I'm 13 and want to have a baby and have even saved up the money for it!
Q. helloo please could you help me! i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it. i have told my boyfriend and he agrees with me 100% he wants a baby and he has s...
A. 2 April 2010: Uh, think for a few seconds about the child and the FACT that there is NO WAY you're ready for this and you'll screw up the rest of your life. Saving a few dollars isn't what's required. An education, maturity and stable home IS...... (read in full...)
I have a sexless marriage and I am in love with my work colleague, how do I cope?
Q. [Moderator's Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged into one] Question 1 I love him so dearly but can never be with him, how do I cope? My work colleague of 12 years, has become my best friend...over the last 2 years we became e...
A. 2 April 2010: Get out of your marriage BEFORE you start anything new. It's ugly in a workplace where two people are sneaking around. Our office has been suffering from this for 2 years. Both people are now divorced, but the guy (the LAST guy you'd suspect of ... (read in full...)
Someone get my name off this mortgage!
Q. how can i get my ex to give me financial settlement for our house. she wont sell it, ignores all solicitors letters, when i met her 5 years ago i had 30k and we used it to do the house up and had a couple of ...
A. 1 April 2010: well kiss you time and effort good bye, no value there... not sure about the UK, but in the US you would have settled on the house as part of the divorce. Here you would be entitled to half of the equity in the home- not based on how much you put ... (read in full...)
In love with a murderer...
Q. *OP's own title* I consider myself to be a great catch. Cute, educated, fun, kind, caring, etc. I have not had luck finding a lasting relationship, and about two years ago, I went on a website where prisoners post ads for pen-pals. I wrote to a few ...
A. 1 April 2010: You're NUTS... get away from prisoners. They are artists at learning how to use women. If you want to have proof, log in as a different person and see if he'll take fresh bait when he thinks you're another foolish woman. I bet he hits the ... (read in full...)
He didn't rape me - but it sort of feels that way to me.
Q. ok here's what happened. I was making out with my guy friend who really likes me I like him too but he is kinda a ladys man so I don't want to be in a relationship with him cause I think it would just end bad I told him i'd rather just be friends ...
A. 1 April 2010: Guys a creep, avoid him. He's likely to do this to others as well.... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. i want to know if im still a virgin or not i had some sort of sex today lol his penis didnt go fully into my vagina, it just slide on my vagina, n mayb a tiny bit went inside, and that lasted like 2 minutes lol i still think im a virgin but i ...
A. 1 April 2010: Penis in, virginity out... ... (read in full...)
I feel like I married a pimp!
Q. Before my husband and i were married we were out one evening drinking and i picked up a woman mostly to please my husband. We ended going back to her hotel and even as drunk as I was I was very uncomfortable when I saw him touching her and I ran ...
A. 1 April 2010: Get out- he's too controlling. If you were into it, it would be fine, but he's putting his sexual fantasy ahead of your happiness- that's just WRONG.... (read in full...)
He never invites me out, and then expects me to pick him up drunk at 6 am!
Q. Why does my husband do this?? He goes out with the guys about once a month. Most of them are the guys he works with. He never invites me and I know that there are other women there because when he calls me I can hear the laughing in the backgrou...
A. 1 April 2010: The reason he does it, is because you KEEP AGREEING to pick him up. You've trained him how to treat you.
I agree, you're not the 6am taxi... He's an adult (even if he doesn't act like it)- next time, he's on his own.
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I don't want to stay with him if he doesn't want a child in the future, what do you think?
Q. Well ive been dating my boyfrend for two months and he has a three year old daughter..and the relationship with his baby's mamma sucks, the bitch hardly lets him see her..and im 23 with no kids..and i dont really remember how we got on the topic of ...
A. 26 March 2010: You need to break it off so that each of you can find a partner who shares this core value. This one's simply too big to compromise. Women who want kids, who stay with guys who don't either end up miserable or pregnant, at which point he feels ... (read in full...)
I'm seriously considering ending it with this mama's boy
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend (not for the 1st time really, but the breakups have only ever lasted 2 days at the most) and I'm so ridiculously confused. Here goes: we've been together for 4 and a half years. Since I was 15, and he 18. I me...
A. 25 March 2010: There's NO WAY he's worth all this... move on.... (read in full...)
He's tight with his money! Am I being petty here?
Q. Iv been seeing my fella for nearly 8 months now and he says he loves me, he works as a banker yet i feel he's a bit tight with his money.When i needed a new mobile phone i didn't ask him to buy me one but he did....it was off ebay and second hand.He ...
A. 25 March 2010: Petty... he gave you a gift, and it's not good enough for you. Why did you need a new phone? Maybe he thought that since something happened to your old one that buying you a new one (only to have it suffer the same fate as the old one) was a waste ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex but I still pleasure him orally and he wants more help!!!
Q. I'm a 26 year old healthy woman who has absolutely no interest in sex or any type of physical intimacy. When I first met my bf, I would have sex with him to make him happy but it did nothing for me (we've been together for 9 months). Now I've tol...
A. 25 March 2010: He has a right to a healthy sex life, and you're not meeting all his needs, and not even making an effort to do so. Of course he's frustrated. A blow job a day is not substitute for what you're denying him. ... (read in full...)
10 months and he still wont invite me to his home. Am I just a booty call?
Q. I have dated this guy for about 10 months. He says he's divorced and his kids and ex live in another country. Yet he is always going to visit or they visit. Am not bothered by him visiting his kid but he stays in the house which she got in the ...
A. 24 March 2010: Sounds like he's got an agenda and your time's not quite up yet. There's a huge difference between having you over and having you spend the night. I can understand not allowing you to sleep over when the kids are there, but otherwise something is ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant by donor insemination, but the kids I teach are saying I got drunk and knocked up!
Q. Alright, so im an 8th grade teacher and im 27 years old. I haven't been in a relationship in about 5 years ago, and everyone seems to be taken. My students seem to all know this information about me and they are talking. When I was talking with one ...
A. 24 March 2010: Uh, before you go off and explain your medical procedure, you might want to visit with the administration. If you thought that as a single woman, 8th grade kids wouldn't speculate on your pregnancy I think you may be been naive. Kids speculate on ... (read in full...)
I found out my dad cheated on my mom in the past!!!
Q. My dad travels internationally for business and I think it would be safe to say he's been gone for probably about half of my life on business trips. He usually goes on trips no longer than a month, but he has been in Chile for 3 months and went ...
A. 24 March 2010: Wow, you have too many expectations, bad and good... you need to get all these issues under control, or be prepared to be miserable for the next 50 to 60 years. Guys cheat on women who are not there emotionally for them. Being separated for long ... (read in full...)
Do people find love when they least expect it or is that just rubbish?
Q. Do people find love when they least expect it? How does that work? And DOES it work? I'd really love know this!!...
A. 24 March 2010: pretty much... wanting it too hard can cause it to not happen as people sense the desperation. ... (read in full...)
I feel I need porn but I feel guilty about watching it.
Q. I'm a straight girl and I like porn. My boyfriend does not. He never looks at porn but he said it's okay if I do. But I kind of feel like I need porn and I also feel guilty about it. I mean I really like my boyfriend and I'm definately turned on by ...
A. 24 March 2010: Lighten up and enjoy! That's why it's there (that and to get you to spend lots of $$$- but stick to the free stuff!).
Learn to enjoy it, if he can participate in it add that to the menu you two enjoy. Rent a DVD, get a blanket & light the fire... (read in full...)
Threesome with husband & best friend gone wrong... I think??
Q. Hello, My husband and I had a threesome with my best friend the other evening. I wasn't exactly into it and I told him but he kept insisting and finally when we were all watching tv he made the move. I wasn't exactly expecting him too but I thought ...
A. 24 March 2010: Wow, janniepeg, great advice, I have zero to add.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend claims to love me yet he is planning on cheating. I need some advice.
Q. My boyfriend of almost 3 years claims i mean the world to him. But a couple days ago i saw texts in his phone to another female and they were making plans to get together romanticly......my hearts crushed and my trust has gone out the window. And on ...
A. 24 March 2010: "were" expecting? I'd monitor his behavior, bust him in the act (on film) and dump him... but share his behavior with the world. His Mom will be proud. If that's too complicated dump him and sue for child support. Oh, and next time, d... (read in full...)
Will I ever shake the feeling that I need to go out and sleep with someone too?
Q. My boyfriend and I had some rough patches and we broke up for about 2 months because he was "confused" and would rather party and drink with his friends then have a girlfriend. He was not just a casual drinker, he was an alcoholic and it bothered ...
A. 24 March 2010: You need to get over this, or break up with him now. If you can't create a loving, warm and honest environment for your relationship to grow, kill it. Also, if he stopped drinking "for you" you have a serious future problem coming, as alcoholics ... (read in full...)
Why are my staff trying to sabbotage me at work?
Q. [Moderators Note - OP's own title] I am a manager in education. Recently all the students have been complaining about my style in dealing with them and so have some of the staff. Apparently I am like a dictator. I am one of the most thoughtf...
A. 24 March 2010: Find a co-worker you respect, and have them give you a no-holes-bared assessment of your work style and how you come across.
I work with one lady, very expert in her field, highly educated, but virtually impossible to work with due to her inse... (read in full...)
If the first topic on the first date is polygamy, what would you think?
Q. hello, I have a question, if a man asks you out on date and the first topic he talks about is polygamy. what would you think!...
A. 24 March 2010: I'd at least think (a) he lacks certain sophistication, and doesn't have a clue what to talk about on the first date; (b) he's not into you and willing to carry on a bizarre conversation to kill the rest of the night or (c) he's really into plural ... (read in full...)
She wont answer my calls, is she still angry with me?
Q. i have got married to the girl of my dreams and lost her 1.5 months after wedding, the reason was our repeated arguments and i was tough enough with her although i love her more than myself. she left three weeks ago, she is not answering my calls, ...
A. 23 March 2010: "would it mean that she is still angry and doesn't want to reply or she is no more interested in the relationship"
Both... cut your losses, move on and don't make the mistake a second time. Learn from your errors, grow and go on...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend injured my brother playing soccer
Q. My brother and boyfriend play football (soccer) for different teams but they were playing each other. My boyfriend tackled my brother and my brother was in agony on the floor. He had to be taken to hospital and his ankle is broken. My boyfriend says ...
A. 23 March 2010: Your brother needs to man up and apologize and stop accusing you're BF from taking a cheap hit on him. Seriously, is your BF the kind of guy that would injure someone close to you?
They need to make up, your brother needs to heal, your folks ne... (read in full...)
Is society right in thinking masturbation in mainly a male activity?
Q. Heyy everyone, this is just a general wondering, mainly to our female readers... How often do you masturbate in a week? I was talking to my boyfriend the other night, and I said on top of the sex we have, I probably masturbate about 5 times a week.....
A. 23 March 2010: He's wrong... women are as sexually active as men, they just repress talking about it, or when they do some will under report reality. Some guys (not many) seldom if ever do it, same for some women.... and there is no "average". He should be happy ... (read in full...)
My sisters impending divorce is hurting me emotionally.
Q. I'm an empathic person. I tend to be very sensitive to the emotions of those around me. This can be energizing or draining depending on the circumstances. It translates (perhaps because of a surge of hormones) as a sensation in my chest that ...
A. 23 March 2010: Dude, I don't know how to tell you this, but this is very unhealthy. You really need to work on this and get out of this pattern. It's likely to lead to some messed up relationships down the road.... (read in full...)
How can I get out of the friend zone, and get her to like me?
Q. i met this girl at a street dance in my town. and i found out we went to the same school. we started hanging out about a week later. its been almost a year now and we hang out almost every day. she is now my best friend. and she says im her best ...
A. 23 March 2010: It's hard... but if she's not feeling it, you need to move on and not apply pressure when she's TOLD you that she doesn't see you as BF material. In the future, you need to decide with in a few days is a girl is GF material or not, and if so do NOT ... (read in full...)
She said my penis was "kinda thin". What is normal and what can I do?
Q. I was with this girl and she told me that my penis' erect length (4.7 inches) was just fine, but that it was "kinda thin"... My penis is about 4 inches in girth and 1.5 inches wide when fully erect. I read somewhere the average was 6 inches in ...
A. 22 March 2010: Young women can do a lot of damage, and seldom know much about the topic. Sounds like you got some great advice here, don't let this one girl hurt your self image. Our egos are fragile and she's done you very wrong, most likely she was being mean. ... (read in full...)
How can I make a guy like me?
Q. im 15, and i like this guy who is 19 :L He works at tesco part-time i see him like 3 times a week :) He gave me his number and we text every night :D, but he goes out alot. He has a friend (female) and they do absolutely EVERYTHING together, ...
A. 22 March 2010: your 15, he's 19... he could get into A LOT of trouble dating you. He's an adult, you're not. In may places that rape, and you have no legal say in the situation... as you're a child. You need to let this go, and find someone your own age. He ... (read in full...)
I think my brother has been raped, what should I do?
Q. My brother has been acting really strange for the last week, he's hardly been eating and seemed shy and distant. His girlfriend even rang me to see if something was wrong that he didn't want to tell her. We share a house and I needed to look ...
A. 22 March 2010: Reach out to him and let him know that you've noticed that something is seriously bothering him. Don't ASK, tell him this as a fact. It will make it harder for him to deny, and hopefully get him to open up to you. Tell him that you're seeing ... (read in full...)
I was drunk and don't know what I did...help!
Q. im 15 and i was at a party and i sort of took a 21 year old boy back to my house and got into him :/ and let him stay till the morning but my friend was thier to and i was really drunk and i dont remeber anyhting! so i dont know what i havve do...
A. 22 March 2010: If you're drinking to the point of blackout at 15 you may be someone who's body simply can not deal with alcohol. You may be predisposed to alcoholism, and you need to be very careful. Some people simply can not safely consume alcohol. If you ... (read in full...)
How do you react when you cause your girlfriend to cry?
Q. from a guys perpective how do u react when your girlfriend cries because of something you did to her? ...
A. 22 March 2010: I don't know, I've never done anything to a woman to make them cry... more times than not they are crying because they are frustrated or sad. What are you DOING to her? ... (read in full...)
If the porn is better than me should I go ahead and leave?
Q. so.. my boyfriend and i have been together for two years, we have a son and everything is great besides the fact that he isn't attracted to me sexually. he didn't tell me this i found it on his computer. so now that i found that i find myself ...
A. 20 March 2010: "The point is, talking about it made it better"
Best advice on the board this week... it always does!... (read in full...)
Thrown to the side for a younger woman...
Q. pls help, my husband came home from work one day and said he didnt love me anymore. after 18 years and 3 children. he always loved me right up until then. he walked out on us and now lives with his parents. he sold the family car and bought a much ...
A. 19 March 2010: Sounds like the guy is a total self-centers ass. Try to find some happiness that you're done with him, and get a divorce and as much money as you can from the bum. Odds are really good that at some point he'll come running back- slam the door in ... (read in full...)
What do men think about "scruffy" women?
Q. What do men think about "scruffy" women? Hi - I am a bit of a hippy chic who goes to a lot of gigs/festivals with other hippyish friends. I have never been particularly smart (eg glossy hair/perfect nails) and even if I wanted to I'm never good wit...
A. 19 March 2010: Scruffy women end up with scruffy men... think about it, is a polished, neat guy going to be able to introduce your to his freinds, his parents, his boss? It may work on TV (Darma and Greg), but in real life you're setting the tone for the guys who ... (read in full...)
Do all guys masterbate?
Q. This is just out of interest, but is it possible for a guy to reach 25plus without whacking off? ...
A. 15 March 2010: 99.99999% do... there's got to be the occasional religious fanatic or sex-less person out there...... (read in full...)
Can men with high sex drives remain faithful?
Q. Is it possible for an alpha male man with a super high testosterone amd charged up high sex drive to be in a committed loyal relationship for a long time? Or are they not capable of being faithful? ...
A. 15 March 2010: Yes, and there is ZERO relationship to a high sex drive and keeping it in your pants when the other person is not your partner.
Any man that uses this as an excuse needs to be more creative.... (read in full...)
Ready for marriage. Why is he holding back?
Q. Help Please. I've bee with my boyfriend for 11years now. We moved in together about 5 years ago. and been engaged for 6years. Now here's mt problem he won't set a date. He says we are soon. But then he says its just a piece a papper and that he ...
A. 15 March 2010: You've been with him 11 years... you answered your own question... WHY should he change whats worked great for over a decade?
Sounds like you missed your window... you may need to be prepared to find someone who you can wed a bit faster than 11 ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my friend about what happened between us?
Q. I have recently developed a close friendship with a guy. We have a lot of chemistry, but until now or relationship has remained platonic. We went out last night and drank a little too much. We ended up back at my place in a few very sensual ...
A. 14 March 2010: Do you want his as a BF or a one night stand? He told you he likes you and that he would have screwed you as a one-night stand... but he also told you that he likes you and doesn't RIGHT NOW want a relationship...
You need to understand what you... (read in full...)
How can I get my kids back?
Q. ok so i have kind of alot of question. i am going thru alot right now and i just want some advise if u know what i should do .. i was in a 5 year relationship and now i have 2 kids but the we were never married or living together althoug. since my...
A. 6 March 2010: Wow, this is what happens when you decide to have 2 kids with no solid relationship or marriage. You should have gotten two dogs- it would have been so much simpler. Buddy- you could be seriously screwed- she sounds at a minimum pissed off, at w... (read in full...)
How should I deal with paying the mortgage in my marriage?
Q. in a marriage should the man pay the mortgage? how do you feel about it is are hous we split the mortgage...
A. 6 March 2010: It sounds like you are two people sharing a house, not two people sharing a life. Why are you dividing bills? IMO, the best way to live, is to join together, combine your income and the bills, create a budget and TOGETHER pay the bills and monitor ... (read in full...)
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