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17 July 2008: After reading an abnormal amount of questions along the lines of "He looked at me, does that mean he likes me?!", I got to thinking about how much easier life could be if there was some sort of way we could communicate emotions without confusion. ...
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My period's been on for 3 weeks and the doctor finds nothing wrong!What's happening to me?
Q. Is what I have the opposite of amenorrhea(absence of menstruation)?My period started last year in June and has never been irregular until May 23rd.That was 18 days after my last period.My mom saw nothing wrong. I told my mom on the 5th that my p...
A. 17 June 2008: Two weeks? Aw, that's got to suck.
Because you are only young, it is very likely that your periods will be irregular. Some girls, like you, will have unusually long periods, and others will only get them once every three or four months, like I d... (read in full...)
He has a gf but I got attached to him when he came on to me when drunk
Q. I had a good friend from a class. He has a girlfriend and I never ever thought of dating him or even liking him in that way. We were only friends. Then one night he was supposedly, very drunk, and he started texting me saying how he wanted to have ...
A. 17 June 2008: Forget it. You said it yourself, you only liked the attention. And he did the right thing by breaking it off - it /was/ unfair to his girlfriend. Don't be the other woman - it'll never work out in your favour.
I do understand how easy it is to beco... (read in full...)
Is there any way you can tell your boyfriend loves you?
Q. Is there any way you can tell your boyfriend loves you? I know i love my boyfriend and im pretty sure he loves me but is there any way you can tell for sure so im not just assuming it. thxx for any opinions!!!...
A. 17 June 2008: You mean besides being a mind reader?
There's no 'love detector' test like they have on the mobile phones that can automatically tell you whether he really loves you and how much - it should show through his words and actions. Have trust in your... (read in full...)
I'm not ready for sex but should I have let him do it between my boobs?
Q. I'm still a virgin but my bf really wants to have sex with me. I'm not ready but I do love him so last night I let him talk me into having sex between my boobs (boy is that messy). Will a guy be happy with something like that or is he just going to ...
A. 17 June 2008: Don't ever do anything you aren't comfortable with.
If you were comfortable with letting your boyfriend have sex between your boobs, then fine, but don't ever let him talk you into doing something that you don't want to. And even if you've done it b... (read in full...)
He has been violent to me will he change?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend over a year now, and we just had a child together a month ago. He the nicest guy I have ever met and treats me better than anyone I know. He is a very easy to get along with, my friends like him, and my family loves ...
A. 16 June 2008: The man who treats you 'better than anyone you know' has tried to choke you? You must not have met many decent blokes.
There's no 'only three times' when it comes to violence. NO amount of violence is EVER acceptable, and odds are, he won't ch... (read in full...)
How do I make it up to may bf after he got mad at me?
Q. How do I make it up to my boyfriend after he got mad at me?...
A. 16 June 2008: I'd say in most cases, the best thing you can do is apologize to him (face to face). As well as that, perhaps make him a card or get him a small gift attached to a note saying sorry.
But it really depends on why he is mad at you - more details ... (read in full...)
Too many fights broke us up!...
Q. i have a problem k well my girlfreind broke up with me beacuse i have gotten in too many fights but i get in these fights to defend her please help fast thanks...
A. 16 June 2008: How exactly are you 'defending' your girlfriend by getting into fights? Are these people actually, physically threatening her, or is it name calling, or the like? What I'm getting at here is, does she really NEED defending?
Don't go assuming your... (read in full...)
Two BF's but I can only date one... right?
Q. Hi everyone! uh okay, i'll get right to it. So i have this boyfriend, and i thought we loved each other. Sounds great, right? But theres a a problem... i recently started working and of course i met new friends and stuff, and im told that ...
A. 16 June 2008: It's natural to be attracted to other people when you are in a relationship - the difference is whether you choose to act on these feelings or not.
If you love your boyfriend and want to remain faithful to him, your best bet is to avoid this oth... (read in full...)
I need some nickname suggestions -- please help?
Q. hi i need some advice i like this girl shes not my gf but wat nicknames could i call her and not sond 2 full on lol please help me find some nicknames to cal her we are in our teens help thanks ...
A. 16 June 2008: Not too full on you say - I'm assuming that's names like babe, sweetie, gorgeous, and so on.
Find a name that's non-offensive and non-sexual - perhaps base it on something she likes. For example, if she likes cats, call her 'Kitty', or if she like... (read in full...)
How should I ask her out?
Q. hello i need some advice, i like this girl and would like 2 ask her out the the movies but the only thing is i have not seen her in a long time and also i dont know how to ask her ??? should i take some friends or just me and her as i don...
A. 16 June 2008: Perhaps your best bet would be to get to know her a little better first - ask her for her email or her phone number, talk to her a while.
Dating at your age is quite daunting. A technique that always worked for me was the group date - you get some... (read in full...)
I get depressed about my "small" boobs...
Q. im 18 and just wondering if my boobs will grow anymore or if im gonna have to wait till i have kids or the next stage of my life? im a size. 12A sometimes 10A and i feel like i have the body of a 14 year old. i was a late developer didnt get my p...
A. 16 June 2008: Your boobs actually sound a lot like mine, and I do know how you feel - it's always a little bit of a blow walking into the lingerie shops.
If you really want to give them a boost, there's a few ways to go about it. Ever hear of 'chicken fill... (read in full...)
What's an overly clingy girlfriend?
Q. how do u define a clingy gf? i was simply telling my bf how much he meant to me and saying things like your the only person that will ever mean anything to me, ur the last thing i think of when i go to sleep and who i think of when i wake up and he...
A. 16 June 2008: It really depends on how long you've been dating, and how often you tell him these things. Telling a person that kind of thing /every single day/ is a little creepy - it can put pressure on your partner to live up to all your expectations, and it ... (read in full...)
How will I know whether she's interested in me?
Q. How do you know whether a girl is interested in a guy or not?...
A. 13 June 2008: It depends on the girl. Everyone gives off different signals, and they can mean different things.
Can you give us any details or is this just a general question?... (read in full...)
How do I approach a guy when we're both too proud?
Q. Any suggestions on how to approach a guy that I want to have wild and passionate sex with? He and I are at a standstill because we're both too proud to approach the other. Looks like I'll have to be the one to make the first move. Should I be ...
A. 13 June 2008: Nothing like the old 'you ask first' standoff.
Go ahead and make the first move - you'll soon find out if he's keen or not, and the longer you wait to ask, the more likely it is that he /will/ get sick of waiting.
Hell, why not go do it now!... (read in full...)
How do I shake this grabby guy?
Q. umm so this guy asked me out and i sad no right so then he texts me and says ok but can we kiss a few times at this b-day party and i didnt say anything all i knew is that i did not like him and i knew that he was a creep so at the b-day party ...
A. 13 June 2008: That sounds horrible, I'm sorry they were so cruel to you.
What he did /was/ wrong - he should have respected your right to say no to him, and should not have forced you to do anything. He certainly does sound like a creep.
Tell you moth... (read in full...)
What do you do when your BF's a flirt?
Q. so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a week now. we fight a lot over little things but it always ends up alright and we kiss and make up :) but there's reasons to these little fights.. he seems to be a bit of a flirt and i don't like ...
A. 13 June 2008: If you have told him that his flirting upsets you and he continues to do it, he obviously has no respect for you. Your best bet would be to move on.
Better to end it after a week than a year, eh?
(As a side note, what you feel /is/ jealousy - j... (read in full...)
Can an 18 y.o. get in trouble for getting a 15 y.o. pregnant?
Q. can an 18 year old only get in trouble for getting a 15 year old pregnant if somone reports him? ...
A. 13 June 2008: It depends on the age of consent where you are.
If she is legally underage, then yes.... (read in full...)
Any advice on what we can chat about?
Q. Well I've been talking to this guy since the middle of March and we talk everyday..however lately there has been a lot of silence on the phone its like me and him don't know what to talk about anymore.I was wondering if people could suggest things ...
A. 13 June 2008: Ah, nothing like the awkward silence.
I've always found a good technique is to ask really odd questions - I call it the Obscure Question game. For example, if they were a sandwich, what kind would they be? If they had to lose all of their sens... (read in full...)
My best friend stole my girlfriend!
Q. Hey my best friend Nathan stole my girlfriend just today on the bus. What do I do to get my girlfriend back? p.s please help me. Scott....
A. 13 June 2008: He doesn't sound like a very nice friend.
But I agree with Smiles - forget this girl and find someone who'll be more loyal to you.
Good luck. =)... (read in full...)
I don't want my 2 regular girlfriends to find out about my girls on the side, but 2 of them are now pregnant!
Q. I'm in need of some serious help. I have been in a long-term relationship with a wonderful girl for the past five years and with another equally beautiful girl for two. The first girl I met through friends, the second in a strip club. I know som...
A. 13 June 2008: I'd suggest you stick to one woman in the future.
Infidelity with /one/ person will put a strain on a relationship, let alone /four/.... (read in full...)
He makes no effort to call me, is he cheating on me?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my bf for about 3 months now. We spend day and night together for the past 2 months and a month ago he ended up moving away for a different school that he got into, and the deal was that after this summer session ...
A. 12 June 2008: He's probably not cheating on you. It's as Jen86 said - a lot of guys just don't like calling. Hell, I'm a lass and I don't call people either. I just can't be bothered, or it doesn't occur to me. Your lad could well be the same - it's a lot more ... (read in full...)
Could you get pregnant through having sex during a period?
Q. i had my period on the 14th of may n i had sex on the 19th of may i thought i ened but i was still spotting i finally ened completely on the 2th..can i still get pregnant...
A. 12 June 2008: Yes.
Despite what you may have heard, it /is/ possible to get pregnant during your period.
Take a pregnancy test, or see your GP, just in case.... (read in full...)
Why if hes married why does he consider me as his girlfriend?
Q. ok i have a problum im 18 n im seeing a guy thats 32.. i consider him a booty call but he told me he considers me as his girlfriend i am trying to stop feelings for him but when he told me that i gave in..well the problum i have is that hes ...
A. 12 June 2008: The word 'girlfriend' can be a confusing one - it can mean a person you are comitted to, or a person you are having sex with. In your case, it's probably the latter. I think the word 'mistress' would be more appropriate in this case.
This ... (read in full...)
What is the difference between having sex and making love?
Q. i was just wondering whats the difference betwwen making love and having sex..how can u tell???...
A. 12 June 2008: In the most technical sense, they are the same thing.
However, they have different connotations. For me, making love is sex with someone you truly care for and have an emotional connection with.
Sex, on the other hand, is the raw act itself -... (read in full...)
I've been seeing a man who has a long distance girlfriend!
Q. What do I do? This man I have been seeing for about 2 weeks has a girlfriend, but she has lived out of the country for about a year. This man is also good friends with my ex boyfriend. That is how I met him. I broke up with my ex boyfriend about ...
A. 12 June 2008: Leave him be until he breaks it off with his girlfriend.
Don't be the other woman.
Keep in mind that if he's willing to cheat on her he could well be just as willing to cheat on you.... (read in full...)
What does this mean? What was this guy really telling me? Mixed signals here!
Q. so i am at the fair and one of the guys in a band was i think checking me out because he was playing the trumpet in front of my friend and i. so he turns around, starts playing the trumpet right at me, gives me a head nod and "the look". you think ...
A. 12 June 2008: He gave you a fake number - Sorry love, but I'd say that's a fairly good indicator that he's not interested. And giving a fake number /is/ a pretty rotten thing to do, your friend was right about that one.
Just because he was playing the trum... (read in full...)
Confused love, he's officially with someone else but he cheats on her with me! I want him back!
Q. This guy and I dated for quite sometime, on and off. We would always fight about unreasonable things and we'd pretty much aim for any easy target to argue about, this led to alot of break ups. Despite that, I feel like he is my first love and ever...
A. 12 June 2008: If you're broken up, be broken up. This means no sex, /especially/ since he's with someone else now.
Just because he is your 'first love' doesn't mean he's good for you. Certainly, you'll always hold a soft spot for him, but that doesn't mean you... (read in full...)
Will he come to a party if he knows the girl he stares at is going too?
Q. Simple question: would a boy come to a party if he knew that a girl he stares at went too?...
A. 12 June 2008: I guess that would depend on why he stares at her.... (read in full...)
He only ever goes down on me every blue moon, and I don't think he enjoys it!
Q. hey all, have been with my bf for a while over 2 years and in the start i was very shy and things were very slow but now we are completely intimate with each other. the issue is that he only ever goes down on me every blue moon, but when he does now ...
A. 12 June 2008: Everyone is different when it comes to preferences in the bedroom - it could be that your boyfriend just isn't keen on doing it.
Have you tried to encourage him? Does he know you're not getting it as often as you'd like? When you're getting inti... (read in full...)
How do I let him know that I'm ready to try to get pregnant again?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have resenly experince a miscarriage, and im wanting to try again but dont know if he is wanting to try again or to wait. How would iapprotch him about it. The problam is that he dosent like to talk about things he never gives ...
A. 12 June 2008: Seems like your best bet is to ask him directly. Don't let him wiggle out of it.
Sit him down, tell him that you want to try again. Ask him what he thinks, and tell him you want a straight answer - none of this "um, er, I don't know". Does he feel... (read in full...)
Can going on the pill control periods?
Q. I maybe sound dumb by saying this, But can the pill control periods ? Mine seem to be rather heavy and i am very self contious about them :( .x...
A. 12 June 2008: Depending on which one you use, yes, it can.
I started on the pill a few months back and my periods have been like clockwork - seriously, I can almost time it down to the hour. They are also significantly lighter, and about two days shorter.
Talk ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with my boobs?
Q. i got a question about my boobs. every picture ive seen and stuff seem to make it as they're suppose to be like circles. but mine aren't... they're more like cone-ish. like its like a triangle they're not really round.. and also they seem to not be ...
A. 12 June 2008: Your boobs sound like mine, heh.
There is nothing wrong with them. All boobs are different - different sizes, different shapes, for different people.
Most natural boobs are't perfectly round and perky - they only become so through surgery and Phot... (read in full...)
I used to be madly in love with him but now I realise we have differences and find that sometimes what he does annoys me and frustrates me, why?
Q. ok ive been thinking about this for ages and i have on days and off days..about equal amount of time each. ive been with my b4 for just under 2 years and i do love him soo much. But sometimes i feel that we dont completely suit each other, like...
A. 11 June 2008: I wouldn't fret about it.
You've been with this guy for two years, so the first thrills will be starting to wear away. The rose coloured glasses come off after a while, and you realize that your partner isn't the perfect studly love god you thou... (read in full...)
I'm scared he's going to be cheating on me again...
Q. ok so I was goin out with this guy we will call him chris and he start persueing this girl and I found out and I dumped him.But my feelings never went away for him. So now we are goin back out and I'm scared he's cheating on me again. What do I do? ...
A. 11 June 2008: If you went back to this guy after he cheated on you, you are only setting yourself up to be cheated on again. Fool me once, so the saying goes.
You will still have feelings for this lad after you dump him - emotions aren't like a switch that you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to live alone for the rest of my life and be happy?
Q. Hello, I broke up with my first boyfriend yesterday, and now I never wanna fall in love again. He was my first love. But he hurt me because he was so judgemental of my past. I posted earlier about how he thinks I'm a slut. For the record, I was a ...
A. 11 June 2008: Realize that not all men are the same. That are not /all/ going to judge you on your past, and not /all/ men are horny cheating bastards.
It hurts to lose a first love, and it may hurt for a while. All you can do is take it one day at a time. Real... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to have a crush on someone when I have a boyfriend?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we've been together for 3 years; I love him more than I've ever loved anyone. But there's a guy who I've been friends with for just over 3 years who I had a crush on before I met my current boyfriend. We hung out for a couple ...
A. 11 June 2008: It's not wrong - it's normal to be attracted to other people whilst in a relationship.
The thing that defines whether a crush is right or wrong is your actions. If you feel like you could act on this crush, then perhaps you should cut down on ... (read in full...)
How do I get them to break up?
Q. I broke up with my ex 10 years ago. he said he felt that we're better of "just friends". we stayed friends, emailed each other, chat sometimes or hang out when he's in town. i never got over him, and even though we're friends, i always knew he'd ...
A. 11 June 2008: You broke up with this lad ten years ago and you're still hung up about it? Don't kid yourself. If it's been ten years and he hasn't swept you off your feet the way you seem to be fantasizing about, then it isn't going to happen.
Move on. Realize ... (read in full...)
I am very young and want to have sex with my boyfriend but I hear is nasty and painful the first time... what to do?
Q. i am young and i want to have sex with my boyfriends because i want to and he really wants to. Only i hear it is really painful and nasty the first time. I really need helpon what to do...
A. 11 June 2008: I'd advise you to wait awhile. Because you are so young, your body may not be ready for sex, and you yourself may not be emotionally or mentally mature enough.
Keep in mind that boyfriends come and go, but you only lose your virginity once.... (read in full...)
So much guy drama... I need help!
Q. hey, im a girl who needs some answers asap!! (okay 3 guys named zach, sean, and justin all ex's) k justin who was my last bf broke up cuz he cheated on me but i still love him so im gettin over that but my other ex zach wants 2 go back out and says...
A. 11 June 2008: Seems to me like the best thing you can do is let Zach down gently. Let him know that you care for him and that you like being friends with him, but that you aren't interested in a romantic relationship. Don't jerk him arund with hints or games - ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of me ending up pregnant?
Q. Ok so I have a question for everyone. Let me give you guys some details first... My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex a couple days ago (I know its a little irresponsible or maybe a lot). now for months now we've used condomns because I'm not ...
A. 11 June 2008: It depends on a few things.
If he /did/ come inside of you, statistically, there is about an 8 in 100 chance of you becoming pregnant.
If he pulled out, you have less of a chance of becoming pregnant, but there is still a chance, as the pre-cum ... (read in full...)
My ex says he will marry me now but only if I let him have anal sex!
Q. my ex bf wants me back now that I have a new bf, he is a good guy and while we lived together I had everything, except marriage and kids, he wants to give that now, but wants me to have anal sex with him, he says if I do not do it he won`t be able ...
A. 10 June 2008: A condition like that doesn't bode well for a relationship. It seems like an indicator of a man who will want to control you.
Your ex should not be putting conditions on you if he wants to marry you - a man who truly loves you will marry you rega... (read in full...)
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