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I'm unnaturally anxious around boys

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Question - (26 July 2016) 2 Answers - (Newest, 26 July 2016)
A female India age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi all, I am a 24 yr old girl, single. My mum is a divorcee, a single parent. I have an elder sister who is,now, married... I don't remember my father. I used to go to girls highschool. I had some of guy friends in my college life,but I used to talk so naturally and freely when all the big group was together(not when I was alone with them during class sessions etc). My question is, I have an irrational fear towards men/boys. I don't know why it is like that. I noticed it during my sisters wedding. I couldn't talk or behave normally to my cousin-brothers, there was a kind of awkwardness/fear from my side, and I think it made them a little awkward too.. Is is some kind of thing like heterophobia?, or anything else? How to overcome it? And why it is like that with me???

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A male reader, Myau New Zealand +, writes (26 July 2016):

Myau agony auntTo answer this properly, I would have to ask: What are you afraid will happen with these guys?

Do you think they will hurt you or leave you alone and pregnant like your mother?

I'll be honest, some will. They will push you for sex and seem to be in a hurry. But if you take your time and get to know a guy over a long period of time, you will meet someone who will want to be with you.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (26 July 2016):

Denizen agony auntPerhaps you could take an evening class with mixed participants. This would get you used to being around men. The thing is we really like women. You only need to smile and we can be won over. If you ask us to do something simple like undo a bottle top we can't wait to impress you with our strength and dexterity.

Don't worry. The cards are heavily stacked in your favour. Once you get used to being in our company you will find we are ready be friends and/or lovers.

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