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She used to be a HE!

Q.   I really don't know what to do here. I've been with my girlfriend for one year. It's been going great and she's perfect, or so I thought. We met at work. I'd always had an attraction to her and I was overjoyed when I found out that she liked me as ...

A.   1 April 2009: I don't know, I've never really been in your situation before, so I can't give a fully informed response. But if you love her, you love her, therefore surely it doesn't matter? I can see why she hasn't told you this before, your response is pretty ... (read in full...)

Does having a simple, tiny "crush" on the same sex, even though you are definitely straight, make you bi?

Q.   I know, I know. Some of you might respond with "EWWWW" or "GROSSS" etc., but I just wanted a little input. I didn't mean for this to happen. I've always been straight. Boyfriends, the whole deal and what not, I've been through it.. but recently ...

A.   31 March 2009: Nobody with ANY sense will think 'ewww' or 'gross'!! There is definitely no black or white. Don't worry about labels, just go with whatever you think. If you fancy her, go for it. If not, then don't. Forget about gender. It's as simple as that. ... (read in full...)

I'm female and want to be with HER but I'm scared I've found this new side to me...

Q.   Hi. A couple of weeks ago, my best friend (a woman) and I went to the cinema and then for something to eat afterwards. Later, we went back to my house to continue the girly night. We went in to the kitchen to get a drink. We were talking then, all ...

A.   3 March 2009: It sounds like you've found something really special, don't let it go just because you're afraid. You're not giving up on getting married and having kids, it's perfectly possible with same sex partnerships! Good luck :-) xx... (read in full...)

I liked guys, then girls..and I'm confused!

Q.   well where to start ok it all started when i fancyed this girl at school and we got close but nothink happend she was in denial so i just left it at that then i met this 30 summink year old who i really trusted she was cool and i talked 2 her about ...

A.   2 March 2009: It really doesn't matter!! I know that it's not nice to not know exactly what your 'identity' is - but i honestly don't think that it matters. Don't label yourself, you don't have to. If you fall for a girl, date her, and if you fall for a guy, ... (read in full...)

Am I questioning my sexuality because of college?

Q.   Hi. I am 18 years-old and a freshman in college. I am currently struggling with a huge issue. I have been in a three year relationship with my boyfriend and I love him so much. Recently, I have been questioning my sexuality, something I have never, ...

A.   2 March 2009: I think that at this point in your life, what you called no.1 pretty much sums it up!! I wouldn't worry about anything unless you fall for a girl, and feel sexually attracted to her. And IF that ever happens, then you shouldn't be worrying about ... (read in full...)

I found out my daughter's bisexual when I looked at her email!

Q.   I am concerned about my daughter. She is 18 at Xmas and has been very friendly with a girl a year younger. They are good friends and I have let my daughter stay overnight at her place on many many occasions. Her friend has also stayed here as ...

A.   26 February 2009: Jesus christ stop worrying!! It actually makes me feel quite miserable reading all these posts as I thought people had more sense than this. I can't even believe that this is an issue. Why is it anybody else's business who people are sleeping ... (read in full...)

Are all women bisexual?

Q.   just wondering... are all women bisexual?...

A.   18 February 2009: Umm I dunno to be honest! I recon that sexuality isn't 'black and white', there is definitely an area of grey! Some people go through life gay, and some people straight, and some of the gay people find out that they are gay 30 or 40 or whatever, and ... (read in full...)

Delayed period, what could it be?

Q.   i am a 19 year old lesbian ....i have been with my girlfriend for a very long time i usually get my period two days after her is been about a month passed is till havent gotten it i dont sleep with boys so what could it be im very scared...

A.   10 February 2009: I once got that as well, I had no period for about 2 months, and then had two periods within like 5 days of each other :-S I'm a lesbian too so I didn't freak out about being pregnant! This happened about a year ago (I'm 19) It could be loadsa ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend sleeps with other women when he gets drunk!

Q.   Hi, I need some advice, so anyone who could be of any help - i'd really appreciate it! I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year - on and off. But we grew up together. anyways, during our off times, he goes to parties - gets drunk - and ...

A.   28 December 2008: Yeah seriously you need to leave this guy, he is not worth it. Number one, he has physically abused you - that is enough reason to leave him. Secondly he always cheats on you (supposedly being drunk is an excuse, which it isn't) You are worth more ... (read in full...)

No commitment from her, help!

Q.   Im a female and imm in loev with another female but the thing is she isnt a lesbian i went for it anyway got her number she accepted my advances but made it clear that she wasnt gay i still went for it we go out on dates and have had sex and all ...

A.   25 December 2008: Oh my god to the person who was banging on about Christianity and stuff! Ignore that comment entirely!!! That was literally the biggest load of rubbish I have EVER read! But yeah anyways back to your question... that must suck. Well to me it sounds ... (read in full...)

Can you get AIDS from kissing?

Q.   i kissed my ex girlfriend for the first time . i am kinda very deeply stressed after that. i know i am being a phycho asking this but will this cause me AIDS ? i trust her completely but still she is a stranger for me afteral and i cant be sure of ...

A.   25 December 2008: You cannot get AIDS from kissing someone?! Seriously you need some kind of education on STDs and things if you don't know this already.... (read in full...)

That's not really a 50/50 friendship, is it? Do you think I let her use me and why?

Q.   Hi Guys. For about 4 years now, I've been living it pretty tough... See, I am completely in love with another woman (and that's not even the issue)... My problem is that I don't know what she wants... I don't know if she is a lesbian, but I'...

A.   18 December 2008: I really feel for you, it's horrible being in that situation. I think that the best thing that you can do for yourself is just to tell her, as incredibly difficult as that may be. The thing is that everybody acts so differently around people they ... (read in full...)

I don't want to want up and be an 80 year old virgin!

Q.   I don't understand why girls just don't seem all that attracted to me. I'm 19, fairly smart, good hygiene, nice and funny. But women still don't seem to like me, I always just crash and burn in the friend zone. Sure, I might not have a six p...

A.   18 December 2008: Yeah I agree, it does just sound like you're pretty hung up about the fact that you don't want to be a virgin. I always find that things generally come when you least expect them, and the more you try the less likely you are to manage (maybe I'm ... (read in full...)

Why did my b/f buy her a sexy short dress?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have decided that we were both not ready to buy each other nice Christmas gifts since we are both out of work and are in school. Him and his friends participate in a secret Santa every year and this year the cap was $50... at ...

A.   15 December 2008: To be honest, I don't really know how anyone can give you proper advice on this one. I don't know him, or her... I would talk to you boyfriend about it, let him know how you feel and how it's clearly worrying you. I hope everything goes ok :-)... (read in full...)

How do I get her out of my mind?

Q.   Dear Cupid I'm a first year university student in London, and recently went to visit my friend in Manchester for a week (study week). Whilst I was there I met one of her friends and I know it sounds creepy but I can't stop thinking about her. I'v...

A.   11 December 2008: Yeah I agree with other people, I would try and act on it, nothing ventured nothing gained as they say! (easier said than done). Just try and get in contact, good luck I hope everything goes well :-) xx... (read in full...)

Sex with his dad to get a baby?

Q.   My husband wants children, and so do I, and we have been trying for a baby, but without success. Nothing we have tried seemed to work. Me and my husband were having a conversation about the issue one night, and trying to think of ways to have chi...

A.   11 December 2008: This is such a weird question. I definitely don't think that you should have sex with his dad, that is totally bizarre, no matter how much he wants a kid! Go to your GP, find out what you can do and what your options are.... (read in full...)

I only want an affair with him but he hesitates, what do you think?

Q.   Please help. I have been married for 3 years but my husband and I are on the verge of splitting. I've come to realise I don't love him anymore and I can't stand him being anywhere near me. We have a son who is almost two. I've recently met someone ...

A.   11 December 2008: Split up with your husband, you obviously don't love the guy anymore. Regardless of anybody else you make like, get out of the relationship. There's no point cheating on him, just leave him. That way it won't make things more complicated than it ... (read in full...)

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