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Am I worrying over nothing... or is he cheating?

Q.   Me and my husband have been together for nine years and married for two. We have three kids together all under the age of five. Hhe is in the military and recently went to do training in a different state. He started talking to a girl and lied to ...

A.   30 November 2008: If he had nothing to hide he would show you everything. As him about it or try to look through his stuff I wouldn't trust that.... (read in full...)

Another player?

Q.   I liked this guy a couple years older than me.. and he was sweet and stuff when we started talking and we ended up having sex when we hung out.. well my cousin knows of him and heard he was a player. She told me this last night. Well it wasnt li...

A.   29 November 2008: I have been a player back in my day so I kind of know what he's doing. Let me hit you up on game gurl he liked you at first. Then you did it with him a few times so maybe now he's sick of hiting it. Maybe if you try to ignore him then he'll come ... (read in full...)

Is it love... or the wrong signs?

Q.   Hi I'm 16 and i have a crisis I guess you could say. I feel very attracted to a 27 year old man. the thing is he used to work at my school as hall patrol. he plays football for a county team and i feel obligated to go to his games to cheer him on. ...

A.   29 November 2008: Girl you got a crush on him. He see's you as one of his fans. He might does like you but not in the way you would hope. I'm 16 too so I know what your going through. I have crushes all the time lol. :)... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my brother's 24 year old friend!

Q.   Im 15 Yrs Old And Im In Love With My Brothers Best Mate Whos 24 Yrs Old. Isit Wrong That Im In Love With Him. I Really Want A Future With Him And He Wants To Be With Me But His Worried People Will Say Something About The Age Gap. Iv Told My Broth...

A.   29 November 2008: Be very calm and make sure he's calm too. Say brother your best friend loves me and I know your ok with me loving him but your going to have to get use to us being together. We love each other and were not going to stop seeing each other. We plan on ... (read in full...)

I'm 16 he's 22...?

Q.   I'll start with some background information. I'm a 17 year old from NY. I will be 17 in January. My parents, as well as many other people have told me that I am very mature for my age. I'm pretty set in my ways, I'm happy with who I am. However, I ...

A.   29 November 2008: It sounds like to me he likes you a lot but is afraid to tell you because he doesn't know what your going to say or do. Why don't you ask one of your friends to ask him does he like anyone he works with maybe he'll say your name. If he tells your ... (read in full...)

My BF doesn't like kissing?

Q.   I have been in a not-too-happy-but loving relationship for 4 years, with a 1 year distance relationship at the beginning. When I have finally moved in with my boyfriend our sex life became cooler after a few weeks. Now (3 years afterwards)he ...

A.   31 December 2007: Maybe he loves U but everybody doesn't like to french kiss. U shoudn't leave him for that.... (read in full...)

We just broke up. If you don't talk for a few months will he forget you?

Q.   My boyfriend just recently broke up with me. Is it better to not talk for a few months, until I am over him? Do feelings just disappear or if its a real connection will they still be there? Or is it better to occasionally talk so he doesn't ...

A.   31 December 2007: Girl if U don't talk to him he is going to forget about U. Yall can still be friends.... (read in full...)

My friend just doesn't put in the efforts to our friendship..advice?

Q.   Hi My friend is being really annoying. Whenever i ask her if she wants to meet up, she is 'busy'. But her definition of busy is sitting at home or going to her dad's house. She's great when i do see her, and a good mate, but i wish she would ju...

A.   31 December 2007: Sorry to say it but she doesn't sound like much of a friend if she doesn't want to spend time with U.... (read in full...)

His ex gf is making me feel uneasy! Am I just jealous?

Q.   Been with 'my boyf 3 months. We're very happy. However, his ex he split up with him '2 yrs ago is makin me feel uneasy They have a dog 2geva who she see's regularly. So they call and txt regarding that. She vivited im xmas mornin. She sent him ...

A.   31 December 2007: I thank you need to say something to the girl bout doin dat. Dat ain't cool at all. I would cuss him out. Child Please Its alright to be jealous.... (read in full...)

My bf is very controlling, I feel I'm living with my parents again. I don't want to leave him thinking of my son's stability. What to do?

Q.   hey cupid...I think I hate my boyfriend. I mean he is a great guy who wants to take care of me and he is the father of my son. But he wants to be in control. And I dont just mean some times I mean all the time. He alwasy wants to know were I am and ...

A.   18 November 2007: I get your point because I grew up without my dad & it isn't a good feeling. I really think your b/f is just tryin to be there 4 U because he cares about U alot.... (read in full...)

How long should you wait until sex? I'm 12.

Q.   I am 12 i have a felling to have sex but i know it is wrong and i wont do it. Just to tell you now my b/f is not pressuring me but we both know it is wrong so we will wait. what age should i wait until? My b/f and i have been going out for about 5 ...

A.   18 November 2007: Well I'm 15 & I think your a little young 4 dat. All don't know wat yall doin. Do U even love him because I think yall to young to kno wat luv is.... (read in full...)

Some girls have said to my face I'm ugly. Will I ever have a gf?

Q.   I find it difficult to be attracted to girls my own age .because some girls have said to my face im ugly. Now i find it so difficult to love myself. At one pointnice guy, but they say nice guys are not good looking. I once wanted to take my own ...

A.   18 November 2007: I think you shouldn't listen to wat everybody says. I sure everyone wont think your ugly. Girls might not want to date you because you don't have self-esteem. When another girl say's dat say no I'm not all the girls want me & see wat she say's.... (read in full...)

Some girls have said to my face I'm ugly. Will I ever have a gf?

Q.   I find it difficult to be attracted to girls my own age .because some girls have said to my face im ugly. Now i find it so difficult to love myself. At one pointnice guy, but they say nice guys are not good looking. I once wanted to take my own ...

A.   18 November 2007: I think you shouldn't listen to wat everybody says. I sure everyone wont think your ugly. Girls might not want to date you because you don't have self-esteem. W... (read in full...)

I had sex with my husband's best friend - it was his idea - will I find a need for more men?

Q.   A family friend, who was widowed about ten months ago, visits us about once a month when he comes to the city on business. After dinner last month, he expressed to my husband how difficult it was to meet a woman and how frustrating it was to have ...

A.   1 November 2007: Maybe you need to leave your husband because you don't love him if you want to keep having sex with the friend. How about ask your husband first because if you don't your cheatin. P.S Just go with the friend.... (read in full...)

How to snog

Q.   dear cupid i have this girl freind and we both want to snog but i have never done it before and i want to do it right so i dont make a fool of my self please help me ...

A.   1 November 2007: Wat da heck is snog? I thought it wuz sex. Anyways whateva U talkin bout watch a flick. P.S Just tell her your a virgin & then snog.... (read in full...)

He said he really cared for me but didn't want to break up my relationship. Now I'm single but he doesn't know! Is he interested?

Q.   Last Dec I met a guy from my past(we never dated just casual kissing)and the attraction we had when we were teenagers is still there. We used to go to the same place on hols and it is there Ive met him again after 5 years. Its always been the ...

A.   1 November 2007: Gurl he's using you for the drinks. I mean you texin him & he's not textin back. Plus you called. You broke up wit yo boyfriend 4 nothin & he could have cared bout you.... (read in full...)

Is he board with me?

Q.   I'm currently with a man i have been with for over 3 and a half years. and i have never had a problem with this, but yesterday night i busted him looking at all this Drunk chick stuff, like on youtube, "young girl on webcam" showing her ass n shit, ...

A.   1 November 2007: I'm sorry but I would have gave him the keys and said bye if you want that chick go get her. B/C i'm not bout to do all dat 4 no man.... (read in full...)

She wants to see her ex more often! I'm not happy. What should I do?

Q.   Well hear's the deal, iv been with my girlfriend for around ten months now an i really love her with all my heart, we spend a good majority of our spare time together which i love. A couple of weeks ago she told me she was going to see her friend ...

A.   1 November 2007: I don't trust her because if it wasn't nothing to worry about she would have told you in the first place. You shouldn't have to catch her doing it. You can let her see her ex but be with them don't leave them alone together.... (read in full...)

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