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Is my conern for her justified?

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Question - (31 March 2006) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 April 2006)
A male United States, anonymous writes:

I am wondering if I should be concerned about this. The other night I called my girlfriend and she was drunk. I talked to her and she happened to be very horny and was discussing what she wanted to do with me sexually. anyways we talked for a few minutes and she told me to call her back because she was on the other line. This happened a few times that night and I didn't think much of it because she normally does talk to her friends a bit.

But what is concerning me is that I asked her about the conversation we had and she didn't remember even talking to me. Furthermore she also mentioned that some guy she didn't know called her in the morning. Should I be concerned especially if she goes out to drink with her guy friends?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2006):

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Thanks. I was making sure I wasn't over-reacting and over-thinking the situation. But as for the blacking out part, I have no fear there that her drink was spiked because she was at home drinking by herself which in itself is concerning.

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A female reader, Angelicc United Kingdom +, writes (1 April 2006):

Angelicc agony auntYes you concern is justified if your girlfriend is going out getting drunk and not remembering what happened the night before. you should be especially concerns if she's doing this often and if she contacting other guys while she drunk.

As when you’re drunk you are in less control of yourself.

Talking to her about it maybe hard, because people who are abusive of drink or/and drug tend to be very defensive.

If you do have any worries affecting your relationship I think you should speak to your gf about them.

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A female reader, BluntBabe +, writes (31 March 2006):

I think you're right to be concerned. She's probably also a bit freaked out, so when you approach her with your thoughts, do it very casually.

One thing, though, is that I've been blackout drunk before, and yet if something happens sexually with someone during that time, I would usually get some fleeting glimpse of memory letting me know that occurred. It is also REALLY difficult to not remember sex, unless you've been drugged.

So just ask her if she thought she blacked out because she drank too much, or because someone put something in her drink. I would advise talking to her about it, but be really careful, she's probably already pretty scared as is.

Good luck,


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