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Which girl should I pursue?

Q.   Which Girl Should I pursue? Girl A I been good friends with this one girl for a long time and we hang out like twice a week (burger king, houses) and we talk on the phone a lot. Only problem: she says she has a boyfriend who has been to jail and...

A.   22 February 2010: Ignoring the whole boyfriend in jail thing - does girl A show any interest in you like THAT (and I mean more than just a friend)? Because it does not sound like girl B does if you have to start the conversation every time. I would say given th... (read in full...)

Curious about moral convictions on sex....

Q.   Curious about moral convictions on sex. I was raised Christian, and sex outside of marriage is a sin--period. What are others' thoughts? Thanks so much! --GG...

A.   17 February 2010: I was not raised with any sort of religious "guidance" and I feel that it is completely up to the person if they want to have sex or not. For me I am still a virgin and I would rather wait for that special girl to come along before I lose it. I ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has caught me flirting online, and now he hasn't spoke to me for over a month!

Q.   question to the guys. my boyfriend of four years has caught me flirting online. its not the first time and we always broke up because of it. i never cheated i did it for a laugh when he was at work,i did text them but never met any. i denied it and ...

A.   17 February 2010: Yea I agree with everyone else on here and that he is not being stubborn. How can you expect him to trust you if you are flirting/texting people online when he is not home? Even though you may deny it how does he know that you aren't exchanging ... (read in full...)

I've dreamt of being in a relationship with her but now there is a chance of it happening I'm scared I might be a rebound or it might not be the right thing for her

Q.   I met this girl in my college biology class. I remember the first time we met like it was yesterday and yet I can't seem to understand how it has been only 5 months. We clicked it off immediately. We were suppose to be studying but we'd chat about ...

A.   15 February 2010: Well when you say that "I want her to have the perfect man. I don't know if I'll be enough." my first thought was that it is her decision if you are the "perfect man" and if you are enough or not. She has to be the one to make that decision and if ... (read in full...)

Lack of experience...any tips to share?

Q.   Im a 20 year old guy who has never had sex/date/or gf. i consider myself pretty decent-looking and have confidence. i talked to a couple of girls from high school that were just friends but the biggest problem i have is my lack of experience in ...

A.   31 January 2010: I know exactly where you are coming from with this. I am 22 and never had sex and only one gf that dumped me over the phone. Unfortunately (and I am coming to realize this now) is that sometime you just have to go out on a limb. Not necessarily ... (read in full...)

Should we wait longer to have sex?

Q.   hey im 15 and im thinking about having sex with my girlfreind but my penis is 5.5" erect with the girth of 4" is it too small and should i wait longer + will a condom fit ?...

A.   31 January 2010: Well first off I would say wait because your 15 (but thats probably not what you want to hear). Are you only wanting to have sex because its the "cool" thing to do at that age? Or you just want to brag about losing your virginity at 15? If so ... (read in full...)

How can I stop comparing our relationship to others?

Q.   I really need some advice. I can't stop comparing my relationship to others and i am becoming increasingly more jealous of other girls around my boyfriend. I don't know why i do it and its really getting me down...i keep taking it out on m...

A.   31 January 2010: I think it is just human nature to compare things to your situation. I see it all the time where people compare relationships, financial situations, careers, and their physical features to others. So don't feel bad for doing that and remember that ... (read in full...)

I need a reason to call her! Help!

Q.   So, im in 9th grade, me and my crush are getting along great, flirting alot and stuff, i just got her number today, and i really want to call her, the problem is i have no reason to. We have no homework, we arent actually girlfriend and boyfriend ...

A.   1 September 2009: Well depending on how you two are when hanging out and talking at school (if she seems interested in you), I would ask her if she wants to hang out sometime (see a movie, dinner, maybe an upcoming school sporting/social event, etc.) If you do... (read in full...)

I'm tired of my fear of dating! Help!

Q.   Ok, I have a little problem. I'm afraid to go out with guys. I dont really know why. Well I do think that guys use us!! For sex and that we mean nothing at all. Just a time filler. I guess I want to know, is it true? Because I'm tired of being ...

A.   24 July 2009: To be fair women use men too. Its true some men use women for sex while women (in all of my experiences) use men for money. But you cant let the few bad apples ruin everyone else. Just because some guys use women for that does not mean that all ... (read in full...)

Thinking about boyfriend's bestfriend while masterbating.

Q.   Is it really ok if I masturbate while thinking about my boyfriends best friend?? I kinda feel bad about it....

A.   24 July 2009: What happens in your mind is your business. As cgrlygo said - dont call his name out at the wrong time.... (read in full...)

Am I a freak for remaining a virgin?

Q.   All my friends, guys and girls alike, have participated in sex of some sort. So I can't help but feel like a pariah when they begin to talk about their sexual encounters when they go on about, "Such and such made me a woman/man the other day." I ...

A.   24 July 2009: Honestly I cant answer the first one accurately because i have not had sex before but I would think that its different for everyone (some wait until marriage, some wait for love, some on the first date, etc.) Only you will know when you are ready. ... (read in full...)

Head over heels..... Now What?

Q.   Hello, Thanks for reading my post. I met a gorgeous girl that i am falling hard for. We met about 6 weeks ago, and every moment we have spent together has been perfect ever since. Very romantic dates... and We've had amazing conversations, amazing ...

A.   1 June 2009: I would say just tell her how you feel but maybe put it like "I would like to be in an relationship with you." Get your point across but not to strong. As you said, "I got the impression she was opposed to a committed relationship, although... (read in full...)

The other guy...

Q.   Hi, who ever reads this, my name is kurt. I recently got into a relationship several months ago, 9 to be exact. His name is bob. We met on craigslist. What was supposed to be a one nite thing turned into a 9 month relationship. THE PROBLEM: ...

A.   2 December 2008: No your not crazy, you care about him and there is nothing crazy about that. As far as how to break it off I would just be blunt and honest with him about those texts and pictures. Basically if he hasn't cheated on you then it will be very likely ... (read in full...)

I wanna have my own baby!

Q.   ok im 13 and i wanna hav sex i already told ma mom to put me on the pill. she already made the appointment. i wanna have a baby wat do i do. i raised ma little brother all by myself and i loved it i want to do it again but with ma own baby. ...

A.   5 October 2008: I personally would say wait till your done with school and then do that. Your too young for that right now at age 13 and still in school. I know a few mothers who are still in high school and they wish they could wait till later in life to be a ... (read in full...)

Is a four year age gap acceptable in a relationship?

Q.   Is 17 and 21 an ok age difference? My cuson is nearly 17 and she likes a guy whos 21, is 4 years an ok age differnce? we live in the UK so its legal...

A.   4 September 2008: There is more to a relationship than the age of the people involved. Mainly are they happy together? Thats more important than that number will ever be.... (read in full...)

Am I being too hard on my boyfriend?

Q.   Hello I need some help here. I have been with this guy for around 6 months, we get along really well, and he does everything to please me, he is a wonderfull guy. We are exclusive, and we have strong feelings for each other. When we started dating I...

A.   29 August 2008: I think that a possible reason he could be wanting you to plan everything is that he wants to make sure you have a good time and that you are having fun. As a guy I am the same way, my worst fear is that the girl I'm with isn't having a good time ... (read in full...)

What advice can you give me for the future?

Q.   Hi. I went out on the town tonight and had barely any contact with a woman at all. I was lucky to even get involved in a conversation. I usually get lots of attention but tonight I have come home feeling disappointed. I know when you go out you ...

A.   16 February 2008: Hey i've been there and done that several times. I know it sucks but thats how life is :( Just becuase you went out this one time and nothing happened that doesn't mean that you are "never going to meet the right girls", it just means that ... (read in full...)

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