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writes:I (we) don't really need relationship advice, but our question does have to do with male/female situations I guess.My wife got a really great job, but it's about 3 hours away from our home. My company is opening a new branch very close to where my wife works. I'll be getting a big promotion and moving when it opens. This being said, we both decided that she would take this great job and stay down there during the week. I would keep my job until the transfer went thru, and I take care of our kids so that they could stay in the same school until we move. I'm also now dealing with selling our house, while she is scouting out new homes for us to buy in the new area.Problem is, we rented a room suite in someone's house. It is a private section of their very large house that has 1 bedroom, a kitchen, and 1 bath. Then there is another room that was being used as storage by the owners at the time we signed a lease. Well about 1 month ago, my wife came home and was very upset. It seems the owners had cleared out the 'storage' room and was now renting it out to a male tenant. Obviously, she was very uncomfortable sharing this private area of the home (1 kitchen, 1 bath) with another man. I was also very uncomfortable with it also. We decided to see what happened, well my wife called me during the middle of the next week to say that the guy was walking around in only his underwear, so she stayed in her bedroom all night, and wouldn't even go to the kitchen to cook something.Well, that weekend, instead of her coming home, I borrowed a friends truck, and we moved her things out, gave the landlord (owner of the house) notice in writing why she was moving out.Now, the landlord won't return our security deposit and is threatening to sue us for the balance of our lease. I've spoken to a lawyer, and he said we absolutely have grounds for breaking the lease. My question is, did we overreact? Neither one of us is comfortable with my wife sharing private living space and only 1 bathroom with another man. I don't think we overreacted, but we did make the decision for her to move out really fast. Only 2 days after she told me about the guy walking around in his underwear did we move her out.
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reader, raiders +, writes (16 June 2010):
 You did the right thing and did not overreacted. The landlord was the one wrong here. He can't sue you because he broke his agreement by renting a spare bed room to the naked man without your wife approval. He is renting a bachelor pad not a hostel.
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (16 June 2010):
 A good plan though, I must say. You bring a buddy in an already rented section to walk around naked and hope the initial renter leaves and doesn't take proceedings against you. Then you can rent to another.
Good idea for a business.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 June 2010):
He's broken the law. You didn't over react, and if I were you I'd drag him to court.
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reader, bitterblue +, writes (16 June 2010):
You did not overreact. A wicked man this is - you paid for three rooms and for no reason is it acceptable to share two of them with someone else, especially a man who walks around naked. Without your consent sharing YOUR rented patch of land with a stranger suffices to break the agreement and move out, claiming prejudices more by token.The lawyer seems to me told you a pretty obvious thing, very well that you sought legal advice, now you know what grounds you have. That man might as well be a pervert and you did the absolute correct thing to take your wife out of there asap. Call it misfortune and hope to regain your money as you were advised. A question of luck perhaps, some things you can rule out, being careful and just using your judgement but sometimes you just get caught in the toils, I assume the house looked neat and the landlord seemed decent enough, but the odds are on your side. Hopefully you will find a duly alternative for a room in the meantime.
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