My b/f is coming home from Afghanistan, how can I tell him I'm not ready for marriage yet?
Q. Hi guys, I am in a long distance relationship, with my bf in afghanistan in the military; i'm nervous that when he gets back he's going to propose to me and i'm not ready. while i feel strongly about him, his coming back will signal our first ti...
A. 18 May 2010: I am glad it all worked out. And you wish you all the best in the future you make with each other.
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Is it possible to be pregnant from this?
Q. Today my boyfriend and I dry humped. He ended up cumming and we humped for like 15 seconds after he went. He had his boxers on and I had my underwear on. We weren't aware that the tip of penis had slipped right above the elastic of his boxers. He ...
A. 20 January 2010: You are not pregnant. But use this as a learning tool. Be more careful and make him wear a condom.
Good Luck!
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Where do you go to meet nice guys?
Q. I've been single for a while now and so I'm curious about where you would go to meet nice guys? I'm not interested in anyone I work with and I've been going to a few language and dance night classes lately but I haven't met anyone I click with. I've ...
A. 20 January 2010: Stay out of the bars. Look for good men in church, the gym, super market, all over! You might be suprised that one of your good guy friends might be that special "one" if you give him a chance.
Good Luck!
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Is my wife having an affair with our son's coach?
Q. The idea that I am writing this is still odd. I was looking online to find signs of a cheating spouse and I came across this, so here I write. For the last year I have had this growing suspicion that my wife of 13 years has been having an affair. ...
A. 20 January 2010: I don't know if she is cheating, but I do see your concern. There is absolutly no reason why a man needs to text or call your wife, expecially your son's coach. Now is not the time to sit idly by and wait to see if your hunch comes to fruition. ... (read in full...)
Wife staying with friend she used to have sex with!
Q. I have got married to my wife bcoz i needed a visa to stay in Japan. But at the same time i did loved her before we got married and I truly still do (so we just accelerated our marriage). About month ago she informed me that she need some space ...
A. 19 January 2010: I wouldn't let my wife move in with any man, let alone a guy she was involved with. Woman in general are faithful, but you toss in a previous relationship and the close quarters living arangements, and that equals trouble for your marriage.
If yo... (read in full...)
Why is my army boyfriend communicating with me less?
Q. Okay so my boyfriend is in the army and we've been been dating for a year and a half. The first three months he left me for basice training was real hard because we barely communicated but i received letters during his absence every week or so and ...
A. 19 January 2010: Im actually in the Army, and beleive it or not satationed in Hawaii (Schofield BKs) but currently in Iraq. His not talking to you as often can be a variety of reasons. What I suggest you to do is grab the bull by the horns and call this guy and ... (read in full...)
To cum or not?
Q. Well Iv started going out with this girl. We'v started going to the next step rather than kissing. Really I was just asking when the girl goes to give me a "handjob" say in my car or the room or something does the guy "cum" or what? I just thought ...
A. 18 January 2010: Here are some suggestions:
1. Wear a condom
2. Have a towel close by and cum in it
3. Don't cum
Good Luck!
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He's hit me before but we have a kid and I don't want to leave him, what do I do to make this work?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half we have a 5 month old baby together.the first time he hit me was when i was a couple months pregnant i had never been in that situation before i felt as if my life was about to end thats how bad it ...
A. 18 January 2010: If he is hitting you now, it will only get worse. Get out while you can. You are worth it! And if not for you, for your kids.
Good Luck!
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Is it ok to date my Brothers ex?
Q. I would like some answers on dating my brothers ex girlfriend My brother and his ex girlfreind split up 21 years ago and he passed on 3.5 years ago. Is it ok to date her now?...
A. 18 January 2010: No, its not ok. There are so many different people in the world, so I say choose one that your brother hasn't dated or married. It will only cause problems in the long run. I commend you for asking the question. It means that you do care about ... (read in full...)
Penis Pumps - Worth it? Or not?
Q. Hi I've been looking into getting a penis pump - does anybody have one and are there any long term gains from using one? And any problems with them...? What do you think ladies? Any explination would be helpful!...
A. 18 January 2010: Stay away from the pump. You might end up hurting something down there.
Good Luck!
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Give the engagement ring back... or sell it???
Q. I was with my ex-fiance/girlfriend for nearly 4.5 years. Our relationship was very up and down, and I believe I never could make her happy. In fact, I don't think she's a very happy person at all. When we met, we were friends, her then 4 month...
A. 18 January 2010: By law, a ring is a contract. It is a gift in conteplation of marriage. If there was no marriage, the ring is returned. If there is a marriage, the ring belongs to the woman (no matter why the relationship was disolved). See the ring. Stay away ... (read in full...)
Wife number two doesn't like children of wife number one, I have them once a week, and every week she complains
Q. Should I leave my 2nd wife? She and the kids from the 1st wife don't click well at all, I've tried so many things but noting helped, the kids stay with us every Sunday, by Sunday evening she always bitch to me about them, so my week is always m...
A. 18 January 2010: I know exactly where you are coming from. My wife is the sweetest woman in the world, but when it comes to the ex, she can really bring out her claws. I too have a child from my ex and I too was in the situation you currently find yourself. Here ... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with my married boss?
Q. Am considering sleeping with my boss. He is married with a family, and from the outside all seems fairly happy and normal, I am single and have not been in a relationship for a while (so had been feeling rather lonely). I've known him for over 6 ...
A. 17 January 2010: No. Never.
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My boyfriend needs to chose, me or the weed!
Q. Hi...so I have a huge problem going on right now. My boyfriend of almost a year is amazing and I'm very much in lovve with him as he is me. But he has a past with drugs and is now starting to want to get back into doing them. I tell him I don't want ...
A. 17 January 2010: Kick him to the curb. There are way too many fish in the sea. Don't even reason with him, just dump him.
Good Luck!
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Dating: My parents still see me as their little girl
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 posts combined into one. I feel I am ready to date, but my parents have different ideas. I know that when it comes to stuff like dating, they still see me as their little girl. I try to talk to them, but as soon as I start, they won't li...
A. 17 January 2010: The fact is, they love you. I know you feel like you are ready to date, and you might be, but remember that the reason they are protective is that they love you. Thought they might let you date right now, you know and I know that they can't keep ... (read in full...)
Gambling problem and he lies about it!
Q. my fiance is having a gambling problem and i know everytime he does go and then he tells me he went to see a client or went for a drive , and now a dont even know if he does love me when tells me he does , i dont believe a word that comes out off ...
A. 17 January 2010: Gambling is a disgusting disease. He lies because he is embarrased. With gambling, there are highs (winning) and lows (all other times in between). If you love him, make him get help. He can't do it alone.
Good Luck!
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I want to self induce, & I don't care if its not scientifically proven
Q. Hello all. My question is simple really. How do you self - induce labor? I am 39 weeks pregnant with my first baby. My doctor told me that if I have not begun labor within a week and half they will have to induce me. I really prefer not to have to ...
A. 16 January 2010: There are many ways to hurry the process, but the only proven one is time. Here are a few that I know:
1. sex
2. exercise (not heavy exercise, walking is fine)
3. 1 TBSPN of Caster Oil (Old wives tale, it is a stool softener; since women usua... (read in full...)
We met online by accident, and now we are talking of meeting up some place
Q. Hello, So this is a first for me. I started talking this guy online some, basically by accident, and we have talked more and more, spending hours on the phone, texting, and web cam. Hours and hours on web cam. It's unusual that I would get involv...
A. 16 January 2010: Normally I would tell a person to run away from an online relationship (not really knowing who the guy is on the other side). But in your case, I say give it a shot but follow thes few suggestions:
1. Take a friend along (preferably a guy)
2.... (read in full...)
Everytime I hug and kiss my girlfriend my body reacts and its embaressing ...
Q. Ok I'm 14 and i know some of y'all won't think this is serious and all but it is everytime I hug or kiss my girlfriend i get an erection and it embarrases me and I feel akward and I ant just stop hugging and kissing her because shell notice it and ...
A. 16 January 2010: Been there, done that. The problem you are having are normal. Believe it or not, after a while, you will be able to control your erections for when you truely need them.
Good Luck!
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My b/f is coming home from Afghanistan, how can I tell him I'm not ready for marriage yet?
Q. Hi guys, I am in a long distance relationship, with my bf in afghanistan in the military; i'm nervous that when he gets back he's going to propose to me and i'm not ready. while i feel strongly about him, his coming back will signal our first ti...
A. 16 January 2010: First of all, I applaud you for not just saying "yes" if you don't mean it. I do think you are jumping the gun a bit, since you don't really know that he is actually going to ask you yet.
If you do get to that bridge, tell him that you will not... (read in full...)
He didn't end his online message with a "x" does that me he isn't interested?
Q. Is he intrested or not? This guy at uni has been making moves for months to be honest monday and tuesday was great.. wednesday he added me on my uni email account and emailed me.. but i've looked at his reply and i feel hes not intrested. what do ...
A. 15 January 2010: I think that you are worrying too much.
Good Luck!
xoxox
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Can being too wet be a bad thing?
Q. This is a question coming from an obvious virgin, but I'm a little worried at the same time. I get wet very easily and very fast. It's enough to saturate my underwear. My only problem is I'm worried I'm going to be TOO wet when I actualy have sex. ...
A. 15 January 2010: Too wet is alway better than too dry IMHO. Don't worry too much. Seems like you are spending a lot of time building a bridge when you aren't sure if you need one yet. As the others have already said, relax.
Good Luck!
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I have questions about BDSM. Any advice?
Q. I just learned about BDSM this week. My questions are as follows: Is there alot of infidelity involved. Do men really wear chastity belts or this just an expression? Is there alot of bisexuality with this? What types of people are into this? ...
A. 15 January 2010: SatinDesire great post! No matter what you do behind closed doors is anybody's business but your own. Just be safe, make sure the play is consensual, and best of all, enjoy. You only live once~
Good Luck!
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What the hell am I doing???
Q. This guy has been trying to get my attention for the past 5 years. he finally saw me in the store and approached me. I gave him my number because I thought he was attractive. He called me that same night and we began talking. It was an instant ...
A. 15 January 2010: I say give him a chance. If he has been honest with you up to this point, give him the benefit of the doubt.
Good Luck!
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My bf has anger issues, he has cheated and he's hit me 3 times! Stay or go?
Q. hey guys. well i will start with the basics. i'm going out with a boy who is fifteen (the same age as me) and we've been basically going out since year eight (seventh grade) so over the years we have obviously become very close, but we have been ...
A. 14 January 2010: Run away, and don't look back. You are too good for him.
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What does it mean when you have stretch marks?
Q. well this isn't a sex or relationship question but I hope you can help me. What do stretch marks mean? Are you gaining or losing weight?...
A. 14 January 2010: I agree with the others. Stretch marks come in all varities. For instance, since your body is rapidly growing at your age, this stretches your skin leaving a stretch mark. Some pregnant women get them and so do people that lift weights. They are ... (read in full...)
My b/f's friends are into weed and I am having trouble accepting it!
Q. Hi - I have just moved countries to be with my boyfriend and I am just starting to get to know his estabished friends most of whom he knows through sport. He has been cagey about me meeting them, even though I was really looking forward to it, and ...
A. 14 January 2010: Unless they are pressuring you or your b/f to partake in the illegal activities, I really don't see a problem. I wouldn't hang around they while they are in the act of smoking, but other than that I don't see why your b/f can't be friends with ... (read in full...)
My husband got laid off and has turned into a couch potato!
Q. Ok please help me understand. My husband has been laid off for 3 or 4 month now and he has be come a couch potato. He is so lazy even our daughter sees it. She will say daddy you are a lazy butt. He sleeps till 11:00 or 12:00 every day and then ...
A. 14 January 2010: I agree with the others. Though he is trying to hide his depression, he clearly needs help. Don't forget that you two are a team. Do what you can to help your husband out of this rut. A start would be a little encouragement.
Good Luck!
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Should I tell him he could have aspergers?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and we live together. He's always seemed adorably quirky and awkward to me, but recently a friend who works with aspergers a lot pointed out to me that he is a textbook example of someone with ...
A. 13 January 2010: Wow. If the symptoms are so obvious, why hasn't a doctor diagnosed him? If you are that sure, tell him. But beware of the consequences. If you are wrong and I would guess that you probably are, how will he feel knowing that all the quirks that ... (read in full...)
How do I break up and return his necklace?
Q. I want to brake up with my boyfriend how do I give him his necklace back??...
A. 12 January 2010: Just tell him your mother is upset that you are dating and she won't let you have such a nice gift from a boy. That should do it.
Good Luck!
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Has anyone dated a twin and is that difficult?
Q. i have just begun talking to this girl who i think is amazing and beautiful, and she has a identical twin. Has anyone dated a twin and is that difficult? i would think there are things that are hard to say, like if you tell her shes beautiful t...
A. 12 January 2010: I never dated a twin, but I knew a few. The girls I knew (though identical to me) viewed themselves as completly different. By saying she is pretty, I don't think she will take it the wrong way.
Good Luck!
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I think the girl I'm dating has a drinking problem!
Q. dating this girl for about 8 months and i think she may have a drinking problem..she goes out a few times a week for "dinner" with friends and has called me from the cab at 1 am and seemed drunk on more than a few occassions..she also has a few ...
A. 12 January 2010: If she drinks for the sole purpose to get drunk, she has a drinking problem. The last one to see the problem is going to be her (and she might never admit it). If she does infact have a drinking problem, the only way to help her is professional ... (read in full...)
I've been waiting 6 years to find someone like him but worried about his employment
Q. I am divorced for six years and although I have dated a little, haven't found the right guy. I have recently met a wonderful man, who is really decent and honest and treats me very well and I know he really cares about me and vice versa. The ...
A. 12 January 2010: Should you start a relationship with this man? You are the only one in position to answer this question. From what you describe, he doesn't sound like a guy that is bottom feeding. He seems like a guy that is down on his luck. He has some great ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend kissed his ex, and I have started stalking her
Q. I'm in a real mess and want to stop with what I'm doing... A while back, few months, my boyfriend told me that he met up with his ex oneday and she asked if they could kiss one last time, and they did. I was so hurt by this, since we've been ...
A. 12 January 2010: You need to either forgive him, or forget him. The stalking needs to quit immediatly before you get arrested. You feeling are justified, but you have to move on. So like I said before, either forgive him, and let him go. Good Luck! Jeff... (read in full...)
My partner puts me down all the time ... and I don't know why
Q. Hi, I'm really hoping for some help. I think you guys are great (I've posted on here before) and now I'm very upset so I thought maybe I could get some perspective here. I've been with my partner since 2002 and when I first met him he was loving, ...
A. 12 January 2010: I don't know if this relationship is worth saving. Right now, the most important thing is your health, and your partner isn't being supportive of it. If anything, he is causing you more heartache than anything else. If it were up to me, I would ... (read in full...)
My friends have laughed at me because I worry I might be pregnant
Q. Hey guys.. Ok, this may seem really stupid and funny to ye but im actually freaking out here.. My periods a week late. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex (although we've talked about it). He's fingered me and I've given him hand jobs.. Is there any ...
A. 12 January 2010: If what you have written is true. You are not pregnant. The stress is delaying your period. Good Luck! Jeff... (read in full...)
I am the guy who always goes home alone
Q. I was wondering if I could get some opinions on not only still being single at 29, but never having been in a relationship at all. Im 29 and Im starting to feel like some kind of weirdo. I was very shy when I was younger but came out of my shell in ...
A. 12 January 2010: It could be a number of things. 1. Are your standards too high? I had friends in college that wouldn't talk to a woman unless she was perfect. He didn't date much. 2. Are you outgoing? 3. Are you missing her signals? Now that I am olde... (read in full...)
Brother and sister playing footsie..too close?
Q. I had a concern and maybe it is not. We were watching a movie yesterday and my fiance was sitting with his sister on the coach. It just was alittle wierd for me they were all bunched up together and were playing footsies but it looked weird and I ...
A. 11 January 2010: You are over reacting. I would bet a pretty penny that his relationship with his sister is normal. Just remember that the way he treats a sibling is a good indication how he treats women in general. Seems like you got a keepr if you ask me.
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I got drunk and kissed a guy from work, do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. Hi there... Well basically I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months now and I really love him. We were best friends for about 3 years before we got together. Everything is great now but the start of the relationship was a bit awkward r...
A. 11 January 2010: If you really love your boyfriend, I suggest you keep your secret to yourself. What do you gain for telling him? Nothing. And don't let it happen again.
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Scared of Anal sex?
Q. I'm 19. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year, and I've built up this barrier in our sex life. I'm afraid to have anal sex, so much so that I've made him believe I can't have it or I'll freak out. I know he had anal sex in his previous ...
A. 11 January 2010: You said you tried it a few times, and it wasn't enjoyable. Thats really all that he can ask. I commend you for trying something different, but enough is enough. If you didn't enjoy it, find something else that you do. Anal sex just isn't all ... (read in full...)
Discretly ask boyfriend to lose weight?
Q. How do I kindly and discreetly ask my boyfriend to lose weight with me? I don't want him to lose a lot, but just a little, and I don't know how to go about doing it. ...
A. 11 January 2010: If you love him and want him to lose a little weight, why not exercise together. Tell him you want to tone up a bit and would like for him to join you. Possibly join a gym or just walk/job together. If you make it about you instead of about him, ... (read in full...)
Can a labia majora be docked?
Q. my best friend has a quite big labia majora and a friend of us suggested her that she should put a rubber round it so it can cut out(docked),like people do it on dog's tails.is that ok?i am worried about her......
A. 11 January 2010: Not a good idea. Better yet, a terrible idea.
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