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*leonor rigby
writes:I have this friend with benefits, he's great, I fell in love with him, but he doesn't want anything serious and neither do I, we have tons of fun and I love everything about the "relationship". It's been a while since we don't sleep together or anything like it, but we always chat and stuff like that. About a month ago he said that we were still friends but he asked me not to send him any messages or to call him, because he thought he was hurting me and that's bad karma or something?? so well he apologized. So lately when we chat, well he's always asking me to strip for him or other similar things, of course we also talk a lot, about his job or mine, or anything, and he seems to pay attention constantly to everything I say. But the problem is that, when I ask him to meet me, he hesitates, thinks 3 hours about it, and finally gives me an excuse, like he has a football match, or whatever. He wasn't like this before, what happened??
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reader, eleonor rigby +, writes (21 October 2008):
eleonor rigby is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEmily thank you for your answer, it's true, it hurts, but you're right, he's just using me and it'll hurt a lot more when he meets someone new. I guess I knew it all the way, I just...well you know...didn't want to accept it. I've been so silly, and now I'm in love with this person, I can't get over him. I'll try to move on, thanks!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (19 October 2008):
He's developed a conscience and then blown it.
He felt bad about using you and apologised because he knows he is going to hurt you some day when he gets a girlfriend and drops you like a hot potato.
But I bet when he said all this and offered to back off and leave you to get over him, you said it was fine and you were happy with things the way they are.
So now he thinks it's fine to use you for webcam stripping and sexual thrills but he doesn't want to meet you because he doesn't want to actually spend time or hang out with you.
He's still using you, he's just been honest about it and now thinks it's fine because you said it was.
The thing is that he is going to hurt you. He's going to meet a girl and cut all contact with you and never look back and you'll wonder how he could be so cruel and will be heart broken because there will be nothing you can do to get him back.
You have to be strong now and stop letting him do this because he's never going to give you what you want, he's just going to play with you till something better comes along.
Good Luck!! xx
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