My dad "touches" me but when I tell him no, he goes into a tantrum!
Q. Well I have had this problem since around age 12 I am 15 now. I do not like my dad touching me as he holds me like my bf on my hips want to hum him plevis to pelvis. He use to be worse by sometimes just opening the shower curtain on me and making ...
A. 30 April 2007: Hey there, tell me how you are? I am concerned and have wondered how you are? Please let me know if I can help in anyway? Please don't disappear, that isn't the answer.
Please let us help you. You can reply to me privately if needed. Take car... (read in full...)
When he doesn't get his way he is uncontrollable.
Q. Hello, I need some advice about toddlers. My son is two and a half years old, he is chatting well, understands and asks for things by name, and knows when he wants something he asks or gives the indication for it, and repeats words, problem i...
A. 26 April 2007: and yes he knows exactly what he is doing to push your buttons...he knows what sends you over the edge, how to get your attention...unfortunately he sees you smacking him as attention. This is the wrong kind of attention he is seeking and I am sure ... (read in full...)
I want a baby but im only 14 years old!
Q. Please help me! I want a baby but im only 14 years old! My boyfriend is 16 and we want to be parents already! I feel ready for some reason! What shall i do!!??? Please please help me....
A. 26 April 2007: I am going to give you some advice and not because of how old you are. My friend's parents had her at 14 and they went onto have another child together and eventually got married. My friend was so embarrassed by her parents all her life, even at ... (read in full...)
Am i depressed? I go to work, cook, clean, wash myself etc. So I don't feel depressed but he says i am
Q. Am I depressed? My partner invited me to meet him, halfway through a work trip abroad, where i spent a weekend with him, but he spent most the time with his work colleagues with me tagging along (that's how i felt) and he bullied a female colleag...
A. 26 April 2007: He is making your life miserable. You aren't a robot! You can't just switch on and off for his convenience and how convenient for him to give you a label for something he clearly doesn't understand. You aren't depressed, you are being bullied by ... (read in full...)
Are Good Looks Everything?
Q. Are Good Looks Everything? Hi There, I was just wondering do you think that good looks are everything because i personally dont.. but many of my friends say that 'oooo hes ugly' when its there personality that attracts me to a boy and not just the...
A. 26 April 2007: Definitely not, looks aren't everything. Who that person is, how they treat you, what they are to you is way more attractive than being the hottest looking guy...remember that this person probably knows he isn't Brad Pitt, he isn't the pretty boy, ... (read in full...)
Not sure if i could be pregnant!
Q. ok PLEASE please help ... not sure if i could be pregnant.. i had unprotected sex on the 13th of april... i was freaked, but had my period the following day and was delighted... only i had unprotected sex the day after... he didnt cum or anything...
A. 26 April 2007: You are sick with worry I am sure. The bleeding you had the first time after the unprotected sex was sometimes what you get after sex, it is penetrational bleeding. It was not your period if you were able to have sex the day after (presuming you ... (read in full...)
Will these stretch marks go away?
Q. I had a baby 11 days ago. I got bad stretch marks and my stomach sags now. Will these stretch marks go away? Does the loose skin ever go back to normal? If you're going to tell me to work out...suggest ways in which I should work out. Thanks....
A. 26 April 2007: Hi lots of vaseline so much so that your pyjamas or nightie sticks to you...rub it everywhere in the places that you are concerned about. You will be quite a bit swollen for sometime given you've just had your baby. I used to go to a mum and baby ... (read in full...)
The spots on my face get cut when I shave and leave marks, anyway to reduce this ?
Q. how do i get rid of spots on my face? sometimes i shave and my spots get cut. they bleed and few days later go back to normal skin with it is coloured browny red. and some of these marks have been there for over 2years. anyway of gettin rid of th...
A. 26 April 2007: Hi, you need to get this stuff called Proactiv. My brother had really bad skin. Huge blackheads, white redish spots. He doesn't shave yet. I bought him this stuff and he refused to use it. Then bingo he gets a girlfriend and he has started ... (read in full...)
My Mother blames me! Any advice on how do I deal with her when she does this unecesssarily?
Q. I think that being born as a child to my mother was painful for her and that i am guilty for the pain she had to bear. Atleast that is something she has been trying to justify to me. Any advice on how do i deal with her when she blames me ...
A. 26 April 2007: Has she actually said that having you was the most horrible experience of her life and that you are to blame for the pain, carrying you for 9 months etc? I can't answer this until I know for sure, or whether it is your interpretation or maybe she ... (read in full...)
My parents were rigid and controlling and I have low self-esteem! How do I cope?
Q. I have been brought up like an obedient servant by my parents who does everything they ask to, even if it's not something i want to do. They would pressurize me to do it if i denied and it is generally me who has to give up, for they are quite rigid ...
A. 26 April 2007: Hi, I had very strict parents growing up. They could be incredibly loving and then verbally abuse you. I am now 33 and my Mum is dead. I don't know what a good parent is, but I wasn't allowed to make mistakes, make decisions on my own and when I ... (read in full...)
I'm getting married in less than 4 weeks! I don't want to marry him yet I can't call it off! What should I do?
Q. I'm getting married in less than 4 weeks time and i feel sick about the whole thing. His parents are chuffed to bits. My son hates him and their family. I cannot get anyone to have my son for one night while we get to the venue, which is 50 miles ...
A. 19 April 2007: Listen, my brother lost his Mum at 13, actually the day before his 14th birthday. My Dad is bringing him up at 63 but has met another woman only 9 years older than me. I've had very frank conversations with my brother, he is happy if my Dad is ... (read in full...)
I heard that one can get pregnant without even having intercourse! What about grinding?
Q. I have heard from some that you can actully get pregnant, without even having intercourse, just by example: grinding at a party...is this truley true cause it is making me nervous around my bf now cause im not sure. Thanks...
A. 19 April 2007: This is absolute rubbish. Who told you that? Look at a Facts of Life book about what needs to happen when one conceives. I am sure it is on the Internet. I got pregnant 3 weeks after coming off the pill and yes it can happen once, that's all it ... (read in full...)
He wants to know about previous bf's but I am not saying anything! Am i wrong in trying to keep these things from him?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for seven months and we really love each other. am 19 and he's 23 but we wanna get married in the near future. my dilemma is that he asks me a lot of questions about my past and wants to know about every man i ...
A. 19 April 2007: I do agree with Chachacha, it depends on the line of questions. If they are sexual in nature then you don't have to divulge that to anyone! Asking if you've ever been serious with someone or you want to talk about a relationship gone sour are ... (read in full...)
He wants to know about previous bf's but I am not saying anything! Am i wrong in trying to keep these things from him?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for seven months and we really love each other. am 19 and he's 23 but we wanna get married in the near future. my dilemma is that he asks me a lot of questions about my past and wants to know about every man i ...
A. 18 April 2007: Hey how are you? How are you doing? What's been going in your head since all the advice?
We are mates, talk to us. PH... (read in full...)
I can't tell my family I have bulimia..would it be fair to tell my friend?
Q. hi, i think i may have bulimia, i cant tell my family about it but i think there may be one friend i can tell. is it fair of me to tell her or would that put her in an akward position, age 14...
A. 18 April 2007: Hey how are you? Thinking of you. Let me know what your thinking. I am thinking of you...don't let this take you. I'm here here, as are others. Talk to us.
PH x... (read in full...)
My dad "touches" me but when I tell him no, he goes into a tantrum!
Q. Well I have had this problem since around age 12 I am 15 now. I do not like my dad touching me as he holds me like my bf on my hips want to hum him plevis to pelvis. He use to be worse by sometimes just opening the shower curtain on me and making ...
A. 18 April 2007: Hey there, What's been happenening? Worried about you. You tell us and let us know if we can help you even make contact with someone because you can't.
Please let us know how you are doing, you are special to us all.
Pork Hock... (read in full...)
I'm getting married in less than 4 weeks! I don't want to marry him yet I can't call it off! What should I do?
Q. I'm getting married in less than 4 weeks time and i feel sick about the whole thing. His parents are chuffed to bits. My son hates him and their family. I cannot get anyone to have my son for one night while we get to the venue, which is 50 miles ...
A. 18 April 2007: Ok listen to me. I was with my man for 11 years from the age of 19 and married him at 27. I remember organising my wedding, booking rooms, organising flowers and everyone on the other end of the phone saying you must be so excited...the answer was ... (read in full...)
I'm a lesbian but I want a baby. What can I do?
Q. Well, I'm a 19 year old female and I'm a lesbian. All my friends have settled down and 4 of my friends that I went to school with have gotten engaged and had babies. To be honest, I really feel jealous of them. I love going to see them and see their ...
A. 18 April 2007: Hi there, As a single Mum, you might be if you go through this...it is great the best thing ever, but incredibly hard and lonely. I know lots of gay couples and single people, gay and straight with children and they all face challenges. If you ... (read in full...)
My mom has been really snappy with me!
Q. Hi!I have a big problem.Well my mum has got really snappy at me and I don't know y!Ur mum is meant 2 b ur best friend isn't she not ur worst enemy!It's all because there woz a nasty smell in my room under my bed then we moved my bed and found that ...
A. 18 April 2007: Ok, that has made me laugh as the same happened to me once and once only! I had the clean freak of a mother. I am now 33 and she died nearly 3 years ago. I did some pretty weird and wonderful stuff to my Mum, BUT at the end of the day your Mum at ... (read in full...)
He wants to know about previous bf's but I am not saying anything! Am i wrong in trying to keep these things from him?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for seven months and we really love each other. am 19 and he's 23 but we wanna get married in the near future. my dilemma is that he asks me a lot of questions about my past and wants to know about every man i ...
A. 15 April 2007: No where in this whole issue do you mention how you would feel about yourself if people talked about you. If men come up and boast about them sleeping with you, then if your BF has any regard for you, he shouldn't judge you and he should tell these ... (read in full...)
I can't tell my family I have bulimia..would it be fair to tell my friend?
Q. hi, i think i may have bulimia, i cant tell my family about it but i think there may be one friend i can tell. is it fair of me to tell her or would that put her in an akward position, age 14...
A. 15 April 2007: Why not? Your bulimia HAS to be part of their lives, you cannot do this alone. You need constant support. YOU are the most important thing to your parents and your family, seriously any other problems aren't as important as you. Stop reducing ... (read in full...)
Does this Grandmother really have 'rights' to visit her grandchildren. Any thoughts?
Q. Sadly, my adult niece (35) and her Mother(55) don't get along and have huge, trust issues. My niece has two lovely children (10 and 12) and her Mother (the Grandmother) is demanding she be given the right as the Grandmother to have visits with ...
A. 15 April 2007: Legally Grandparents don't have rights for visitation unless stipulated in a legal agreement so the answer is no unless you have something written and signed by yourself or the other parent. Hope that helps. From a Family Lawyer... (read in full...)
I can't tell my family I have bulimia..would it be fair to tell my friend?
Q. hi, i think i may have bulimia, i cant tell my family about it but i think there may be one friend i can tell. is it fair of me to tell her or would that put her in an akward position, age 14...
A. 15 April 2007: My older sister was anorexic and bulimic when we were teenagers. She used to binge and purge as a result of all the throwing up, lack of periods she had great difficulty conceiving when she got married. She used to do it because she felt she ... (read in full...)
I am so unhappy that I drink alcohol and cheat on him..why can't I just leave him? Help.
Q. I am 22years old and have been in a relationship now for over 6years but have been unhappy for years. Ive tried dropping hints, didnt work. I told him, he promised that he would change and make me happy, which worked for a week, then he went back to ...
A. 15 April 2007: Hey, you aren't alone. We've all done the drunken one night stands with people who are supposedly friends of your partner! You are in a rut and you need to get out. These guys are low-grade that they can do this to you and to their so called good ... (read in full...)
I thought I loved my guy until I met another man! What do I do now?
Q. hi, i'm in a relationships just now and we have a child, i thought i really loved this guy, but recently ive started to see my first ever love going around and have all these feelings for him coming back, i dont know what to do its making me so ...
A. 15 April 2007: Don't recreate history. You see this man around and it reignites emotions from a time when you were probably young, and you want to go back to one day of carefree times...people change. You may find that on the surface he is the same but he has ... (read in full...)
My dad "touches" me but when I tell him no, he goes into a tantrum!
Q. Well I have had this problem since around age 12 I am 15 now. I do not like my dad touching me as he holds me like my bf on my hips want to hum him plevis to pelvis. He use to be worse by sometimes just opening the shower curtain on me and making ...
A. 15 April 2007: I have a little girl of 5 and if this man did this to her without question I would make his life totally miserable. He is invading your innocence and taking it away. I am 33 years old and have a wonderful relationship with my Dad. I've never ever ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a person in a power position over me. He seems interested..how do I find out for sure?
Q. I have a crush on a person in a power position over me. I find myself thinking of him constantly. It would be risky for him to get involved with me. It appears to me that he is interested. How do I know for sure? Thanks, P....
A. 15 April 2007: If you come onto him or ask him outright he will either dismiss you immediately, then you deal with the heartache and embarrassment, or he will make some arrangement to see you outside of hours? If it seems very easy to him then you know he's done ... (read in full...)
My bf is pulling away from me! How do I get him back?
Q. Hi, ive been with my boyfriend now for 5 years and im 16 years old. Recently he's been pulling away from me and i want to bring him closer, is there anyway that i can bring him closer? I really need help!!...
A. 15 April 2007: I'm going to give you some advice. I used to do the same thing, how do I get him back, how do I do this to make him notice, love etc? This sounds harsh but he can read you like a book, he knows you would give anything to make everything perfect, ... (read in full...)
We are looking for a house together but I want an engagement ring first! Do you think he may propose soon?
Q. I am 33 and my boyfriend is 43. We've been dating for 10 months. We have been recently looking for houses, but are not engaged. It bothers me that we are doing this as we are not engaged and it seems like it is putting the "cart before the ...
A. 15 April 2007: Hi, I'm 33 too. You shouldn't have to wait or expect a house or a ring...believe me. What you have, moments you remember, times together are way more in gratuity than a ring. You can be buried in a ring, but having a life and having memories is ... (read in full...)
Could semen on his hands been transfered inside of me, making me pregnant??
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together a year, and not too long since we started getting more "intimate". (sorry about the next bit it's kinda...graphic...) he's fingered me and licked me out, but we havn't had sex. Ever. I havn't come on my ...
A. 15 April 2007: I've been in the same situation at your age, I remember the feeling. You can't think of anything else. It is unlikely but you should go and buy a pregnancy test, the Life ones are the cheapest. They are 99% accurate. I did 14 of them after I was ... (read in full...)
He fingered me hard and I bled with clots! Did he do some tearing?
Q. I am 14 years old and my boyfriend started fingering me. We have done it before and i havent bled but yesterday he went faster and harder and longer and i noticed blood. i put in a pad last night and it seemed light but today its getting heavier and ...
A. 15 April 2007: Don't worry that happened to me today after sex and I am 33! sometimes us girls are more delicate and we bleed. I've had embarrassing situations where I have bled all over my boyfriend and covered him in blood! He was fine with it just more ... (read in full...)
Should I listen to my friend, and take precautions with this guy I like?
Q. Ok... Im twelve... my friend's brother... is 14. Me and him have actually liked each other for years but just recently our secrets came out accidently in a seven minutes in heaven game. And now that we both know we want to take it farther. Ive asked ...
A. 15 April 2007: Ok, you are friends...messing about pursuing something sexual usually ends up in a let down, embarrassment and not speaking...PLEASE don't go all the way. I did and I am now 33 and I regret it because when I look back I thought the guy I did it ... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh to tell my gf to stop doing this thing that makes me very unhappy?
Q. My girlfriend is doing something that is making her happy and while im not happy and she wont quit because she loves doing it but it takes a lot of time out of being together but then she says she loves me more than anything... am i being to harsh ...
A. 15 April 2007: No, if she really means what she says then she should appreciate and respect your dislike or unhappiness. She may need help with it and if you want to help, so be it, but be prepared for a long journey where YOU put yourself on the line all the ... (read in full...)
He wants to know about previous bf's but I am not saying anything! Am i wrong in trying to keep these things from him?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for seven months and we really love each other. am 19 and he's 23 but we wanna get married in the near future. my dilemma is that he asks me a lot of questions about my past and wants to know about every man i ...
A. 15 April 2007: Sorry girl but if he wants to know about who you knew, who you went with - he is trouble! My ex used to do that in minute detail, it is all about control....questions start with did he do this with you, why do you keep this etc etc? It becomes ... (read in full...)
I want this other guy all to myself! How do I get out of my marriage without hurting my husband?
Q. I got married four months ago to a wonderful man who would make a brilliant father figure to my children but there's a problem. I have been having an affair for half a year with a guy who's married with kids. I love him. He says that he's only with ...
A. 15 April 2007: Ok, I've been in a similar situation. You have to share everything with this lover, I mean everything. He has to see you as you are, getting upset, no make-up, wearing sweats everything to know he knows you...you have to be able to talk about ... (read in full...)
My guy friends tell me that I'm a huge flirt and that I confuse them. Should I change my behaviours?
Q. Telling a friend you don't like him the way he likes you is tough. Most of my guy friends have confessed to me that they like me, but I haven't felt the same way about any of them. Some of them have been cool afterwards, but they seem awkward ...
A. 15 April 2007: And by the way, they aren't being the real deal if they don't understand why you aren't going with these guys. Hate to say it but confident, gragerous girls are seen as too confident and easy to bed even if you are being yourself...a nice guy would ... (read in full...)
My guy friends tell me that I'm a huge flirt and that I confuse them. Should I change my behaviours?
Q. Telling a friend you don't like him the way he likes you is tough. Most of my guy friends have confessed to me that they like me, but I haven't felt the same way about any of them. Some of them have been cool afterwards, but they seem awkward ...
A. 15 April 2007: Hey, I've done the same, been flirty, told great jokes, worn great stuff to get the guys going...however, believe me I've taken it too far and be called a thick blonde, been seen as having bits - no face/no brain, all I can say is act how you want ... (read in full...)
I got a uninary tract infection after having sex...is this common for women?
Q. When I first had sex with my boyfriend, I didn't know it is a good idea to pee after intercourse (even using condom). Therefore, I had urinary track infection. The doctor gave me some antibotics and suggest me to drink cranberry juice. Therefore, ...
A. 15 April 2007: Don't worry this happens all the time to me. It usually means you've had intense sex. Sometimes I bleed or pee continually. You need to drink lemon cordial juice, you know the stuff you dilute. I'm from the UK and they call it Lemon Cordial. ... (read in full...)
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