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Could taking a shower after sex somehow get me pregnant?

Q.   i didn't get any clear answers from this last time, so im asking again, and making my question clearer, my boyfriend ejaculated onto my breasts and stomach. we did not have sex!!!( i want to make it clear, we didn't have sex, or use the "pull ou...

A.   26 April 2011: You can't get pregnant from someone ejaculating on your stomach. Especially if you have a shower. Stress Less. ... (read in full...)

Should I remain friends with an ex who cheated on me while we were dating?!

Q.   My Open Question: Why would he do all of that and want to be friends afterwards? During our relationship, my ex boyfriend had a one night stand at a party cos he was having problems getting it up and he thought he'd try elsewhere. he w...

A.   19 April 2011: i had the exact samething with my ex. Walk away seriously he is only going to keep hurting you. I know it's hard but once he is out of your life you will feel much better. I also know you will keep talking to him despite how many times you tell y... (read in full...)

What is a woman's view on a 27 year old guy who wants to date, but never has dated a girl?

Q.   What is your view on a guy who has never dated? How would you react if you asked the guy how experienced he is and his reply was that everything you've done so far has been with you? Would you bother with a guy like this?...

A.   16 April 2011: Yeah i would but i would be curious as to why he has stayed single so long. ... (read in full...)

I wasnt the best parent myself, and I don't want to take my child from her mother but I do want to make sure that she is living in a safe environment.

Q.   I want to start off my saying I know I messed up in the past and I know some people may not think I deserve forgivness but I am only trying to do what is best. When I was 20 I had a one night stand with a much younger girl Kylyn (she was 16), 4 ...

A.   15 April 2011: You can ask the social worker for there evaluation on the mother's place. That would help in your fight for custody. You do have to prove that the environment that you live in is better though. Your history will come up but you need to prove to them ... (read in full...)

Afraid to find out if this cute guy likes me or not!

Q.   i like this boy in my class. hes cute nice and more. but idk if he likes me or knows i like him. he so hot and a little gothic i think but so am i. help me: what should i do if he doesnt like me?...

A.   15 April 2011: Talk to him it helps if you start with a compliment like nice shirt or something keep it small nothing about him being hot or a band he may like. From what i know about Goth's they are really into their music. Start small and work from there. Good ... (read in full...)

Why do I always panic and think a girl is too good for me?

Q.   need a bit of feedback. ive posted a couple of times. yeah im still a virgin at 30. i was in the pub tonight. had a few drinks but just could not relax. normally i would wait to sober up before posting but i want to try and get my exact feelings ...

A.   9 April 2011: You lack confidence. Pick somethings about yourself that you like and focus on them even if it's one thing. Whether it be that you have a good sence of humor or nice eyes. Nobody is perfect and nobody is to good for you. What someone lacks in one ... (read in full...)

My fiancé found out he has cancer and left me. How can I go on?

Q.   My fiancé found out last winter as part of a physical exam for work that he has aggressive stage 3 cancer. His parents moved him into an apartment near the university hospital for treatment and he has been in chemo and radiation and there is some ...

A.   9 April 2011: What he is going through would have to be the hardest thing in the world. I dont know if he still loves you only he can tell you that. I dont think he can handle seeing you break down anymore especially since he is the cause and there isn't anyt... (read in full...)

The tests say no, but I think I've convinced myself that I'm pregnant!

Q.   the past couple months i have been really convinced that i may be pregnant, and as each day passes ive been more and more convinced. i have taken tests and they have come back negative, but i still cant help but wonder. i would love to become ...

A.   28 March 2011: It called a hysterical pregnancy. Your mind is conviced that you are pregnant therfore your body is acting like you are. You will show all the signs of being pregnant without actually being pregnant. This has happened to a friend of mine. If yo... (read in full...)

I was pretty sure I was gay, but now I'm not. Help! I don't want to embarrass myself.

Q.   Four year I have been battling with my sexual orientation since like 14 with being gay or straight. At the beginning of this I told myself I'll be gay since I'm aroused by gay porn and some guys. I never exactly got aroused to straight porn or girls ...

A.   27 March 2011: If you find yourself attracted to a girl go for it. Does it really matter what everyone else will think? Sexual orientation isn't a choice so dont try and push yourself into being one or the other. If you find yourself faced with the bedroom with a ... (read in full...)

Ex wants me back, but I don't know if I can trust her.

Q.   So my ex of three years called me on my birthday after 3 months of our break up and a month of our last conversation. My life really changed positively and I moved on (Somewhat) I still think about her sometimes and I haven't really cried for her in ...

A.   27 March 2011: Before you consider taking her back. You should look at the reasons why you broke up in the first place. Are those reasons still going to be there? Are you going to feel the same about her? or is it going to hurt everytime you look at her and ... (read in full...)

I just want to be friends

Q.   There is this girl who likes me and she keeps texting me. I want to stay kind of mutual friends and no more as I like someone else what should I tell her?...

A.   21 March 2011: Well just bring the girl up in conversation ask her what she thinks you should do. That way your telling her that your not interested and that you see her as a friend. ... (read in full...)

I'd really love to get some flowers

Q.   How do you get a guy to give you flowers with out you actually straight out telling him especially if you want it to be a surprise? One of my friend heard me complaining so she went around my back and e-mailed him to buy me some flowers which I ...

A.   21 March 2011: Hint it. When you go out make it a point to pass a florest and comment on how nice the flowers are. He'll get the picture if he doesn't then go out and buy a vase. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is verbally abusive and I don't know how to make this relationship work....

Q.   Hi My be of 2 years constantly abuses me (verbally)/ignores me often. I seem to put up with this without getting angry. I never get angry when he does this, but i do get hurt and i cry my eyes out. We talked several times about his behaviour, b...

A.   6 March 2011: You need to find the source of the problem. Why he lashes out? maybe something happens before hand that sets him off. I think he sees you as a easy target. You take whatever he dishes out. Maybe try standing up for yourself. Other then that you ... (read in full...)

What do you do when the person you love has moved on?

Q.   me and m gf broke up a month ago and she is already dating someone so what do you do when the person you love has moved on? how do you fight what your heart says and finally let them go if u were really in love with them. She wants to be friends and ...

A.   6 March 2011: A part of her still loves you that's why she is holding on to you. Dont linger on this though. The best thing you can do for your self preservation is to get rid of everything that reminds you of her. Do not keep one thing. Cut off all contact with ... (read in full...)

He was cheating on me for 3 months and even took her to meet his parents! I would leave but I am pregnant......what should I do?

Q.   I have been in a relationship for the past 3 years, me and my bf/ fiance have a 2 year old together, we live together. He bought me a ring we just haven't really planned a wedding yet! Here's my problem I really love him he's great to me so ...

A.   1 March 2011: If you think you can forgive him then go to a marriage councellor but if not even an inkling then leave. Speaking from experiance growing up in a house where your parents dont love each other is hard on you emotionally. Your children are very ... (read in full...)

Are there women's shelters for abused wives in USA?

Q.   My fiance is an alchoholic, and a recovering crack addict. When he drinks he is painfully verbally abusive. I let it go for about a year because i felt he was just relapsing from not using anymore. It's been almost two years now, and although ...

A.   1 March 2011: Yes there are shelters all across America. The number for the National Domestic Violence help line is 1-800-799-7233. They will tell you the closest shelter to you. Plus offer emotional support. This isn't a situation you need to be in. Get out of ... (read in full...)

I'm depressed so often, and am so scared of my loved ones dying before I do. How can I help myself to move past this?

Q.   Hello, I'm a 15 year old girl and recently I have been concearning myself about the deppressing thoughts I have been having. I keep thinking about death and how there's nothing I can do to prevent it from happening to me or my family, I'm scar...

A.   27 February 2011: There is help out there for your problem. First off focusing on something that is going to happen one day is not the way to go. I used to do it myself. My parents are 40 years older then me i used to run into my mother's room crying at night scared ... (read in full...)

I am so hurt.... I really feel dead inside!

Q.   So I posted another question and it's about how me and my ex have been broke up a month and my ex that I haven't heard from in a month had his guy friend that I do not know anything about and he doesn't know me send me a text message.He said that my ...

A.   27 February 2011: Your ex in a word is an douche so is his friend. The fact that he called you a whore previously should show you what kind of person he is. Yes it was good you went now hopfully you will learn from that. He belittled you in front of his friends. Made ... (read in full...)

If I told girls I was a virgin would it help or hinder me with girls?

Q.   Im 22 years old without a girlfriend atm and I'm wondering if girls would see me differently if I told them I was a virgin....

A.   27 February 2011: It depends on the girl and the situation. If its a one night stand then no dont tell them. If it's a girlfriend then yes. ... (read in full...)

Is age just a number?? I like him but he is younger than me!!

Q.   Is it wierd to fall for a guy that iss 3 years younger then you, cuz i think i have but we really dont care about age , but what i am asking is is it wierd to fall for a guy 3 years younger?...

A.   27 February 2011: As long as he is not underage it's fine. Stress less. As long as you are happy that's the main thing. ... (read in full...)

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