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writes:What I do not understand is this guy and I had a relationship for over 10 year. I officially ended the relationship last year. We still try to communicate, with one another. But it only leaves me frustrated, because he couldn't communicate then and definitely can't now.He always tries to tell me how I feel instead of letting me explain my own feelings. I must say all the years we tried to communicate it just would not work. He has double standards and nearly always want to make me wrong. Does not want me to speak of the things he said and did to hurt me in the past. Therefore, the relationship we had just continued to compile issue on top of issue with no resolution. Because he never wanted to admit being wrong. And to add fuel to the fire, he had a bad habit of telling me how I felt instead of listening to what I had to say about my own feelings. He would tell me I need to take my feeling and put them in my dam back pocket.After all those years I realized to me he was verbally abusive and was not the person for me. And now that he has gotten 10 years older he want to have the kind of relationship with me that I thought we would of had some 10 years ago. What could his problem be? By the way he is totally unromantic and only thinks about his self. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (9 April 2009):
He's getting old, he's found that other women don't stay around when he treats them badly... so he's come back to you, his faithful doormat to see if you fancy wasting another 10 years on him.
He knows you are weak because you put up with him for a decade so he thinks he has a chance.
Tell him he can shove it up his arse.
Good Luck!! xx
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