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writes:I want to write to two musicians who are members of the same band. Do these questions sound ok ? I want to ask both of them if they have favourite songs by the previous bands that the drummer was in ( he's one of the members that i am writing to ), do they have favourite songs that they have done with the band they are in now, does the drummer have a favourite concert that he did with the previous bands and i want to ask why one of the drummers previous bands split up and how long they were together for ? Can you also suggest any other questions i could ask?. I know all those questions are similar. I dont know if i should ask all the questions all at once though. I have to write to them both in the same message, not separately. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): YouWish, thanks very much for your reply. It has helped. Do you think musicians mind people writing to them ?. To be honest, i would have thought they would be happy about people writing to them and taking an interest in them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2013): Last time i heard from one of them, he wrote to me first ( he wasn't replying to anything i had said ) so they could be interested in talking to me..Also, i would only send one message, and if i dont get a response, i wouldnt send any more messages. Also, they reply to people in comments on their facebook page, so how do you know that they dont like talking to people ?.
I dont mind if i dont get a reply, but it would be nice to try. I have also thought of just speaking to them in person though if i meet them at a gig.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (24 January 2013):
 I am a musician who has been in bands in my youth. The only question I would suggest holding off on is "i want to ask why one of the drummers previous bands split up "...it's possible the split was acrimonious, and just like you wouldn't ask a stranger why they divorced their wife or broke up with their girlfriend, you probably shouldn't ask about something potentially painful and definitely personal.
A good idea about things to ask is if they do original songs in their current or former bands, whether they helped write or co-wrote any or specific songs, and maybe the inspiration behind particular songs you like. Also, you can ask them what songs they most like to perform in public, and maybe what are songs that have the most meaning to them personally.
You could also ask about any unusual moments in a writing or practice process or maybe if they ever had to play through any sound system malfunctions or if they ever had to quit a concert early or change their plans and why. You'll get really interesting stories then.
Example: Once during a gig, I was playing and a huge wasp was flying around the stage and for some reason kept buzzing around all near me, landing on my keyboard and briefly on me. I have a really huge phobia about stinging insects, and I've been stung my fair share of times. Anyways, I was totally freaking out, but the show much go on, so I kept playing, even when that thing landed on my hair!!! Anyways, the lead singer saw me in distress and saw it, ran over mid-song while he was still singing, and hit the thing out of the air so hard it hit the stage and never moved again. Needless to say, I bought him the first drink after the concert's end!
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