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Is my girlfriend interested in this guy because she talks about him a lot?

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Question - (24 May 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 24 May 2008)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Is my girlfriend intersted in this guy at her work because she talks about him alot?

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A female reader, kittikat United States +, writes (24 May 2008):

kittikat agony auntPeterPan is dead on as usual :-) Just because she talks about him doesn't mean she likes him like that. It depends on how she talks about him. I am in the military and most of my co-workers are male. I spend 40-50 hours a week with these guys, so of course I'm going to talk about them. On the other hand, like the first answer claims, she could be doing it for attention. I'll sheepishly admit that in my younger years if I wanted to feel a little competition or wanted to make whoever I was dating feel like he had to give me some more attention, I'd drop a name or two. Some people just do that. Thankfully, I've outgrown that silliness. It's probably nothing to worry about, but you should ask her- just to get some dialogue going. It sounds like she's pretty comfortable with the relationship that the two of you have, some people may not think that they could talk about others of the opposite sex simply because they'd argue about it. Good luck and it might help if you told us the kinds of things she talks about...

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A male reader, PeterPan United States +, writes (24 May 2008):

PeterPan agony auntNot necessarily... it kind of depends on what context... do you ask "what happened at work today?" and this guy comes up. Do you know if they are in the same department or group? Is he new in the group or is she? Is either one of them mentoring the other? Some of these are valid possibilities that exist. Have you as a couple or her alone spent time outside of work together?

I guess what I'm trying to say is depending on the work environment, male/female interaction is not uncommon. If you spend a lot of your day working closely, you might find it more on your mind than you'd otherwise think.

In my line of work (engineering) it's not unheard of to spend a lot of time working with the opposite sex in a plutonic friendly environment. It did put a strain on my marriage until I introduced these people and helped attach names and faces together. Maybe that might work for you if you see it as a problem.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008):


its juss a way to seek attention. most of the times at least. take it from someone who plays hard to get, and hardly gets any coz if it.

if u think she is easy going, juss ask her this directly.. playfully without sounding like a school teacher... the reply could be very enlightening.

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