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Do you think I appeared needy and what are the odds that we have another date?

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Question - (8 December 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 8 December 2008)
A female Japan age 41-50, *watanoprincess writes:

We met last week. He came over to mine and stayed the night and the whole next day and left at 8pm the next night.

We talked the next day online. I sent him about 4 messages over the course of a full week. He answered all of them. In one of those messages I asked him to meet on Sunday after our big test.

He said I should mail him after the test.

During the break in the test, I mailed him and asked how its going. He responded very confidently and friendly.

But after the test ended. He sent me a long email saying he worked until 5 the day before slept until 6 couldn't fall asleep again and he was totally exhausted so he canceled.

I told him I was looking forward to seeing him but OK. And when I finally calmed down. I sent him a quick email saying that I had also felt drained after the test, so not to worry about anything and when he was ready to talk or meet, he should say so freely as I would be happy to talk / meet him.

And that was that.

I don't intend to mail him again though. I think he should make a move if he has any kind of interest or something. But I can't help but wondering if its already over before it started.

Do you think I am making the right decision to not contact him unless he contacts me? Do you think I appeared to needy?

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A female reader, iwatanoprincess Japan +, writes (8 December 2008):

iwatanoprincess is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you everyone for your gentle advice. I feel a lot better about it now. And I am trying to relax. :-)

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A female reader, katatonik United States +, writes (8 December 2008):

katatonik agony auntI don't think your previous communications with him sound "needy" but if you mail him again you might. By telling him to let you know when he is ready to talk or meet, you have left the ball in his court. If he is interested, he will respond. If not, don't waste any more effort on him. Good luck =]

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A female reader, Butterflyfly United Kingdom +, writes (8 December 2008):

Butterflyfly agony auntGive him a chance, don't rush :-). What test are you talkingabout?. Se still talks to you and has been responsive, so relax a little bit and the right things will happen.

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