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His changing his pictures upset me, should I mention it to him?

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Question - (30 May 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 31 May 2010)
A female , anonymous writes:

i am on a online dating site.. i was getting tired of it.. i met this one person on there from it and we have been talking every day.. we have gone out 4 times.. we haven't gotten too physical yet and i am still deciding if i like him. Seems like boyfriend material though.

I haven't been on the site for two months just due to being tired of it and also talking to him so i figured i would take a break from the site. I decide to go on it today and check it out and see if he was still on it which i figured why wouldn't he be.. and he still is and even changed his photos! the ones that he sent me through his phone are now on the site. It did get me a little angry because he changed his photos. Its not like he is still on the site with the same ones. So that took a little effort.

I want to e-mail him saying nice new pics :p to just kinda show i have noticed it. He will see i looked at his profile if he goes on to check and it showed he was on today. Or do i just leave it alone because the truth is although we have been talking every day - we are not exclusive and not b/f g/f yet

Also it might make me look kinda weak and jealous....

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A female reader, laetitia Canada +, writes (31 May 2010):

laetitia agony auntDon't mention anything. He will think that you are acting jealous or even possessive.

Just try to go on more dates with him and see if he is interested in something serious with you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010):

Mentioning this could be the impetus that helps him make the decision on wether or not to continue dating him. You will seem a bit possessive and jealous and I am sure he will want no part of that.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (30 May 2010):

chigirl agony auntDo you really think he took pictures of himself just for you? Its a dating site. And you were on 4 dates. Hardly what you'd deem a relationship, and you don't seem too into him for that matter either. So whats the big deal? Even if he did take those pics just for you and he thought they turned out good, he wanted to use them to find a girlfriend for himself. I don't see why it should upset you.

Message him if you want, and try to get to know him better. But as of now you don't really have any right to feel upset over this.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010):


Nah, you're both not in a relationship. So he's free to change his pics. Don't worry about it.

Good luck


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A female reader, straight to the truth United Kingdom +, writes (30 May 2010):

you are not a couple, doesnt sound like your dating really so it would seem there is no reason as to why he shouldnt change his pictures.

rather than comment about him changing his picture why not say you really like him and you want to start a couple. this then means there are no grey areas and he shouldnt be on the site anymore and neither should you.

you will also know if he feels the same about you as well.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010):

I wouldn't mention it. you are keeping your options open and so is he. Like you say you are not even boyfriend/girlfriend yet.

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