.

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A male reader, previasc96 United States +, writes (22 April 2008):

half the people in here will probably tell you you're too young, but the reality is when they were your age they were humping too! If you don't want to have sex, tell him no. IF he cannot except that, then dump him! There is nothing wrong with you wanting to save yourself, if he doesn't agree, i am sure there are plenty other girls your age who are putting out.

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A female reader, duskyrowe United Kingdom +, writes (21 April 2008):

duskyrowe agony auntOne- You are underage and he is breaking the law if he does have sex with you.

Two- Do not get pressured into having sex, if that is all he is interested in.

Three- Having sex at such an early age can lead to cervical cancer later on in life, as you are still at a pubescant stage.

Four- If you do eventually have sex please make him wear a condom, so that he does not pass any STD or make you pregnant. Take care Hun and remember its your body so do not let any guy take advantage. Dusky xxx.

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (18 April 2008):

love-him agony auntHEY!!

You need to tell him you dont want to.. if anything, make an excuse up, say you are too tired.. Dont let him pressure you into anything!!

GOOD LUCK!! Feel free to mail me about anything x x x

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A male reader, binhquangdao United States +, writes (18 April 2008):

binhquangdao agony auntjust tell him no and you need to respect my decision if he doesn't obviously the relationship is just lust

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008):

Not being able to say "no" to sex is the surest possible sign that you're not ready for it yet.

If you think you "have to do it" because he's older and he's used to getting it from other girls . . . well, that is exactly why dating much older or more experienced guys usually isn't a good idea at your age.

The problem is not YOU in this situation. The problem is him pushing for sex. Having sex at your age is not a good idea. And no matter what other people are saying right now or how many of them are already doing it, the truth is that most girls who have sex so young eventually end up wishing they had waited longer looking back on it.

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A female reader, tick-tick-boom United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2008):

tick-tick-boom agony auntOkay, tell your boyfriend you are not comfortable with him pressurising you to have sex. You need to be very assertive when you say this because it's likley he will just ignore you.

Good Luck! X

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A female reader, Gothic Wolf United States +, writes (17 April 2008):

Gothic Wolf agony auntwell if you don't want to have sex all the time just talk to him....if he really loves you he will understand....and he would want you to be happy...

I hope my advice helps alittle bit

and good luck XXxxXX

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A female reader, daniellexxxx United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2008):

daniellexxxx agony auntDepends if you want sex all the time aswell. If not tell him you dont and i doesnt mean you dont likes him as much just you would perfer to cool a bit with all the sex. It sounds to me like he has a very high sex drive, just talk to him.

Good luck.

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A female reader, MissKin United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2008):

MissKin agony auntOkay, there's not really enough information here. Have you had sex before? Or is he trying to have sex for the first time and being persistent?

Obviously this is a problem for you - so tell him. Just be outright with him and tell him you don't want sex, or aren't ready for it, or want less of it - whichever the case may be. Make sure you tell him. it can't go on with you being unhappy and with him being persistently wanting sex. Just tell him and if he won't stop, then he's obviously only interested in sex and you should tell him u think so. see where things go from there.

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