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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:A week ago, my now ex and I had a row which ended up in mild assault against me and serious damage to my car and other possessions.He was arrested and his bail conditions are to not contact me.I don't want him back. But I want to have my say, I want to tell him how I feel about it.What would happen if I was to text him?Please don't lecture, I just want advice.Thanks in advance.
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reader, xoxemilyxox +, writes (11 February 2009):
not a good idea, im in exactley same poistion, ex 3 weeks ago stole my car and £400 from my account, spent it in pub and at bookies, had him arrested and no contact has been applied, i feel the same i want to have my say, and want lots of answers to why he ruined a really good relationship, must admit was not first time he done this, i let him off first time, but this was worse, and have found out he even done same to his parents.i miss the relationship but know i have to continue with this otherwise he has won hasnt he. be strong girl and dont let the man turn the tables, your the victim, dont let him win. good luck huni x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 His bail condition is that he cannot contact you but it did
not state that you cannot contact him.
Even if he contacted you , it will only be a court case if you report him .
If you do not report him then nobody would know.
If you feel strongly that you have a case to talk to him ,
arrange to meet him in a neutral place and talk or use a
public phone to contact him.
Only you can decide if what you say will defused or inflamed the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): he will go to jail if that happends
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): "It is silly women like you who are the reason many men are doing life in prison"
Wow, way to completely absolve men of any responsibility for their own actions. What utter rubbish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Boonridge, you were very helpful. Yes, I guess it would be a release, and that's what I need. But you're right, it might give him false hope, the last thing I want is for him to turn up at my house etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): You know his bail conditions are to not contact you so why would you want to try and tempt him? Sometimes you have to accept that you can't always do what you what when you want - that is part of being an adult. The courts got involved so it is now not all about you. I don't understand - if you want to contact him then wait until you are able to, unless of course you don't really give a fuck about the laws that you envoked to protect you.....
You can't have it both ways...not that i agree with Badvoice, but it does sound like you just want a bit of attention!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (25 March 2008):
 the court might think that you are not taking it seriously, or if he replies he might get put away, do you want this maybe?
why tell him anything, although you may find it a release i can guarantee this will be like pouring petrol on a fire. do you want him round your house lobbing bricks and threatening you? one of my friends had a nutty ex and he wouldn't leave her alone, so if he avoids you count your lucky stars you havent got a stalker on your hands...
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reader, BadVoice  +, writes (24 March 2008):
But yet you want to provoke him? It is silly women like you who are the reason many men are doing life in prison. It clearly states that he is not to contact you while out on bail, but yet....you cannot believe he has not contacted you, so you want to contact him and 'have your say'....hmmm,
what is your name.....I just want to know which name to read in the obituary pages.....
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 I wouldn't. The guy has already proven he can loose control, what if what you send makes him angry again?
Sometimes the smartest thing is just to walk away.
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