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writes:i had dated this guy for 4years for no real reason-i was young,wanted to have fun(date other guys) but didnt want to b with him while at it.so i left him and thought i could walk back into his life becos he loved me so much...its 3yrs now and am still asking him to take me back----he has been saying things like i have a girlfriend and i cant just hurt her...when u left me,i didnt nothing to u to deserve that and i cant do that to another person....i still love him madly and want him back...now he says they are engaged and he wishes me the best...but i just cant let him go...i dont think he is in love with her cos he has never mentioned that.we still speak and all.but he says he feels bad and cant leave her.what do i do...i want him back
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): Whoa... leave the poor guy alone. You had your chance and blew it. If you cared for him, you'd leave him alone to be happy. The aunts and uncles here normally have to deal with picking up pieces of broken hearts and trying to help others piece their lives and emotions together after someone like yourself has made a mess, moved on and decided to come back for seconds. Do everyone a favour and find yourself someone who wants to play the same games as you. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): No sympathy here either.
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reader, Wontonbomb  +, writes (7 December 2009):
 The pain of being dumped by somebody you love can be worse than dealing with a death if the love was strong enough. Many (if not all) the aunts on this website have been through it and they'll all tell you the same thing. It must have been hell for your ex to get over you and move on, but he had to deal with it through no choice of his own. Thinking you can see other people then walk back into his life is selfish, immoral and downright unpleasent behaviour.
If you do actually care about him, you have to let him go and be happy. You have comitted the biggest breach of trust and he is right not to take you back. I understand that you realise what a mistake you've made, but after this length of time i'm afraid it is over. Focus on yourself and try and move on and start afresh. I appriciate that you realise how much hurt you've caused him, and for that I have respect for you, but as they say, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 December 2009):
Sorry, you made a choice and you've paid the price. He is now telling you clearly and politely to back away from him. Do that, be brave and move on. He's not the guy for you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 December 2009):
 I think the term is "stiff bikkies!"
You had him you threw him away, somebody else picked him up, dried his eyes and made him feel better.
Why would he want to take you back, three years, good heavens give it a break, before you turn into some sort of loony stalker and they have to get the cops onto you.
Oh, and if you do happen to see him over the next few days, congratulate him on his upcoming marriage from me and wish him all the best!
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