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writes:I love my boyfriend very much. He also loves me. Actually he is a rude guy but very cute. He is my life and everything. We started our relation in 2007. So its 2 years that we are with each other. At the beginning he used to call me and talk to me for hours. He was very weak that time. He loved me like a mad. After seeing his madness i also became very weak. Now I want to talk but he doesn't. Because of his rudeness i'm facing some problems from last 3 months.We often meet one another and that time we are the happiest couple in this world. But when I come back my home, he becomes totally changed. I call him but he says that he doesn't wanna talk now. Every time he does this. It hurts me a lot when he behaves like this. I cry and cry. Sometimes he feels bad but maximum times he scolds me. He says, "Stop crying in front me. If u want to cry, then go somewhere else". After saying all these he disconnects the line.I cant take these any more. He was crazy about me. But I don't know what happened. If I want to say something romantic, he always changes the topic. When I tell him to say something romantic, he gets angry. But he used to do all these before. Now I want him to do but he refuses. I never refused him to love me or say some loving words. but why does he refuse me?I tried a lot to stop calling him. But I couldn't. It hurts me more when I don't talk to him. When I call him, he says that i'm disturbing him. It seems like he doesn't miss me. Please advise me what to do.I can't live without him. So I can't stop contacting. Give me some other advice so that I can make him miss me again like before. Please help me. I just want his love, nothing else.Thank u very much for your time. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): I'm really sorry. It sounds like a very difficult situation.
I know what you mean in that you want him to miss you. I think you need to be strong, and plan all of your feelings thoughts in your head. Then you need to talk to him face to face, and be a powerful person. He is taking advantage of being dominating, and you must even this imbalance out as much as you can. I suggest you go away for a week with your closest friends, without him, and get some fresh air away from him. Go abroad somewhere this summer, so that it's harder for you to contact him. You need to realise you can enjoy being separated from him for a short period of time. It would also give him a chance to 'miss' you.
But, he sounds like a nasty piece of work. How old are you? Young, I predict. You have your whole life ahead of you. It is unimaginable, but I promise (and I dont lie), you will meet a man who treats you like a living being. Your partner is destroying the meaning of love and happiness. Think about times in your life when you were happy, before you met him. You can have that again - it is not out of reach, honey. It IS in your grasp.
A man that sees you cry and does not respond is NOT HUMAN. It's not neccessarily that he doesnt love you - he might still. But you need to ask him straight out if he does. You need to talk and you have to act strong, and pretend what he will say does not hurt you. Ask him what the hell is wrong with a boyfriend who does not even attempt to stop you crying.
Don't give him a second chance though. You must go away for a week or so, come back and throw him out of your house if he is living with you. Or, if he comes round to your house, don't let him in.
I hope it sorts out, sweetheart. You deserve a better person. Remember = you ARE worth it.
Alice x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): well first things is first, if he loved then he would not have hurt you. i agree some guys love pissing off their girls but they will call back and be sorry but in your case your boyfrind is continually ignoring you so you should move on babes. If a guy makes you cry and does not care then he is not really worth it TRUST ME YOU CAN DO MUCH BETTER
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reader, Deathly-Afraid  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 Well, I know it will probably be the hardest thing to do for you. But hun, I think at this point dump his sorry ass. If he can't treat you with respect then he's not worth it and you tell him that.Than and he might relise he missed out on somthing really great. I know its hard but its time to let go and it will be a long and painful road but there is a light at the end of the tunnle. And if he's hanging up on you the next time you meet him just tell your feelings strait out to him, and if he just ignores it well,then its time to break it off I know it seems a bit harsh. But if he's mently and emotionaly hurting you its time to break it off.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 I'm going through something similar, you both need time apart! Keep busy and distract yourself. I know its hard but try not to txt and phone him! Eventually he will come closer to you when you distabce yourself!x
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reader, Starlights +, writes (4 July 2009):
 im sorry to say your boyfriend doesnt sound like he loves you at all.
what man who loves a girl would tell her to go away when she calls him? and hangs up?
that suggests he has issues going on.
it looks to me like he doesnt need your love if he did he would give you some love in return.
you cant make him miss you, but the best thing u can do is have some self respect and stop calling him. if u carry on calling its making urself seem clingy and desperate. let him call u if he wants you in his life.
good luck
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