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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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At 16 I'm Pregnant with my teacher's child
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster is in a vulnerable situation, aunts DO NOT give nasty or negative advice PLEASE!!! Oh my God!Even me myself don't know what to do. I'm 16 years old.For the past year,since I started high school(it's the way in Macedonia-from 15...
A. 30 October 2009: Alright, you are thinking of keeping the baby.
That is going to be hard. It would be a brave choice... if it is a choice and you are not just running away from making a hard decision.
You see. In my mind your post fails at the end. You cry "do... (read in full...)
No guy will like me, they all just want sex. I just want to crawl into a black hole and not come out. Can someone help me?
Q. Okay so me and my well now ex have been dating for about a year and a half. I was 16 when I met him and we started dating when I turned 17. I'm 18 now and he's 21. We recently broke up for I don't even remember, but he "joked" that he wants to get ...
A. 30 October 2009: You feel dumb. Well, that is good, maybe it will encourage you to be smart in the future.
A lot of women use "I love him" as an excuse to stop thinking. You did. What you told here it must have been very clear that this guy is a loser and asshole.... (read in full...)
Is 8 partners too many at my age?
Q. Im 20 and have been having sex since i was 17. i have had 8 partners and when i told my new bf he looked shocked. he said it was becouse im not loose down there. but i feel like he thought that was alot. is 8 partners at my age to many?...
A. 30 October 2009: Is it? The question should be answered by yourself.
My personal answer, for me, as a man, would be yes. It does not fit my personality. You been active for 3 years. You mean SEXUAL partners, so lets assume that you also had 4 relations that did... (read in full...)
How do females get labeled?
Q. hey ok question most girls seem to think because your not having sex guys wouldnt call u a slut...or any sexual preference of any kind... is there anythi ng else females can do that they can get labeles as a slut?...
A. 30 October 2009: Simple, you take them to the vet and they got a special gun that puts the label in their ear.
That way, if they got lost, they can be returned to their rightful owner.... (read in full...)
My 17 year old daughter hasn't had her period. Any advice?
Q. I have a 17 year old daughter that has not started her period. I have taken her to several doctors. Does anyone have advice or information on this subject?...
A. 30 October 2009: None of the doctors have come up with anything yet? Has she been to a gynecologist yet? If not, why not?
... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair on my husband?
Q. Soon after getting married, my husband had an unfortunate incident where he became paralysed, resulting in us not being able to have a sex life. I love my husband dearly and I did not leave him. I look after him and attend to him the best way I ...
A. 27 October 2009: How would you feel if the situation was reversed? And don't lie the easy lie. How would you really feel?
This is one of the those things we prefer not to think about. For better or worse, but without ever considering how bad the worse can be if it... (read in full...)
How do you tell guys you don't like certain things about them without hurting their ego?
Q. Well here's the thing. I am currently with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. He is about 11 years older than I am and I'm in my 20's. I am very happy with him he treats me better than most other guys but lately he's starting to be a bit controlling. ...
A. 25 October 2009: "I am very happy with him he treats me better than most other guys"
Wow. High standards! Especially the MOST bit. So if 5 out of 10 guys kick you in the gut and 1 punches you while four do not hurt you at all, you go for the gut puncher?... (read in full...)
Is an hour for sex too long?
Q. Sex with my fiance' usually lasts 45 min to an hour. She complains that it takes me too long, but i have "trained myself" to last like this, and now its difficult to have an orgasm in a hurry (less than 15 min). She complains about it, but I though...
A. 25 October 2009: This is a common problem. What is too long and what is too short.
And yes, an hour is to long. Because we are not talking about making love here, we are talking intercourse.
Imagine chewing bubblegum, for an hour. Wouldn't your jaw get tired? S... (read in full...)
How can anybody tell when an autistic person needs them?
Q. i'm dating someone on the autistic spectrum i know because my dad is, sister and other members of my family so i picked up on a few things. for example my boyfriend doesn't like too many hugs. he can't cope with anyone but me drinking from his...
A. 25 October 2009: Just a note of warning. Sometimes an asshole is just an asshole. It is becoming very easy to find an excuse in the form of a mental condition.
I am saying this because the other two posters so far seem to have taken your amateur assumpti... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get engaged so quickly?
Q. Hi. I have a relationship question. My ex and I dated for 5 years. We were in love with each other, and he was ready to get married. I constantly told him that I wanted to marry him, but I just wasn't ready to get married by the time I was 23. When ...
A. 25 October 2009: Is it normal to want to get married, but not get married? You made your choice, they made theirs.... (read in full...)
Sex after having a baby
Q. I just had a baby and during labor i tore real bad. i didnt tear down i tore on the side. and it goes real deep in my vagina. its heeled up now but it hurts to touch it and wipe and i have been holding off on sex till my 6 week doc visit. well its ...
A. 25 October 2009: Wait for the doctor to give you the all clear and not before and then take it REALLY slow and with lots of preperation and lube. You could even try with a didlo so you won't have to be afraid of a horny guy pushing to hard. Yes it might hurt, y... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to not be ready for sex after 4 years together?
Q. Is it wrong for me to not be ready for sex when my boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years on and off? My boyfriend keeps breaking up with me for the non-sex part and than wants to get back together with me. We had around 5 breakups. Each ...
A. 24 October 2009: Well, you haven't been together for 4 years, have you? You broke up 5 times. Each time over you refusing to have sex, making it pretty clear why he is with you.
You don't want to have sex, because you are unsure, well, who can blame you. You say ... (read in full...)
How do I obtain a dildo?
Q. I want a dildo, I am 17 and i want a dildo very badly. Every website i go to says 18.. and every store i have been to asks for I.D.. There is no way i am asking my mum to buy me one and i have tried other homemade objects and it's not doi...
A. 24 October 2009: Wow. I think we found the first person who when asked to verify their age, tells the truth.
A rare find.
As for everyday object, those toothbrushes with a battery inside or a Gilette razor for men that also vibrates?... (read in full...)
My best friend has a history of cheating and is now attracted to me!
Q. One of my best male friends is currently in a long-distance relationship, and has been for about two months now. He has a history of infidelity but he insists that this time around, he has changed for good and will remain faithful. I tend to ...
A. 22 October 2009: There once was a mouse, it was sitting on the kitching counter and could see the WHOLE kitchen and all the other mice.
One mouse was sitting on the floor. A cat walked in, it ate the mouse.
Another mouse sat on the chair, the cat jumped up an... (read in full...)
Is it ever ok to give an ultimatum?
Q. Ok everyone I need your advice. Is it ever ok to give an ultimatum? I have been with my boyfriend for five years and I have had it. We have been in the same holding pattern for the last three to four years not moving forward not moving backward only ...
A. 22 October 2009: What angry spells? You say it as almost an afterthought but it does give me the impression that something more is going on? What exactly?... (read in full...)
Think I've met ''The One" but I've slept with two of his best friends..help!.
Q. I am 26 yrs old. I split up with my boyfriend in March, which was a mutual decision, even though we were both very upset to let it go. Since then I have been partying a lot, drinking and doing drugs to get out of my head. Not good! In June went...
A. 22 October 2009: You think you met the one, and sleep with someone else.
and now you are asking wether the best way to start a relationship after all, is to start it with a lie.
It all depends on him. Personally, I would call you flakey as hell and getting clos... (read in full...)
Guys: did you give it another go if you thought she was worth it?
Q. Hey Guys, I was involved with someone 3 months ago. We were only seeing each other for about 6 weeks, it was a long distance thing. However, we talked on the phone daily for hours and text'd message in between, etc. We clicked extremely...
A. 21 October 2009: Yeah, sometimes we do contact ex'es. But it might be just to give it another try to get into her pants. Your over her, but since you spend some energy, you might as well give it another go. Just a small warning, not all ex'es who contact want you... (read in full...)
Why does he go soft during sex?
Q. Me and my husband been together for 4 years, our sex life has been very good.but up to now when he foreplays and oral sex, and touches me, he gets really hard but when we start having sex he gets soft in the middle of having it.i get upset because i ...
A. 19 October 2009: Are you always 100% wet, your nipples stay rock hard the entire way through? Unlikely, lube isn't sold for nothing.
Men, don't have such a simple aid, the slightest blip, and it shows. Men can't fake an orgasm.
And the stress gets to men. And... (read in full...)
What does it mean when someone send you two blank text messages?
Q. What does it mean when someone send you two blank text messages?...
A. 19 October 2009: That they butt-dialed. ... (read in full...)
Can my abusive ex be any different second time around?
Q. My abusive ex bf wants me back. But I dont understand why. The reason he dumped me in the first place was because I wouldn't let him control and abuse me, I would stand up for myself. So why would he want me back if I stood up for myself? Does h...
A. 19 October 2009: You have changed? How exactly? You are still intrested in the same guy, still getting the hots for an abuser.
If you haven't changed, why would he?... (read in full...)
Could he have recorded me on skype?
Q. I am wondering whether anyone knows whether when on Skype the other person viewing a video recording can record you to look at later on etc. I met a guy on Oasis at the beginning of this year who has been harassing me for the last week to get on S...
A. 19 October 2009: Yup, very easily in fact.
Rule 1 of the internet: Anything you put on it, stays on it.
The ancient rule for politicians that they should treat every microphone as an open (on) mic now goes for everyone. NEVER do ANYTHING in front of ANY len... (read in full...)
By cutting him off, will he realize what he is walking away from?
Q. My husband walked out on me and our 2 children 3 months ago for another woman at work who is 17 years younger than him. We have been married for 9 years and together for 13. I have tried everything I can to try and win him back and I know he is ...
A. 19 October 2009: He said he would do everything, he has done nothing.
My dear, you lost nothing. Get a lawyer and bleed him for everything he has got.
If you take him back, you got a coward who now knows he can get away with it.... (read in full...)
Is she faking it?
Q. is this even possible because ive read alot of places that its not yet my gf seems to have 3+ orgasm just of vaginal sex? is she faking it? ...
A. 19 October 2009: Why would she bother faking 3 orgasms?... (read in full...)
Is my husband's deception entirely unfair?
Q. Hi! I am so much in trouble that i don't know what to do. I am 26 years old woman married to a man who has now broke my heart.We have been married for 3 and half years and have 2 kids together.Everything has been ok for us, he has always been a g...
A. 19 October 2009: Eheh, he loved you, he loved you so much that six months before the marriage, he was fucking another girl.
How is the weather in the state of denial?... (read in full...)
I'm not that girly, but I want to become more girly.
Q. i'm 16 and in my second year of high school. ok so i'm not that girly, but i want to become more girly. i always wear a black shirt and blue skinny jeans. my shoes are black converse and i wear lots of black eyeliner and my hair is covering one of ...
A. 18 October 2009: Eheh, if a guy sees you as only a friend, it has nothing to do with you appearing girly. Unless you look like a man in drag, he knows you are a girl. You have just given him the idea that you don't see HIM as a guy.
Touch him. Make it clear to... (read in full...)
He uses porn for sex instead of me!
Q. Since me and my partner have been going through a bit of a rough patch for the past few weeks, we haven't been having sex. I recently found some porn websites on his phone...(I was borrowing his phone, as mine broke.) and he had googled up 'hot ...
A. 18 October 2009: Why ain't you two having sex recently? Seems there is more going on. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated with her best male friend
Q. My girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me the other night. She was out with her best mate of 10 years (a bloke) and they went to a club, got drunk and snogged. Prior to this they have sexually flirted via text, nothing that explicit just that they f...
A. 18 October 2009: I think she might not be mature enough to know what she wants.
If she wanted him, then why did she went with you, two years ago?
It can be somewhat fun to fool around, spice things up even if you never wish for things to actually happen ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for an ex to carry on sleeping with his ex?
Q. I'm just wondering if anyone else does this, I still speak to my ex on the phone most days, and see him somedays too, even though he has a girlfriend, but the past couple of months we have been having sex, I know it's wrong but we just can't seem to ...
A. 18 October 2009: "Is it normal for an ex to carry on sleeping with HER ex?"... (read in full...)
Do you think he has had 'affairs' with both these women?
Q. Hi, About 4 years ago I was going through my husband's credit card statements (with his permission looking for a purchase for which he had lost the receipt). There was an amount for £65 for a piece of Tiffany and Co jewellery. When I mentioned...
A. 18 October 2009: He spend genorous on people, in general. Okay, what about gender? Would a guy get the same treatment? If not, why not?... (read in full...)
I want a child of my own but everyone says not yet!
Q. Hey, i feel so strange, im in college at the moment, in my last year. me and my best mate are both in serious relationships, she always says how she would never have a baby at this age and she thinks its stupid, however, i would do anything to be ...
A. 18 October 2009: Read the link Phil has given.
Having a kid isn't a party and while everyone may treat you as special for a while, it is YOU that is going to have to do the feeding and getting new diapers and changing them.
Oh and feeding might SEEM like fun an... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a girl has a boyfriend?
Q. I am a 22 year old student who is at university studying civil engineering. I know I am a bit geeky but I have built my confidence up so that I don't have problems talking to girls. The problem is that whenever I talk to a girl and I think "she see...
A. 18 October 2009: On the whole, if you are looking only for girls that are willing to admit they are single... then good luck.
Oh, they are out there but I made that mistake when I was young and quickly realized that there is no such thing as a single female. ... (read in full...)
Do you need a condom to get a blow job?
Q. Hye there friends.. I need a lil advice. Me and my gf of 8 months years (we are both 16) were hangin together last night. And she just randomly asked to give me a bj. I was elated cuz we've never even touched on that kind of stuff before. But the ...
A. 18 October 2009: Gosh, how nice of you to worry about the taste of the condom and not the taste of your penis or sperm.
And STD's, well those only happen to other people eh?
... (read in full...)
Is it a good sign he took me to meet his family on the first date?
Q. Is it a good sign that he took me to meet his family on the first date?!? We met at a concert and have talked on the phone a lot since but today we had our first date. He went to get coffee and then he took me to meet his parents, sister, aunt and ...
A. 18 October 2009: Don't know. Is it?
First dates are to impress the other. What was the impression it gave you?
That you are asking, suggests that you didn't think it was a good first impression.
... (read in full...)
How do I get this happily married man to notice me?
Q. i like this guy,but he is married and happy.i see him once every fortnight at work.what shoul i do for he notice me,please?...
A. 18 October 2009: Seduce his wife and get her to invite you for a threesome. ... (read in full...)
My heart still wants him but my head says no...
Q. My ex boyfriend and I have broken up after 2 years. He cheated on me once with his best friend (female) and I forgave him. The second time I found out he was dating her at the same time as me and called it quits. Both times did not involve anything ...
A. 18 October 2009: Listen to your head, it sounds like it got brains.... (read in full...)
Do lack of actions show lack of care?
Q. I have a question, if someone that claims he loves you but then never calls, writes, or does anything to initiate contact, do you back off???? Very confused and told that it is your not believing in the love or trusting that is the fault. But ...
A. 18 October 2009: Actions speak louder then words.... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly stop talking to me after our date?
Q. I don't have a lot of dating experience because I had been in a long term relationship for about for years, so please bear with me. A few weeks ago, I met a guy at a friend's birthday party (he's her friend). We danced pretty much exclusively...
A. 18 October 2009: As said, coming over that late...
He thought you were easy, now he finds out that getting into your pants is going to take a bit more work then texting and a late night call and he lost intrest.
Move on.... (read in full...)
Am I not good enough for a proposal?
Q. My bf and I have known each other since we were 12 years old and liked each other since 12 years old but only dated for the last 3 1/2 years. We are both 24 years old. He is turning 25 next Feb and I am turning 25 next May. We have been through ...
A. 18 October 2009: but I am willing to be true to him in the long haul... what about the short haul?
and willing to be true implies a FUTURE action. Not a situation that is going on right now.
I also notice you been dating 3.5 years but only beeen faithful t... (read in full...)
What sorts of things are normal for first dates?
Q. I was wondering what sort of things are normal for first dates? Like what you should say and do... I only really had 1 first date before and we went to the movies. He hand my hand the whole time because at first he tried messing with my leg and ...
A. 18 October 2009: Well, since typically you know don't know the person that well yet (at least not in the way of a potential future partner) first dates are about finding out about the other person and showing yourself in the best light possible.
Girls dress up... (read in full...)
Why do I get bored during sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for almost a year now and at first we couldn't get enough of it and I had a high sex drive but now I am suddenly uninterested in it and I cringe if he even tries to touch me. The last time we had sex it felt ...
A. 18 October 2009: What else is going on?
And is the sex being done right for you? Lets face it, most people would not get bored with good physical and mental stimulaton. It would be like being in good rollercoaster and falling asleep halfway through, doesn't ... (read in full...)
Always the "friend with benefits", never the girlfriend
Q. Hey all, So here's my problem. I keep getting involved with these really great guys. Problem is I always end up as the "friend with benefits". Now it's not that I don't respect myself or anything, but I always tend to get involved with them at the...
A. 18 October 2009: In FWB the benefits stand for sex. ... (read in full...)
Always the "friend with benefits", never the girlfriend
Q. Hey all, So here's my problem. I keep getting involved with these really great guys. Problem is I always end up as the "friend with benefits". Now it's not that I don't respect myself or anything, but I always tend to get involved with them at the...
A. 17 October 2009: Great guys who just happen to use you for nothing but sex. Come back when you are ready to face reality.... (read in full...)
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