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I have a broken heart, help me mend it....

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Question - (30 March 2006) 3 Answers - (Newest, 31 March 2006)
A female Canada, anonymous writes:

I was in a relationship for seven years. My boyfriend left me seven months ago and relocated to his home town, promptly met someone else and is now living with her. I feel that I have nursed my hurt long enough and everyone says move on and meet someone new. Here is my question. My self esteem took a beating with the end of this relationship and the confidence that I once had with men is not just not there now. I also have this feeling that I put it all on the line before and invested seven years and it did not work out so I guess I feel jaded. Has anyone else been in a similar situation or would have advice that would help myself and others in this situation to get back into the dating game after having been in a committed relationship for so long.

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A female reader, lostgirl04 United States +, writes (31 March 2006):

lostgirl04 agony auntI also have a broken heart, but I only dated my ex for 9 months. I still love him and it hurts a lot becuz he was my first love and i can imagine that ur pain must be 10 times worse than mine and i'm sorry for that. The only way to move on is 2 just take it a day at a time. Try to hang out with your friends. Remember that everything happens for a reason. Someone better is out there for you. Until then enjoy the other things you have going for you. You will feel better =)

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (30 March 2006):

eyeswideopen agony auntTime will heal the broken heart but in the mean time you need to stay busy. Go out with friends, join a club, do some volunteer work at the local hospital, just stay busy and highly visible. The dates will come to you and before you know your having a wonderful and fulfilling social life again. Once you get moving, I'm sure your confidence will come back in spades.

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A male reader, d4u04 United Kingdom +, writes (30 March 2006):

d4u04 agony auntYou just need to start dating when you feel ready hun. No one person is the same so there's no magic number as to the number of months or weeks or whatever to start dating again, only when you feel comfortable. It is scary getting back into the game but if you don't take the leap of faith you will just be left wondering what would have happened if I did?

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