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writes: Is it normal for a guy to expect that if his past experiences have been with girls who have had an orgasm at the same quick time as him, to expect me to? I told him it takes me longer to get there and that I need oral and stimulation to get me there. However, he just doesn't seem to want to get me off, its like he starts to, but then enters me soon after and orgasms fairly quickly. It is frustrating, and I do not know what to do! I believe it is actually quite unusual for a woman to orgasm through intercourse alone, and told him this and that he obviously has been very lucky with the girls he has been with. Isn't it unfair of him to expect me to come at the same time as him? Or are we just sexually incompatible?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): going off what you have said to its word,he is either very selfish sexually,or inexperienced. does not seem to be any compatability there,with you (or any other females).
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (21 August 2011):
I would say he is being selfish - my first concern when I'm in bed is making sure my partner enjoys it as much or more than me - if we orgasm together great but in truth it only happens occasionally - people are different and need different types of stimulation to get them over the edge. Oral sex before, during and after sex is great for stimulation for the girl I have found, he needs to brush up on this skills so to speak....
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reader, Abella  +, writes (21 August 2011):
 This poor man has no idea how many of his partners earlier were FAKING their orgasm.
Finally he has an honest real girlfriend and he cannot take the heat. He is not doing enough at all to encourage you to orgasm.
And yes you are correct, most woman do prefer more than he is giving in order to reach orgasm.
Tell him you want a minimum of 20 minutes foreplay, preferably longer, before he even thinks of entering you.
And if he then orgasms and you do not then up the ante and request that next time her gets you to orgasm without him even attempting to enter you. That will start to make up for the orgasms you missed out on :)
He is being exceptionally selfish lover as evidenced by his attitude.
Start reading the Kama Sutra to him in bed and he might get a small inkling of how much he does not know about lovemaking.
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