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I can't resist my cousin, is she leading me on?

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Question - (30 November 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 17 December 2009)
A male Bangladesh age 30-35, *alf_spoken_soul writes:

Hello everyone,sorry, its a big question. So, i am 20.everyone say um handsome and all that. But i am single all the way,something happens when i am around girls i am interested in and i feel nervous.cant talk,cant flirt etc.ok, so In short my problem is, i asked out some one who is my first love, i was so into her,and she is my first cousin.

Thats something i did last still single, and i am not over her. Partially still into her. As we re cousins we meet so often. Now the problem is But, when she remains around me,she is too free. She would let me hold her hands for hours when we talk. She would rest her head on my shoulder, for example, yesterday she told me she has few beauty spots and showed one on her face and one kinda between her chest region. And she asked me to touch cause i said it might not be a beauty spot,trust me i had nothing in mind. So i touched her that part and i just touched.

My problem is i cant resist it. She s too beautiful,when she is around she is like too intimate with me,and she trusts on me on things. But, i cant withstand her being so close to me, i admit i cant resist her. I never can. But,how can she do this with a cousin who is so in love with her,and she knows.and she has a bf. Pls tell me what to do, um confused,sad and depressed. I know i am a complete looser.

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A male reader, Half_spoken_soul Bangladesh +, writes (17 December 2009):

Half_spoken_soul is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks, i just wish i will also be loved one day

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009):

i feel 4 u and truly think shes toying with u. its a game for her in my opinion. and i dont like how shez treating u. especially since she has a bf. moving on and letting go is hard, but spend some time apart and have the courage 2 love somebndy new. dont give in to the pain and pleasd please ignore her come-ons next time. if you show disinterest then maybe she will get bored and leave you alone. distract yourself by just enjoying your life and your true soulmate will hopefully come running to you. wish u da best. mwaah!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009):

Allthough i think your quite sick because shes your cousin i want to help. You need to tell her to stop and try to move on. Even if she likes you and wants to flirt a relationship would mever work coz number 1 its illegal with a first cousin and number 2 you would have messed up kids coz of the same genes. If she was a second cousin then yeaa fair enough the genes are too distant therefore babies wouldnt get messed up so its legal.

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A male reader, Half_spoken_soul Bangladesh +, writes (3 December 2009):

Half_spoken_soul is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks a lot for helping with your advice.. Its not that we re in any sorta physical relations. But its just that some where deep inside i love this girl like crazy. She is in my dreams,my days. I just wanna know how to move on. I am not even free with any girls other than her. I ve few friends who are girls ,but she is different and with her i am me. She said she doesn feel anything for me and nothing can happen. My friends also says that. But, i dont know what to do i am just too happy spending time with her cuddling touching her face.holding her hands. Then when she is not there,its like hell for me. I cant sleep at night. Need pills. Feel depressed. Cant even move on wid other girls as i am nervous talkin to any girls i like. I stall with. Nothing comes from my mouth. Any advice will be helpful

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A female reader, bolligcheryl United States +, writes (1 December 2009):

okay your not a loser. it happens. a connection is a connection. its not the best thing to do because say if she gets prego your familys genes that have defects will double and worsen and other problems (where you get the funky body parts stories and things) anyways if she knows then shes screwing with you. ask her to stop. ok. good luck hun :D

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