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I've had dreams about this man since high school, its seems like we are meant to be but we are both married! Why am I feeling like this?

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Question - (30 March 2006) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 April 2006)
A female , *esiree writes:

why should i feel sad knowing that an old friend got married..?

we used to be classmates during high school days, way back then , all we do is fight and we dont seem to agree on anything. but both of us know that we secretly like each other so much that we tried to hide it from eachother by fighting...

we were separated by distance and never heared from each other until lately when a common friend had introduced us´s been 12 years since the last time i saw him , we are now both married but then again he still pops in my dreams every now and then.

lately we were able to keep in touch and we found out that for the past 12 years both of us were trying to find out what had happend with each other but to no avail... we sort of lost contact for 12 years and when we met again it was too late..

what am i feeling now..? how come i am somehow sad knowing that he is married..? please help me clear my mind.. i love my husband but i know i somehow loved this other guy secretly for a long time...or mybe until now...? hope someone tell me what to do and what i feel at the moment means...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2006):

Had the exact experience. And it turned out that we are both happily married and good friends now. The dream happened because you had feeling for him and couldn't let it go. But there is still a long distance between dream and reality....

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A female reader, Aunt Audrey United Kingdom +, writes (31 March 2006):

Aunt Audrey agony auntIt sounds to me like this guy was your first love, all be it a secret love. They say you never forget your first love, and it looks like he's never been far from your mind all these years.

It's great you are in contact now, be glad that he found happiness.

You never told him how you felt at the time and nor did he tell you, maybe you have been wondering what might have been had you confessed your feelings back then.....who knows, but that was then and no point living with "what if's". Be thankful for the memories but leave them where they belong - in the past.

Good luck.x

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