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writes:I am struggling after a break up. We only dated for a few months but he was still arguing with his ex about their children that I felt pushed out and like the third wheel. It was an intense and passionate time but I used to get angry that his past issues were not resolved. I collected my things and was horrible to him. I dont want to get back with him but would like to apologise in person. I have text him twice and he ignored me both times.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 November 2015):
 If it makes YOU feel better and if you NEED to get something of your chest... write him a letter to apologize. You don't NEED to do it in person. After that, let it go.
And learn from this. Actions have consequences. Your actions "saying horrible things to a guy after a bad break up" lead to "him wanting nothing to do with you" and you feeling bad about it. No one is perfect, and no one acts perfectly 100% of the time. So it's OK to stop beating yourself up over it.
Overall I think breaking up with him was the right thing to do. The guy shouldn't be dating when he has SO much unfinished business with the ex.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (4 November 2015):
Everyone wants the kind of breakup where sorry is said for all the wrongs, everything is discussed and neatly confined to the past and you wish each other every happiness and go your separate ways. Great but it often doesn’t happen like that. You didn’t work, it only lasted a couple of months and you sent texts as the start of a peace offering. For him this is obviously enough and he wants to move on, so the right thing to do now is leave him be. So it ended messily and on bad terms but I’m afraid that’s just life. Understand that you’ve done all you can and that by backing off you are acting in his best interests and try not to give yourself too hard a time.
I wish you all the very best.
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