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7 months after the break-up I still want him back!
Q. I was in a 5 month relationship last year which was going really well. We talked loads about our future together. My boyfriend looked at possible building sites to build a house for us in the future! But then he changed jobs and went back to ...
A. 17 May 2008: As hard as it is give him this space to finish his degree and then contact him again afterwards to tell him how you feel. It does take a long time to get over someone and often it doesnt happen until you start dating again. Find some new interests ... (read in full...)
I lied to my ex about my past and feel awful, am I?
Q. Ok, a few hours ago, I posted about feeling awful because I lied to my ex and now I lost him. I had lied several times concerning my past. The thing is he was very jealous about it. For instance, if a song by a band that one of my ex crushes liked...
A. 17 May 2008: He needs to grow up most people have a past and yours aint all that bad. God my hubbies past makes your ears bleed and whilst I was jealous at first I realised that it doesnt have any bearing on our relationship in any way. Why did it hurt?? ... (read in full...)
Nervous about sex. Scared to do it for the first time.
Q. i have never had sex before and i'm kind of scared to do it for the first time. my boyfriend really wants to have sex but i don't think im ready. i really love him but i don't want to go that far. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 years. ...
A. 17 May 2008: You know in your heart you are not ready yet. I stopped sex just before the act when I was your age and luckily the guy was really understanding and respected me for it. We never actually got round to it in the end and my first time was a year or ... (read in full...)
Age Gap!-It is so hard dating him without friendship support
Q. Okay. I am dating a guy who is 20. I am 15. I know we should not be dating but we are in love. Some are my friends are telling me to leave him but I can't. It is so hard dating him without friendship support. I don't know what to do. I wanna be with ...
A. 17 May 2008: Its hard for your friends because they dont want you to get hurt or anyone to get in trouble. You wont like me saying this but I would go mental if my daughter was involved with a guy that age. Shes 16 next week and is only allowed to date guys ... (read in full...)
I felt bad for not indulging his anal fantasies and that he also has erection problems
Q. Okay, here's the thing...he has NO problems getting it up the first time. Actually, it's great sex. The second time, a while later...it's really hard to get him...well, hard. The only things that seem to turn him on is 69 or the idea of him doin...
A. 17 May 2008: There's no guarantee that if you let him try anal he'll be able to sustain an erection the second time anyway and if youre not comfy with it and really dont want to then he should accept that. Sometimes my hubbie can manage three times other times ... (read in full...)
I have a very very diverse complex mix, and I need a POLITE or even cheeky-tongue-in-cheek-non-offensive-funny answer to give to intrusive strangers!
Q. I have a very very diverse complex mix, because of this it makes me stand out as I look extremely different from most people. My race is completely unspecific or impossible to guess. So every single time I leave my house I always have people ...
A. 15 May 2008: Just tell them youre one in a million and to mind their own business x... (read in full...)
I'm not a big fan of going on top, am I doing something wrong
Q. I never found the girl on top position to be all that great. I constantly hear how satisfying it feels for women, but I never get much out of it. Could I be doing it wrong?...
A. 15 May 2008: I was in my 30's before I enjoyed going on top, before that I couldnt achieve orgasm that way so always switched to a different position after ten mins or so. Try laying on top of your partner to get a bit more clitoral stimulation, its sometimes ... (read in full...)
Does her eating disorder have anything to do with her lack of response to fingering?
Q. ok so i've asked this before but it's a little different i think now.. ok well tonight i went down on my gf for the the like second time and she got off to it.. but um fingering her she says still gets her no where and she even said it kinda made ...
A. 15 May 2008: There is nothing wrong with either of you but what works on one girl wont work on another as we are all different. Maybe she doesnt really enjoy it and is tensing up. Talk to her about it and ask her to guide you whilst doing it to see if you can ... (read in full...)
What is a normal vaginal depth?
Q. My question is about vaginal depth. You see. I met this guy last week and well, yesterday I asked him to my place. We were getting down to but when he . . .inserted his phallus it wouldn't go in all the way. [I wish I could articulate this better.] ...
A. 14 May 2008: Its average and most blokes would be pleased to have a bit hanging out!!! Sounds a bit weird to me x ... (read in full...)
Can anyone think of a way to have this girl forgive me?
Q. Hey. I'm in quite a complicated situation and I need advice. This weekend i'm having a sort-of double date movie watching party with friends(2 boys and 2girls, one of the girls i'm setting up with my friend, and the other girl let's call her Red,...
A. 14 May 2008: Why was she so bothered about you kissing in public with your ex - sounds like jealousy to me. Yes it was wrong to hurt her by getting back at her but if you have apologised she needs to grow up a little. She may never accept your apology so I ... (read in full...)
How can you tell the difference between pre-cum stains and semen stains?
Q. How can you tell the difference between pre-cum stains and semen stains?...
A. 14 May 2008: I think all men are different because my hubbie always has pre cum when we have foreplay and whilst i couldnt tell you what colour it is there is often a good amount - and no its not premature ejaculation, theres always a good supply later on!!!. ... (read in full...)
Does it get any better? Do I drop hints or tell her it was blah?
Q. So my g/f (i'm also female) finaly returned the favor, but the first time it was blah. And it has happened like 4 times since then, but it hasn't gotten any better. What am I to do? I don't want to say something and offend her. And I definatly ...
A. 14 May 2008: I agree dont tell her what she is doing wrong tell her when is right. Afterwards try something like 'I really enjoyed it when you did so and so'. Dont hurt her feelings but dont be afraid to guide her and encourage her x... (read in full...)
Am I just allowing him to play with my heart?
Q. So m hubby and I had a misunderstanding. Few days ago--He said he would get online to talk to me, and I waited most of the night online for him but never showed up. I never got an email until the next day saying that "the internet was down, and his ...
A. 14 May 2008: Maybe he was telling the truth and thinks youre being childish. You will never know so I think you need to sit down together and talk about what you each expect from your relationship before you make any decisions x... (read in full...)
I want her to be my wife, not his!
Q. I'm in love with my cousins girlfriend and they are engaiged. I want to tell her how I feel before they get married. I know my cousin will be mad but I can't live without her. what do I do? I know that she still loves me we dated two years ago and ...
A. 14 May 2008: Unless she says anything to you then leave it, it not worth the pain and heartbreak for your family and you, and it may not work again and then it would all be for nothing. Give them a chance at happiness x... (read in full...)
Is it o.k to date someone because they are only engaged?
Q. My grandma is trying to hook me up with a waiter that she sees every weekend at a local resturant. She dragged me in thier and I met the waiter he was good looking and he seemed to be interested in me. But My aunt informed me that he was engaged. I ...
A. 14 May 2008: It doesnt matter if hes engaged, married or just dating her of course its not right to date him!! Find your own man, how would you ever trust someone who would break up their engagement to be with you x... (read in full...)
Does 'keep in touch' mean something more to him?
Q. If he says he definitely wants to keep in touch with you, especially after meeting him only 2 times, and have being doing so since (for a year and a half now) I mean of course as friends, but he does actually. But, could he being saving somethin...
A. 14 May 2008: Stop wasting your life waiting for him. if he is taken and wanted to be with you instead then he would have left her by now. You deserve happiness in your life so go and find someone new who can give you all the time you want, and love, not ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is taller than me now, will I catch her up?
Q. I am 15 and 5'9.5".I have only grown 1/2" since last August. My girlfriend and I began dating when we were 13 and I was the same height I am now. She used to be around 5'6" when we started dating. She started growing and is now 6'2". She always ...
A. 14 May 2008: You probably have some more growth yet - i think guys can grow up to the age of 21 so dont worry just yet. My ex hubbie was 6ft 1 by 13 yet our son at 14 is 5ft 6 but he is growing steadily every couple of months and I think he will be a lot taller ... (read in full...)
Tired of being hurt. What do you think?
Q. I'm only young, but have gotten turned over a couple of times already, what with girls cheating on me etc. I've kind of come up with this kind of theory there 'are no rules to life', other than avoid being the loser. For instance if you do the ch...
A. 14 May 2008: Dont let bad experiences change you into a cheat and a liar and a player. Fine if you want casual relationships but always be honest about this first. If you find someone you truly love and she loves you hopefully you wont cheat and wont even want ... (read in full...)
My parents have stupid rules about my girlfriend. How can I fix that?
Q. ok well tonight my gf came over and was outside with my friend and i who just got done with a run.. so my mom and dad say we need to go somewhere else to hang out bc my gf was there and "she's not welcome here" at my house bc of an unknown reason at ...
A. 14 May 2008: They are blaming her and might think she is a bad influence on you. Sit them down alone first and talk to them about this explain that they havent really given your gf a chance and that you were old and daft enough to throw the party without her ... (read in full...)
Is it okay if I have sex with my friend?
Q. Im 15 And One Of My Girl Mates Wants To Have Sex And Where Not Goin Out. Is It Ok if i Do Or Will i Feel guilty After. Is it Ok if i do have Sex With her? ...
A. 14 May 2008: Why does she want to have sex with you??? Be wary some girls want babies but im older and more cynical so thats the first thing that pops into my head! Maybe she just wants to try if for the first time with someone she knows?? I personally think ... (read in full...)
I feel so alone knowing my partner loves another.
Q. Hi I feel so alone knowing my partner loves another. She does not know that I am aware of this relationship as one of her friends told me and says she would leave in an instant for him. Our relationship has been rocky but good in places. We have ...
A. 14 May 2008: You have two options - confront her or keep it quiet. If you confront her it could mean the end but if she was so desperate to leave you for him why hasnt she?? Even though you deserve to know most women's friend would not tell the partner so i ... (read in full...)
I'm not in love with my husband, what should I do?
Q. I'm not in love with my husband and want to leave but don't know how. He has become a perfect father and husband but I am not in love. We've known each other for 12 years and have been married for almost 10 years. Right from the start, he was in ...
A. 14 May 2008: It takes a lot of courage to leave a loveless marriage. Its fantastic that you are thinking of your baby but you deserve happiness too, you cannot live your life through your child and when baby leaves home what will be left for you then?? Your ... (read in full...)
Should married couples seek outside help or try to work it out on their own?
Q. Should married couples get help with their problems from third parties? Or thrash it out at home? One to one using their own brains....
A. 14 May 2008: I think statistically couples finding outside help fail within 3 years anyway BUT it depends on the problem and hey everyones different. Sometimes by talking to strangers it helps other times it makes you realise you just aint gonna put up with the ... (read in full...)
Should I try to contact him?
Q. Ok, sorry if this is long! I met this guy back in january this year when he was building my neighbours kitchen. I asked him for his number and we spoke everyday after he finished work and he wudnt leave my road until about 7 each night (finished ...
A. 14 May 2008: How old is this guy??? If he is your age or close track him down and give him a chance. if he is a LOT older he may have jusy enjoyed the attention x x ... (read in full...)
Should men pay on the first 'date'?
Q. Question #1 I met a woman on an online dating service. She suggested we should meet up for coffee and I agreed and suggested a time and place. When we finished she said she would go to the restroom while I took care of the bill. She didn’t offe...
A. 14 May 2008: Most women would offer to pay halves. If she is expecting it on a first date - beware!!!... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to have small white spots in his underwear?
Q. Is it possible for a guy to have small traces of semen on his underwear even if he did not have sex that day. My boyfriend occassionaly has two or three white spots on his underwear but yet we didn't have sex that day. I don't know how to approach ...
A. 14 May 2008: Dont worry about it sounds pretty normal to me x... (read in full...)
What do men like? I feel I am socially awkward.
Q. im a 20 year old woman and have never been on a date before. i wouldnt say that i am unattractive physically however i am very socially awkward and can come across as 'standoffish'. so any tips on how i can come across more likeable, confident...
A. 14 May 2008: Not all guys like self assured women so dont change - be yourself maybe you havent met mr right yet xx... (read in full...)
I asked him out. He said no. What should I do next?
Q. i like this guy and i asked him out and he said no what should i do ...
A. 14 May 2008: Move on and dont worry about it. Keep your confidence and dont be afraid to ask the next person you like out. Its his loss!! x... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from foreplay?
Q. I no this seem a bit unusual but can you pregant from having fore play?...
A. 14 May 2008: Yes if he gets near your vagina and releases a bit of semen - pre cum - it is possible. Im 40 and have only been with one bloke that had pre cum so i dont know if its that common??? Just take care and dont put yourelf in a position where you could ... (read in full...)
How much longer should I wait for him to ask me out?
Q. I have been working with this company for 2 years. The man I am extremely interested in is a manager of a different department. He is extremely low key and shares most of my interests. He is funny, smart, quirky and very nerdy. I love that about ...
A. 14 May 2008: Make the first move he may be shy and not sure if you are interested. Dont see it as a long term thing whether you want a full blown relationship or not being a single mum is soo oo hard so have a bit of fun and if it develops into something more ... (read in full...)
Which one should I choose??
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for 3 years going on 4 and he's proposed to me and has my named tattooed on his chest i love him with all my heart. but we've been having problems and he hasnt called me like he should. i dont get to see him that much ...
A. 14 May 2008: Take a break from both and see which one you miss the most. its hard being caught up between two guys and you may still fiind yourself thinking of the one you let go for a long time afterwards and Im afraid only time will tell if you've made the ... (read in full...)
The prom is in a few days and I can't dance! Can anyone help?
Q. prom is in few days. I cannot dance and dunno wot to as Im going with a girl who expects me to dance. Any websites or anything that might help? ...
A. 14 May 2008: Oh ypu poor thing!! Switch on some good sounds and just feel the music and let your body go with it. One thing I know for sure is that your date will have such high heels on she wont be able to dance anyway except for smooching and that's just ... (read in full...)
Is the saying 'true love never dies' really the case?
Q. Is it possible to re-unite with an ex after being apart for awhile? Is the saying 'true love never dies' really the case? I am apart from my ex and miss him dearly.....just wondering if anyone has some positive stories. thanks!...
A. 14 May 2008: My true love is the one im with so cant say for sure yet!! He has been a silly boy (well hes 37!!) and I know I cant live without him and honestly believe there will be no other after him. When you know the one you just know. All i can say is good ... (read in full...)
My wife discusses our personal problems with friends. I can't face them now.
Q. Can you help? I've been married for three years and everything as been going pretty well, but recently i've found out my wife as been discussing our personal problems with her friends, some of which are married to friends of mine. Now i can barely f...
A. 14 May 2008: How did you find out?? If it because your wife told you but the guys havent mentioned it then you are worrying about nothing. It is normal for women to discuss things of a sexual nature whereas men despite the bravado rarely swap stories of this ... (read in full...)
What are these stretch marks? Will they fade?
Q. Roughly about 6 months ago i started noticing white stretch marks on my breasts, on my bigger breast ive noticed that the marks arnt that noticible anymore but on my smaller one i find them very noticible and am very worried that they wont fade. ...
A. 14 May 2008: Yes it is normal - your body is constantly changing. If you are really concerned use bio oil as this can help them fade this is available in the uk but not sure about everywher else x ... (read in full...)
My periods aren't normal, but the test was negative.
Q. Im 16 i was late on my last period it eventually came but wasnt like normal. im now late again, i took a test earlier today and it was negative. But im kind of dissapointed, i know i wouldnt be able to support it but i guess part of me wanted a ...
A. 14 May 2008: Wait another month and if your period still doesnt come see a doctor. My daughter started her periods at 10 (despite people telling me skinny slight girls never start their periods so young) and it took 4 years for them to regulate themsevles. ... (read in full...)
Dad says "work it out for yourself" when I ask him a question
Q. My dad often says work it out for yourself when i ask him a question. How do you work things out for yourself?, surely its a lot easier asking someone else....
A. 14 May 2008: My parents were the same and it made me stand on my own two feet. If I had a problem they made me sort it for myself so all he is trying to do is turn you into a well rounded adult. I have cousins who at 32 and 34 expect their 'daddy' to bail them ... (read in full...)
I fell for him, he's married - she's pregnant, now I'm heart broken
Q. Hi.....iam 21 years and iam in a heartbreaking dilema...i started seing this guy ( @ the time 32) when i was 19.... The thing is that it all started so sudden @ work...you know the passing by the office..the eye contact...then one day he took me ...
A. 14 May 2008: Walk away now however much it hurts he is may be just using you. He doesnt know what he wants and could string you along for ages. Give the unborn child a chance to have his/her daddy. If its not you it could be another girl next week. x x Sorry ... (read in full...)
Does my ex still have feelings for me? Or am I imagining it?
Q. I have posted on here before and got some good advice. My ex bf of 3 years broke up with 1 month ago and started dating a new woman a day after we broke up. He met her while we we were out clubbing together and they had known each other on and off...
A. 14 May 2008: it sounds like he has gotten in a bit deep and is not sure where to go. For the 4 year olds sake wait until he knows what he wants before you make a move. Let him know you are there for him but not in a needy way. He may need to get her mum out ... (read in full...)
Unbearable truth....do I move on or wait for a cheater to reform?
Q. I am 38 and my ex gf is 23 going on 24. We had been together for over a year and a half. Chance meeting at a bar and I wasn't looking for someone this young. Firstly, she's geniunely naive, stupid and weak. I slept with her the first night. I had ...
A. 11 May 2008: You do seem to have very different ideas about morality so Im not sure if this could ever work as you will constantly think about these 14 penises as soon as something goes wrong in your relationship. We cant change people they have to want to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend masturbates while I am asleep! What can we do?
Q. Just found out my bf masturbates daily when I'm asleep, but he always says he's not horny when I ask for sex. When I talked to him about it he just said he can't help it, he gets horny at about 2 or 3 in the morning and doesn't want to wake me (I ...
A. 11 May 2008: It is normal to masturbate frequently - both men and women but usually its in addition to your sex life. It could be that because he is satisfying himself without you he just doesnt feel the need to make love with you too as he is already satisfied ... (read in full...)
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