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I messed up big time!

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Question - (21 April 2014) 3 Answers - (Newest, 21 April 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

ok i need advice.

My ex bf passed away this year. our relationship was not healthy he was violent and i was co-dependant.

I attended his funeral and have visited his family just to see how they are etc.

I still have feelings for my ex there was a lot of unresolved issues between us.

I went to his house at the weekend and sat and had a drink with his younger brother. We were having a laugh and i kissed him.

He kissed me back but now i feel dreadful. I know i was totally wrong and i do not know what to do from here.

I left my bag there and im going to have to go get it but i am dreading it and i do not want his bro to feel awkward. I worry that he will be beating himself up for it when it was my fault. His mum don't know and i do not intend for it to ever come out. I want to just pretend it never happened and just move on.

I hate myself for putting myself in this situation.

I am tempted to just go and get my bag and be as normal as possible and then leave. I also intend to stay away from there until things are better and it is no longer in our minds.

Any advice on my next move would be appreciated.

Thankyou in advance.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2014):

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hi many thanks for your replies.I went earlier and picked up the bag he was fine just his normal self. Thankgod. Although i still feel like a total idiot at-least that is out of the way.

He is the sort of guy that won't talk of it again so i guess i am lucky that way.

Thankyou ;-)

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (21 April 2014):

Honeypie agony auntGo pick up the bag and leave, it's pretty simple.

Now if the brother wants to talk about the kiss, make it clear to him that it was a mistake and leave it at that.

Stop beating yourself up over this.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2014):

Just do what you plan to do: get your bag, then leave.

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