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writes: Is love possible with a 20year male and 16year girl?Will girls tend to change after they attain 18years/maturity?Does she still have love with a person whom after falling in love didnt talk to her for a month? Reply to this Question
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reader, goldfeather  +, writes (31 July 2014):
I was in your exact position once except I was 16 and he was 22. We tried so hard to make it work, but inevitably it just couldn't. You guys are in completely different stages in your lives and to maintain a serious relationship is not only difficult but illegal. I understand how you're feeling exactly and I only wish the best for you two. If you have any doubts or concerns end this relationship before more feelings form. I know that's difficult, extremely difficult but in the end it will only protect you and you're feelings. Make a truce to talk again in say 2-4 years. That's what we did and although I'm still waiting it was the best decision.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 June 2014):
 yes it's possible but it's not advised.
wait until the girl of 16 is 20 and the man is 24 and then see how it goes.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (18 June 2014):
 "is love possible between a 20 year old male and a 16 year old girl?" my answer is simple and YES. my wife and me have been married for 31 years. we met when I was 20 years old and she was 16 years old. sure as you both mature you change. the thing is Grow Closer to each other as you mature and get older. we mature and change in our thoughts, views, and outlook on life all through our days on this earth while we are living. i see people that are waiting longer to get married today. the divorce rate is higher than ever. people in their late twenty's, early thirty's waiting till then to get married are use to being on their own, doing what they want when they want, being independent. to me after being my own master come and go as i will, it seems kind of hard to all of a sudden give 100% of your self to someone. people that use to get married earlier in life, the divorce rate was lower. people grew together through life. so is love possible with a 20 year old guy, and a 16 year old girl. YES it is possible. the thing is if it comes to marriage don't marry just any girl. make sure you marry the girl you know you can not live without!!! by the way my wife and i married when she was 19, and i was 23. we did not have sexual intercourse till after our wedding. she was worth waiting for. this is just my view, it has worked for us. a good thing to remember is LOVE is giving,sharing, giving 100% of yourself for them. looking out for what is best for the other person (the one you love). LUST is taking, using for personal gain and personal pleasure, thinking of what is best for one self at the expense of the other person. remember everything we do in life effects someone else for the good or for the bad.
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (18 June 2014):
 It is entirely possible but wholly impractical and I think that you aught to leave well alone.
While a 4 year age difference doesn't seem like much if you are 30 an they are 26, there is a whole world of difference between a 16 year old and a 20 year old in terms of maturity and life experience that there is just too much growing to o over the next few years for the 16 year old that these kids of relationships never seem to end well as they are outgrown.
If you really love this girl, let her go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2014): It may be common, where you are from, but I believe it should be illegal to stop adults seeing children (under 18s) as romantic/sexual partners. Over here, the age of consent is 16, as Mark said, but I don't agree with it because it means adults can legally "justify" sleeping with children between 16 and 17.
Let her go; she isn't emotionally prepared for an adult relationship.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (17 June 2014):
 Greetings,
If you are a grown man of 20, an adult, why would you want a relationship with a child of 16? Here in the UK the age of sexual consent is 16, but even so, personally I don't think its right or appropriate for a man in his twenties to have any kind of relationship with a child under 18.
Apart from the obvious issues of suspicion and people questioning why a man your age would want a girl who is still a child, and the probable objections of her parents, it would also call into question your maturity. Most of, when we get to our twenties, realize how young 16 actually is and move on from doing the things we did at that age.
What YOU want from a relationship, and what SHE will want will be too very different things. You are a grown man, an adult, you have obtained a certain level of maturity and life experience. She is a child, naïve, inexperienced and, no matter how mature for her age, still very young.
Will a girl change as she matures? Certainly, but she wont awaken on the morning of her 18th birthday as a changed person and an adult. Those changes take time. Between the age of 16 and 26 she will change a hell of a lot. Even if she likes you now, chances are that in a few months time the changes in herself, her situation and her outlook will change that. Should you have a relationship with her at 16? I don't think so. Should you wait two years for her to reach 18? No because she will be a very different person then who you may not like and vice versa.
Concentrate on finding a girl your own age is the best thing to do.
Mark
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