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I've fallen for my ex girlfriends sister.....Help

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Question - (30 November 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 11 October 2010)
A male United States age 36-40, *omper04 writes:

Hi everyone,

So like many of you I have a real complicated love situation I am in. For a few months now I have fallen for my ex girlfriends sister. I know it is wrong but I cant help how I feel. She lives right next door to me so it makes it impossible to avoid her. My ex girl friend has two kids and I became close to them and her sister (the one i like) watches them a lot and the kids always ask me to come over and play and what not. While I am there me and her sister will just talk and talk and I can never get sick of it. Last week she gave me her number which i didn't even ask for it but when I call or text she never answers or returns my calls or messages. What does that mean? She is always so friendly and nice to me but I don't know if that's because she likes me as well or because she is just trying to be nice. I figured she didnt feel the same way since I am always the one to try and communicate with her so I tried to forget about it. So I went over there the other day because the kids needed help with something and she came over to me and started talking like always about nothing. I told her i had to go but she just kept talking. Can someone please give me an idea of what you think she thinks about me I am so confused. Also when me and her sister were together and I would leave at night she would stop me and talk. It didnt just start after we broke up.

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A male reader, annonamous Canada +, writes (11 October 2010):

Whats up Romper

This is creepishly the same story as the one I posted. I have been going through the same hell. I can say for sure that she may feel guilt towards your children or your ex. I'm so confused about my own situation that I saw yours and maybe we could talk about it if you want. Also look at my post for some insight as well. Some of the things posted there have been helpfull. It still doesnt change how u feel about her does it. I guess it just takes time.....

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008):

If the sister (your ex) is seeing someone else, and you don't think the other sister is "playing games" then take it slow but let her know how you are feeling. Ask her out when you are talking to her in person. Also ask her why she hasn't answered any of your texts and phone calls.

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A male reader, Romper04 United States +, writes (30 November 2008):

Romper04 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Her and her sister are not on very good terms. I wouldn't say they hate each other but they arnt as close as most sisters are. They do tend to argue a lot. My ex and I have been broken up for almost a year now and we both have moved on I know she is seeing someone and she seems to be content.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008):

Are you and your "ex" still on good terms. Is she hoping to get you back in her life, or has she moved on? That's an important detail.

The sister may have feelings but is concerned about her sisters (your ex) feelings too. It may cause her to have second thoughts...or she may be playing games with you!

Be careful, Pay attention, and read the situation carefully!

Good Luck

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A female reader, petina1 United Kingdom +, writes (30 November 2008):

petina1 agony auntShe probably doesnt text back for fear of someone seeing it. If you are sure of her feelings then I would ask her to mention this to her sister to be fair and see how the land lies there before you go ahead. Her sister may not react very kindly if she finds out later. If they have a good close bond she will be worried about that been spoilt as well. I'ts difficult with families and family loyalties can be broken for ever if things arent handled sensitively. She is an aunty to the kids and they could be affected by this if you arent careful. I would suggest for the moment to just keep doing what you are doing, talking and getting to know each other a bit more then when you can be more open about the topic see how the land lies with her sister. good luck. hope this helps.

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