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writes:Hi, i am having problems in my relationship ino it is mostly my fault. i wanna go out alot but my girlfriend dont like my friends so i always lie to her. i can never tell her how i feel we never do any thing together any more. we hardly have a sex life now, and i just dont no what to do. we are both paranoide and i am starting to get sick off it now can any one give me some advise thank yo so much.[mod note: edited for punctuation. Please use it!]
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reader, bad romaance  +, writes (7 August 2010):
 Okay. Problems here are that you think shes controlling, and she has a problem with your friends (there must be a reason)
I know from experience that girls feel rejected and unloved when they think their bf would rather be with their friends than her.She can proberly see a difference in you when your with your friends. When your in a relationship you need to find balance between your gf and friends otherwise youll find it messy on either sides.
DONT LIE,,, no matter how much you think the truth will hurt her, she is bound to find out and she will be devastated at the fact that you lied and couldnt tell her.
BIG communication problems in this relationship, dont give up on it if you love her talk to her and work on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): Well why doesn't she like your friends, she must have some reasons.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): By the sounds of it you both have slight issues. (she doesn't like your friends) - Have you tried asking her why. Maybe there is a reason for why she doesn't like you going out with them, Unless while you have been with them once, you have cheated?. You don't really talk and hardly have no sex and your both paranoid,in a relationship these problem do not usually occur unless there have been others issues, such as cheating, or if a few liars have been said. For instance you said you have to lie about going out with your friends this for example may of caused some of the paranoia and controlling between you both.I suggest before moving on!!!! If you have strong enough feelings for her you should try and talk to her about your problems and what problems you have with her. You both need to have a heart to heart. Then you both can see what is going wrong in this relationship? can it be solved? can you both learn to trust each other? etc... then between you both you will decide what is best for both you.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Tell ur gf that she is not ur mother and she cant tell u who to be friends with or where to go and who ur seeing. She's being very controlling and no guy likes that. If u do like her and wanna stay with her tell her she cant control u and she needs to tone it down. However, if she cant agree to that then I would dump her since ur not happy, and find a gf who isnt controlling. She is the one with a problem and if she cant fix then she's going to have a rough way to go in future relationships
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reader, mycatishot +, writes (6 August 2010):
i think you should just tell her "look sweetie... theese are my friends and i like to hang out with them, our relationship is not about you, me and my friends, its about you and me. if your not okay with that then i dont think you really love me for who i am... and i feel like we dont even have a sex life now and that upsets me... do you even care for me?" now i am assuming they are guy friends who lie to hang out with, because if i was the girl and you were going out with both girls and guys... id feel very jealous and that youd rather be with them and not me.
dont lie about going out with friends. it makes a bigger problem then it really is.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 August 2010):
It sounds to me like your girlfriend is a major problem here. You should be able to go out with your friends and not be hassled by your girlfriend (unless you've cheated when you've been with those friends). You don't really talk, you don't do much together, there is no sex and there she is controlling you just a bit to the point where you have to lie.
The time has come to end it and move on.
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