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writes: Im confused about this lads feelings towards me and what he REALLY wants from me. Well, we've been friends for about 2 years now and Ill admit, for most of this time, Ive fancied him. We get on really, really well. He texts me all the time and tells me how much he likes me. He says that I make him happy, make him laugh, when hes not around me he misses me and he says he thinks Im gorgeous. About 6 months ago, though, he started being sexually suggestive towards me - asking me to give him a BJ and suggesting we meet up (..you can guess the rest). Ive said no every single time because Im only 15, he is almost 18 and he's not a virgin, I am. I asked him loads of times why he'd want to sleep with me and things (I also reminded him it would be breaking the law) and he says its because he thinks Im perfect in every way. There are times when he tells me these things and I believe him and I actually seriously consider going for it, but then times when he's not texting me or we're not talking, I realise how stupid I am to believe him and how never to believe him again, but its hard. Basically sometimes, I don't wnat to believe him but I force myself to because he swears his feeling are true that much. But I am respectable and have been brought-up with self-respect and not to let any lad use me. I want to wait until I'm 16, etc. So, my question is and this is going to sound a lil naive but, believe me - Im not, - could he actually be serious about wanting to do it because he finds me "perfect" or is he just trying to use me? Should I just stay away from him?
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Oh he is just trying to get into your pants. Hes willing to break the law and keeps asking you even though you said no says what kinda person he is.
Your correct for saying no! and keep saying it your better off without a ahole like him
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): Anon female here again. Just wanted to say what a lovely, mature, WISE young lady you seem to be. Keep on living life as you are and sticking to your principles and I think you'll do very well for yourself in life. Hold your head high - you've a lot to be proud of yourself for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey kastheshizz && the anonymous one :)
Thanks for your answers!!
I know he's not worth it, I know Ill end up regretting it all and I know that my first time is meant to be with someone special & who I love - not just someone who I LIKE & Im friends with.
I'm just going to keep saying "No" and if he carries on then Ill just end the friendship and stop contact!
Thanks again for the answers!!
x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHeya LaydeeOfSorrows...thanks for answering :)
Your right, if I lost it to him I'd regret it sooner or later and thats one of the things thats stopped me from going ahead with it.
He doesn't ever really tell in persno that he likes me no, its usually over text. Yeah, he suggested meeting up about 5 time and each time he asking to meet for sex. He never comes straight out and says what he wants, he does it by sweet-talking for weeks, etc.
I hope i do find a guy who repsects me eventually lol :)
Thank you for the advice again
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): Just stay away from him, sweetie. You say he's not a virgin - well, what happened to the other girls he slept with? He's not with them anymore, is he? What makes you think you'll be any different? You won't: he'll take your virginity and that'll be the end of it. Besides, he's pressuring you to do something illegal (as you are underage) - if he really cared about you, why would he want you to break the law? That's not cool at all. He's bad news, I'm afraid.
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reader, kastheshizz  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 your doing the right thing keep saying NO.
hunny he is not worth it he could give you HIV and AIDS and you could die wait until you find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with it would be the best thing to do because he is pressuring you into somethhing you DONT want to do talk to him say can we slow down if you want to be with him do not have sex with him you will regret it.
hope i could help
xoxo(:
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reader, LaydeeOfSorrows  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 I would suggest running away from this guy.
It seems like he's just wanting you sex, instead of a relationship, and trying to sweet talk you.
Yes, wait until your legal, until you find real love.
If you lost it to this guy, I think you'll regret it, as he doesn't seem like a decent guy who respects you.
Sure, he might like you, but does he ever tell you in person?
Does he ever suggest meeting up, to get to know each other more, instead of just being sexual?
I'm sure if you keep looking, you'll find a guy who respects, understands and loves you.
Good luck!
xx
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