Should I go back to ex that cheated?
Q. My ex boyfriend of 2 years cheated on my with his ex of 8 years to whom he had a child and a mortgage with. It wasn't just a one off wither, every time he told me he was going to see his daughter, he was in fact sleeping with her. He even went on ...
A. 4 July 2008: Don't go back. Do NOT go back. It will happen again. Look at what's happening now: it's the same situation as before, but in reverse. He doesn't know what he wants. You know very well that you shouldn't go back. ... (read in full...)
My wife has an aggressive and a submissive side. Is that normal?
Q. My wife... a quandry or a paradigm... she loves sex and is agressive in bed... but, she is submissive and either wants me to enter her from behind when she is bent over our bed or on her all fours in bed... what do you make of that? .....
A. 8 June 2008: Normal is a wide spectrum. Your wife fits into it, and easily. I wouldn't worry too much about it. If you're fine with it, what's the problem? Everyone has their own particular tastes in bed, you've discovered your wife's, there you are. Sounds fine ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my mum about sex and tell her that I'm having sex?
Q. im 17 and iv been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and we have been having regular sex. my mum already knows that im not a virgin, as the boy i slept with his mum told my mum, my mum was really upset and disapointed in me. now im with someone ...
A. 27 March 2008: You know, she probably already suspects that you're having sex. If she knows you're not a virgin and she knows that you've been with your boyfriend for a year and a half, she's probably guessed the rest. Personally, I'd rather keep my mother out of ... (read in full...)
Should I go on the pill behind my mums back?
Q. Okay, I'm 15 and me and my boyfriend have been having sex for over 6 months. Before I had sex my periods were slightly out of time but I still had one every month, but since I started having sex, my periods have become worse and sometimes I ...
A. 27 March 2008: I think you should make an appointment with your doctor and go on the Pill. If you're mature enough to be in a committed sexual relationship, you're mature enough to take responsibility. It's good that you're using birth control with your boyfriend, ... (read in full...)
I'm addicted to porn and I'm female!
Q. ok I am really starting to worry. I am a girl(16) and i have a boyfriend etc. I am like addicted to porn! seeing what people have wrote on this site, there so not as addicted as iam. i watch it like every single day!! i use to masterbate all the ...
A. 16 March 2008: You're sixteen and hormonal. Don't worry about it too much. I'd say it's probably a phase that will pass with time. It's obviously not stopping you from having a healthy relationship of your own - if you were only turned on by the porn and had lost ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for donating my eggs even if it makes my boyfriend mad?
Q. Today I saw a show on TLC about great people, great couples not being able to have children and it broke my heart. I have a son and I'm not wanting to do the pregnancy thing over again but I cant help but want to help. I'm a full-time student and I ...
A. 13 March 2008: Sit on it for a while. You only saw the show today, it's not something you should just jump into. If you're serious about it, give it at least six months' consideration, ask opinions, get yourself very well-informed on the subject - it's a big ... (read in full...)
It's the chance of a lifetime for him, should I agree to let him go?
Q. My boyfriend has been asked with work to go to Australia for 3 months to work. I am worried that is too long to be apart and our relationship won't withstand it.. He has said he won't go if I say I don't want him to. Do I have the right to stop him ...
A. 10 March 2008: Let him go. If you two love each other, it won't be a problem. Three months isn't that long. A hundred years ago it would have been a lot harder, but now you can keep in touch very easily - you'll be able to talk to each other via the internet or on ... (read in full...)
How can a gay guy have a relationship with a lesbian??
Q. I'm a lesbian..but I fell in love with this guy but I found out hes gay and hates alot of girls.I heard he harreses them; makes fun of their boobs nd stuff in a mean way not in away like a guy likes that girl. Me and him have so much in commen b...
A. 10 February 2008: Uh... you aren't a lesbian. Why would you think you're a lesbian if you like guys? And why do you think he's gay? Is this a real question?... (read in full...)
Should photographers and models mix?
Q. Hi, I'm a photographer and recently got into fashion and nude art photography. I've had models who are very sexy and easy going. I'm wondering if it is right if I have sex with them and how I should figure out if they are into it without the risk...
A. 10 February 2008: I'm a model. If a photographer hit on me, the first thing I would do would be to tell my agency and make sure that no girls ever worked with him again. Both models and photographers are there to do a job. We are professionals. Not only that, but if ... (read in full...)
What should I do for the best.
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner Julie for seven years and we have a son aged five. We have been very happy for most of the times but the last 6 weeks have been hell. Julie started drinking heavily just before xmas. Her attitude towards h...
A. 30 January 2008: The reason she thinks you and your family are against her when she's drunk is because deep down, she knows what she's like when she drinks. She's projecting her opinion of herself onto you, and to be honest, it probably shows that you share it a ... (read in full...)
What should I do for the best.
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner Julie for seven years and we have a son aged five. We have been very happy for most of the times but the last 6 weeks have been hell. Julie started drinking heavily just before xmas. Her attitude towards h...
A. 28 January 2008: She just suddenly started drinking six weeks ago? That's weird. What happened to trigger it? There must have been something.
You need to sit her down and tell her that she has a problem. It has to come out into the open. If she wants to go to a ... (read in full...)
I've never been with another woman before. Nervous about satisfying her, sexually.
Q. i,m a female that has never been with a female before and now i have a girlfriend .the time for sex is so so very close and i have no idea how to satisfy her and realy don't wish to dissapoint her help me please i'm very afraid....
A. 24 January 2008: Disagree with the poster below - whatever you do, don't look at porn! Lesbian porn is about the most unrealistic thing you can find! Does she know you've never been with a woman before?
Okay, relax. Kiss her, a lot. Caress her, kiss her neck, fi... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that he 'slept' with another woman?
Q. my boyfriend went on a trip with his friends and they were camping in tents. he slept in a tent with one other guy and one girl. i wasnt on the trip because i was on a trip with my own friends. anyway while on the trip the other guy and the girl in ...
A. 17 January 2008: Why would you worry about it? He didn't do anything. It's not his fault if his friends decided to hook up. It was probably pretty embarrassing for him to have to watch them having sex, that's all. Don't break up with him, he didn't do anything ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have BOTH felt very rejected and let down by these two couples (our only friends.) They many times ignore and exclude us if we do not contact firstly. Your thoughts?
Q. I was wondering if I could have some opinions as to what you would do in my situation. My social life consists of my boyfriend and his friends (2 other couples). I have tried, for absolute YEARS to consider both of these couples to be my OWN fr...
A. 6 January 2008: You and your boyfriend are both right. I think that you should cut them out, but I also think that your boyfriend is right when he says they're not worth it. Just leave them alone, and then if they send a text message asking you out, tell them where ... (read in full...)
My gf will not make any concessions, while I am not expected to want or act incongruently with her admission. What is going on here? How can we correct this?
Q. I'm writing because my girlfriend of about two years and I are having some issues. I would say there are lots of them, but I'm convinced the majority of our issues are consequential to a couple "core" issues. First things first. I'm 27, she is 2...
A. 6 January 2008: Your girlfriend sounds like a nightmare. Sorry, but she does. And to be honest... well, you don't sound as though you like her all that much. I'm sure you love her, but do you respect her?
She probably has little to no confidence in herself.... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and planning to have a baby. Do you think it is a wise decision at this age?
Q. hi the as you may know previously i had a boyfriend but now we have broken up and i am with a new man, would you think it was mad if we decided to have a baby i am 18 and he is soon to be 21 please can you help us thanks lovesickpup...
A. 6 January 2008: I'd say wait AT LEAST five years. If you and your man are still together and still want a child, then you can talk about it again. If not, then having a kid now would have been a bad idea. You're only 18, you're basically a kid yourself! Have fun ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I get very wet when my bf just kisses me?
Q. I get really wet and ejaculate when my boyfriend even just kisses me, is this normal? ...
A. 6 January 2008: Lucky you! And your lucky boyfriend... Yes it's normal, don't worry about it. It's a good thing.... (read in full...)
He drove 5000 miles to see me (that's a long way!) Should I have let him m ove in with me?
Q. hello, i have been chatting on line with this really great guy for about a month now. its like we think the same and get along great. i have chatted with him on the phone a few times. well he drove over 5000 miles to meet me. he has family , not ...
A. 6 January 2008: You definitely did the right thing. You can't let someone move in with you after one day like that, it's madness. If I were you, I might be a little suspicious of his motives. If he now refuses to return your calls, don't you think maybe he was ... (read in full...)
Scared about Sex for the first time. Can you help?
Q. hi me and my boyfriend have decided we want to have sex, but i have never been fingered or used a tampon before so i'm scared it will hurt alot i tried to use a tampon the other day but i'm not sure what hole to insert in so can someone please t...
A. 5 January 2008: If he says he'll dump you if you don't have sex with him, then he's obviously not worth your time or effort. Do you really, really want your first sexual experiences to be with someone so manipulative and disgusting? If he'll dump you because you ... (read in full...)
Scared about Sex for the first time. Can you help?
Q. hi me and my boyfriend have decided we want to have sex, but i have never been fingered or used a tampon before so i'm scared it will hurt alot i tried to use a tampon the other day but i'm not sure what hole to insert in so can someone please t...
A. 4 January 2008: I'm sorry but I don't think it sounds as though you're ready for sex. If your age is correct and you are between 13 - 15 years old, I think that's probably too young.
To answer your tampon question, do you actually know what you look like 'down th... (read in full...)
One of the reasons we always fought was because of money and our separate contribution to the daily matters. He is contacting me after the break up, what should I do?
Q. I broke up with my ex over a stupid argument-I calmly asked if he could stop using my shampoo and shower stuff and if he could buy his own-he flipped out and yelled at me saying that then I should help pay the bills or get out of his house. We had ...
A. 21 December 2007: Stay away. If he was emotionally abusive, you don't want to get back into that, and it sounds as though the two of you weren't all that compatible anyway. Don't even reply to his texts, don't answer the phone when you see it's him calling, don't ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm 14 and my girlfriend is pregnant!
Q. Hi ,i am 14 years old and i am concerned that my girlfriendis pregnant. she was a virgin as i had sex before. We dident use protection and now she is 3 months pregnant. Web dont know how to tell our parents as they will both go mad with us. She has ...
A. 21 December 2007: You have to tell your parents. Do you really think that six months from now when she gives birth that they're not going to notice anything? That is, if you intend on keeping it (and if she's getting regular check-ups, it sounds like you do). You ... (read in full...)
How do I seduce my girlfriend? I am a lesbian.
Q. Hey everyone, I am a lesbian and i have only fooled around with girls a little bit. I've fondled them quite a bit. I am young, I am fourteen years old. I need advise on how to have sex with a girl and how to seduce her, if it helps any i like to be ...
A. 20 December 2007: You're only fourteen! My goodness. Technically there is no minimum age for lesbian sex, but really, wait until you're sixteen at least. The same rules apply to everyone: wait until you find the girl you love before you start having sex. When you get ... (read in full...)
Am I old enough for sex at 14 or should I still be playing children's games?
Q. i am 14 and i am worrying how should a 14year old act? am i old enough for sex or should i still be playing around and having fun like a child. am i old ? or am i worrying over nothing i feel that i am too old for christmas am i ? what...
A. 20 December 2007: Oh my gosh. What is the average 14 year old girl like? I can give you a height and weight bell curve thing, but aside from that, not much. Everyone's different (even at fourteen, where a lot of them want to be just the same).
So, Christma... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't like my friendships about other females
Q. I have a problem with my partner. She has this ridiclous prevailant attitude about my interactions with the women at work. I think she is just jealous and possessive!! It is like she doesn't even want me to relate to anybody outside my immediate ...
A. 19 December 2007: If you don't want to talk to your partner or kiss her or have any intimacy with her, why do you live with her? Just so that she can make you dinner? That doesn't sound too much fun for her. There's nothing wrong with your enjoying the company of ... (read in full...)
I have severe trust issues...What do I make of the text he sent?
Q. Hey,this is prob a real stupid question and i feel stupid for even askin it. Today i got a text from my boyfriend out of the blue saying "hmmm what to get what to get.." I didn't know what he meant from this as thats all he said not even hi how are ...
A. 18 December 2007: When I read it, I thought that he was probably wondering what Christmas present to get you. When I got to the end of your post and found out that he had said the same thing, that confirmed it for me. It's normal that you worry about his texts if ... (read in full...)
I'm underage and worried I could be pregnant, please help!
Q. Hi Ive Been Seeing This Boy For Almost 1 Year Now i love him so much we are underage and decided to go further which wasa big mistake but we tried to move on not taking any risks then i let him go inside me a couple of times then he would come out ...
A. 18 December 2007: The lump at the top of your vagina is your cervix. Did you use any kind of protection at all? How about the morning-after pill? Even if you get your period, I would advise you to take a pregnancy test to set your mind at ease.
What do you mean whe... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and lesbian... should I come out? I fear the negative reactions!
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and have been fairly certain I was gay/lesbian since everyone else started getting crushes on guys... and I started having them on girls. I only really accepted it about 7 or 8 months ago though, and a couple of months after that I got ...
A. 15 December 2007: When I was fifteen I was pretty sure I was gay but still in the phase where I was hoping I wasn't, and that one day I would magically become interested in boys and stop liking girls. Well, it never happened. Still gay, almost ten years later, so ... (read in full...)
She wants out. Can I do anything?
Q. i am a lesbian who has been with my partner for 12yrs.i have cheated on my wife a few times several years ago and told her everything a couple of years ago.during all of this i realized how nieve and weak i was. i took people for face value. i ...
A. 11 December 2007: Dear Mod: just because gay marriages aren't recognised by law doesn't mean that they aren't recognised in every other way. I think if a woman has been with a woman for a long time, had one of those commitment ceremonies, maybe had a couple of kids ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my mouth shut and risk losing out?
Q. Hi... I'm a single lipstick lesbian and have recently started a new job which I absolutely love. The work is really fun and the people I work with are really lovely... I like one girl especially and I'm finding hard to read if she's gay or not? Sh...
A. 7 December 2007: The way I do it, when I'm trying to see if a girl's a Hetty Betty or not, is by starting a conversation about a crazy ex I had. I mean, I just tell some silly story about how funny it was when my crazy ex did this or that, but I use the "she" ... (read in full...)
Poll question. How old were you when you lost your virginity?
Q. Hey would like to know how old were you when you lost your virginity and also did you tell your parents about it or not till later? How were you sure it was the right person?...
A. 29 November 2007: I was nineteen and had left home about three weeks before that, so that was basically my first opportunity to have sex. No, it wasn't the right person. In fact, I never even told her it was my first time, even though we ended up dating for a month. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a threesome, he's willing to do it male/male/female; should I give him a male/female/female one with my sister?
Q. my bf of 9 years wants a threesome I told him if I give him one that I want a mfm which he is fine with, he is getting his best friend cuz he say he can trust him. should I give him a fmf with my sister? if anyone has tried this what should I ...
A. 24 November 2007: Umm... how do you feel about your sister, exactly? If you're sure about the idea of a threesome, wouldn't it be better to have someone outside the circle? Someone it won't be embarrassing to see again? A threesome is one thing; an incestuous ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to get rid of the dog, we fight about it, but I can't do it!
Q. I am 26, my husband is 32. We've been married a short time and have a 6 mo. old and another on the way. I stay home, he works. We rescued a puppy last feb. he was 10 weeks old. My husband has grown increasingly annoyed with the dog, and now is ...
A. 16 October 2007: You need to compromise, and the way you should do that is by thoroughly training the dog. My ex had a puppy that she adored, and I like dogs a lot - but to be honest, it really was very annoying to have the dog in the bed with us and dog hair all ... (read in full...)
Is it weird for an 18 year old not to be interested in sex?
Q. Is it weird for an 18 year old not to be interested in sex? Not only am I not interested I really don't want to do it, I still feel young and that is such an adult thing to do. I would also be very worried about getting pregnant, even though I know ...
A. 12 October 2007: You're just not ready yet. That's okay. In fact, it's a pretty good thing - you seem well-informed and sure of yourself. Don't let yourself be pressured into doing anything you don't want to. One of my best friends was a virgin until she was ... (read in full...)
I have very pale skin - anyone have foundation recommendations?
Q. I have extremely pale skin, and whilst I'm not in anyway ashamed of this or want to change it, I find it very hard to shop for foundation. I have tried Clinique, and most of the less expensive brands, Maybelline, Rimmel, etc. But all of the make up ...
A. 6 October 2007: Same problem, and the best match I've found is Aveda - they have a really good pale foundation for milky-white people like me and you. Shiseido also have a nice porcelain one, although I don't like the texture so much. Happy shopping!... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my new feelings. Should I persue this?
Q. hey all... bit of a dilemma lol.. i am gay and i recently met a girl who is also gay. im 18 and she is 23, we got on really well.. and i started to fall for her. One night i was out with friends and her friends and i told her best mate...
A. 4 October 2007: Lesbian ex problems are the WORST! For some reason, gay girls always have billions of exes who are always popping up all over the place and there's tons of drama. I don't know why it's like that, maybe because the milieus are so small and everyone ... (read in full...)
He says I have changed him in a bad way because he had to take on too much responsibility and clean up after me
Q. I am 26 years old. I have been with my fiance who is 31 for 2 yrs coming Feb. We had a child after 4 mths of meeting eachother. After that happened everything started going down hill. First off, when he met me I was a party girl, lost my job, was ...
A. 27 September 2007: I think that your relationship started out in a certain way - you were the wild one and he was the one who picked up the pieces and told you off about your life, at least, maybe this is the way he sees it. Now that you've calmed down, he's still ... (read in full...)
I started feeling weak, I was trembling, my legs felt like jelly, my head feeling really heavy and I felt as though I was going to faint...
Q. Hi There! I don't know quite how to explain this! But within the last hour, for at least 10 minutes I started feeling weak; I was trembling, my legs felt like jelly, my head feeling really heavy and I felt as though I was going to faint! I'm stil...
A. 27 September 2007: I'm a model. You can be a size ten. Size twelve, even. The way you interact with the camera is more important than the size of your ass - they can always Photoshop that away. And the way you interact with the camera is all to do with the way you ... (read in full...)
My best friend is 17 and her guy is 53! Do I support her?
Q. one of my best friends is 17, 18really soon and shes been seeing this guy for about five months, they're havingsex and everything, theyve said "i love you" and when shes told her parents theyre moving in together. He's a really nice guy and hes not ...
A. 18 September 2007: Is your friend happy with this man? If he seems nice as you say, and if they're happy together and treat each other well, support her. You're a friend - you're not there to judge the politics of her situation. A lot of people are going to be doing ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin after all these years?
Q. My first bf and i was sexually active for about 4 years, he was the first sexual partner but there was never bleeding after sex even after the first time. Now i have a new bf, not long after i broke off with the first, my second partner, but sex...
A. 18 September 2007: Perhaps your first boyfriend never broke your hymen. If you're worried about it, get it checked out. As for virginity, I believe that that comes under the heading of "the first time you make love", not necessarily when your hymen breaks (Jesus, if ... (read in full...)
I had a gay encounter while my new girlfriend was away. Now she is back I don't know how I move on with her?
Q. Hi everyone. I hope you can help me. I'm so depressed at the moment. I've been really confused about my sexuality. For a long time I've been turned on by gay porn and I fantasise about it a lot. One day fives months ago, I made the stupid m...
A. 18 September 2007: It was something you needed to do at the time, you did it, and now it's behind you. Lots of people experiment. Don't worry about it. Why do you feel so guilty about it? Was the girl in question actually your exclusive girlfriend at the time? Put ... (read in full...)
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