Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 14 February 2010: You do indeed have a problem. I can't imagine why any man with a choice would stay with you unless he's submissive.... (read in full...)
I am 13 and I am conteplating giving my boyfriend my virginity for valentines day
Q. ok. so me and my bf have been together for like EVER. we've been together so long that i lost count of the months. befor i lost count it was like 18 months. anyway i love him so much and i want to please him for v-day(if u know wat i mean) but im ...
A. 11 February 2010: bad idea. don't do it.... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 8 February 2010: Thank you Miamine, that's all very civil of you. I have to stress though I never used the word "aggressive" or anything close to it nor did I say "fat" - I weigh 290 pounds myself for heaven's sake!
To the anonymous Chinese lady, I have to say t... (read in full...)
Is it possible to kiss a girl's breast during sex or foreplay?
Q. I want to ask a question about this. It confused me sometimes whenever i want to do it. The thing is that i want to suck or kiss my girl friend breast during sex or foreplay, i wonder maybe i might taste the milk during sucking or kissing her ...
A. 7 February 2010: It is almost essential that you do so!... (read in full...)
Sex is not working out for us. Why is that?
Q. well im fat and me and this girl went to have sex... it was my first time but not her first... she was tight but not tight tight... but she hadnt had sex in like a month... she was on top and we couldnt get it in... i couldnt get fully har...
A. 7 February 2010: Put in 15 - 20 minutes with your tongue first. She will be very happy already so your "performance" will no longer be an issue and everything will be nice a wet and slidey and you'll have no problem getting in.... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 7 February 2010: I seem to have offended a number of black ladies including the OP and quite likely others here. That was never my intention. The OP raised a provocative question - read it again - it is provocative to ask why despite many estimable qualities
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Is there a way to be married before God by man of the cloth and take vows but not file the paperwork and she still change her last name?
Q. I've been married and divorced. I want to eventually marry my new girlfriend, but we have a difference in marriage processes. She wants to be married the "right" way which is being registered with the state. However, I do not believe in the ...
A. 7 February 2010: As far as I'm aware in the US she can change her name to whatever she likes. If you find a friendly clergyman he can conduct a "blessing" service which can be very much like a marriage service. ... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 5 February 2010: I'm sorry, I was not trying to be offensive, but you asked an interesting question and I and others were trying to find answers. The facts support my view that African American women do plump up more. Whether that is a reason that you are having ... (read in full...)
I am falling for a married man
Q. Hello, I would like to have your advice on this situation and please don’t judge me if possible. Well, you will agree with me that we have little control over our feelings. At my place of work, there is a man who really turns me on. I have a crush ...
A. 4 February 2010: Really, do nothing. Married man & a colleague - there is no way that ends well for you.... (read in full...)
I believe he has changed, but my mother says he is a jerk!
Q. Hi I am 18 years old My boyfriend is 24 We first started dating when I was only 13 After almost five years together He changed and I knew something was wrong I kind of knew he was cheating I believe that us women just know that kind of things we get ...
A. 4 February 2010: Trust your mother. Always.... (read in full...)
Boy, revenge is sweet...
Q. Hi, my wife recently cheated on me with a guy who lives in a small town about 10 miles away from me, anyway to cut a long story short I found everything out, confronted my wife and then I confronted the guy in question and gave him the mandotary ...
A. 4 February 2010: No, no, no, no. Well done with the punch on the chin, exactly the correct thing to do in the situation, kudos but NO to all the psycho stalker stuff - comes across as very girly and risks severe loss of dignity for you. ... (read in full...)
Office teasing/bullying makes me paranoid...
Q. So I really like were I work. I'm also bisexual, but not openly so. But the work place is non-western and very homophobic. there are obviously gay guys working there but no-one mentions it or brings it up in front of them a bit like an elephant in ...
A. 4 February 2010: Don't take this to your boss, please. Fact is that you will be branded as a trouble maker and that will follow you to your next job. You're marking yourself out as someone who needs to be protected and therefore an employee of limited potential. ... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 4 February 2010: I'm very very white and I live in a culture (China) which has an unfortunately negative attitude towards black people, however as a child I was substantially raised, with wonderful kindness, by African and Pacific Island women. Almost everyone I ... (read in full...)
I'm antisocial and my mom wants me to do something about it
Q. So I'm antisocial and my mom wants me to do something about it. I'm 16 and I've lived in the same place for like 8 years and I have some people I talk to at school but not out of it and I really don't mind. I don't have the same interests as anybody ...
A. 4 February 2010: Honestly, very few people are worth the time. You're better off with a book.... (read in full...)
I waited 3 months for a dinner reservation in a top restaurant and my bf has just cancelled out. Is it ok to take another man to not miss out on the dining experience?
Q. A while back I booked a table at the supposedly best restaurant in the UK and it took me 3 months and a cancellation to get in. My b/f has known about it for weeks and how excited I am about it. Today he texts me to say that the mother of his child ...
A. 3 February 2010: Take a girlfriend and enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
Are any married women prepare to put up with a cheating husband?
Q. Hello! I am curious to know - are there ANY married women out there who would put up with a cheating husband? If so, do you pretend not to know what's going on behind your back? Do you take care of your children and ignore his lies and betrayals? ...
A. 3 February 2010: It is fairly common in this part of the world but part of the deal is that the lead wife has to be no 1 and not lose face. When Taiwanese businessmen are posted to the mainland often their wives prefer to stay in Taiwan with the children. They ... (read in full...)
My partner of 4 years will insert a vibrator, accept oral, but wont give me anything in return and just tells me to 'sort myself out'.
Q. Hi. I am 23 and my girlfriend 25. We have been dating for just over 4 years and living together for 3. In all the time we have been together we have never had sex. We tried at the start of our relationship but it hurt and she has been relucta...
A. 2 February 2010: You're being abused, she should change or you should leave.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband wear his wedding ring?
Q. My new husband is always forgetting his wedding ring. It drives me crazy and a little offended as well. I asked him if he doesn't want to wear it and why, he says that thats not it and I don't believe him. Why do you think he doesn't wear it?...
A. 2 February 2010: We're not used to wearing rings and it takes us a while to get used to the unusual feeling - like putting a saddle on a horse or a collar on a dog. We get used to it in the end.... (read in full...)
Another cheating husband! Now I have trust issues!
Q. Dear cupid Please take your time and give me your views. I am married and have been with my husband for 30yrs,I found out that he was having an affair with a girl 20yrs younger (also married)I was devastated as i never dreamed that he would cheat a...
A. 1 February 2010: Regardless of the cheating you should not stay with a man that hits you. I am a married man who cheats and so my view, however distasteful, may be more relevant than some: Can he really stay faithful ? NO. NOT A CHANCE. He has been doing thi... (read in full...)
My huby thinks I should forgive and forget his 2 year affair!
Q. I found out my husband has been having an affair and texting this woman for 2 years i accidently found itemised bills and now he expects me just to forgive and forget and move on. how can i do this we have been married for 41years ...
A. 1 February 2010: Apart from his affair has he been a good husband, does he treat you well, spend time with you, take care of you etc. If so, try to think of this affair as nothing more than him having a regular tennis partner that he quite likes - I'd be pretty ... (read in full...)
My friends think I am just a booty call. Am I?
Q. I've known a guy through a mutual friend for 2 years. We have slept together 4 times. After each time, I would send a general message, from a friend to a friend asking how things were going, but I would receive no reply. From what it seems, he ...
A. 31 January 2010: I'm sorry but yes this sounds like a booty call situation and once the partern is established it is unlikely to change. I know that this seems like hateful behaviour on my behalf but I have someone that I treat somewhat like this. She's lovely ... (read in full...)
24th girl shot me down in a row, please help me!
Q. this question is for the woman reading. I dont know whats wrong with me im a nice guy, very patient, understanding, and good listener. but all the girls i hang out with awile then become good friends with them, i ask some of them out, but i always ...
A. 31 January 2010: Stop keeping count. Ask them out right away before you are friends. Don't become "one of the girls". Don't be so nice - please don't go out and be offensive to women but don't put girls up on a pedestal, they don't like it up there. No one ... (read in full...)
Are some people simply destined to be alone all their lives?
Q. At age 25 i have never been in a relationship and obviously still a virgin never kissed anyone and as each day passes i see myself growing older and lonlier. I suffer badly from depression and anxiety i have no self esteem at all no confiden...
A. 31 January 2010: No it is not hopeless but frankly you are in a bad way and some fairly radical reinvention is called for. The best way to completely chance your life is to move yourself to a new city, better still a new country or new continent. Go somewhere ... (read in full...)
He calls me names and he has stopped taking care of himself. Should I dump him?
Q. My boyfriend calls me a bitch sometimes when he's mad. We've been together for 4 years now, but we just got back together at the end of October after I broke up with him for 3 months. One of the agreements for us to be a couple again was that he ...
A. 31 January 2010: No woman should stay with a man/ boy that says that to her.... (read in full...)
I think there is a huge problem of woman simply spreading there legs and thinking that is all that is required of them.
Q. For the first 10 years of marriage my wife hasn't been sexual at all. She new absolutly nothing at all about sex and could care less about learning anything new. Of course she couldn't have an orgasm. She did do her wifely duties and would spread ...
A. 30 January 2010: Honestly the majority of young women are not like this. I think that you are better off thinking about getting out of your situation.... (read in full...)
Am I a fool to believe his promises that he won't cheat again? I want this to work!
Q. I know everyone is different but do you believe in those sayings 'a leopard never changes its spots' and 'once a cheat always a cheat'? Having read these sort of replies on here many times its now happened to me. My partner has cheated on me an...
A. 30 January 2010: The whole "once a cheat always a cheat" mindset is rather childish and simplistic. Real life is more complicated than that. It is true that patterns of behavior tend to repeat themselves and that once a pattern is established it can be very ... (read in full...)
Why are guys insecure when they know a girl has been with a larger penis?
Q. The other night my boyfriend and I were talking about sex and he brought up his size, which I said was perfect. He then asked how he fits in size wise with past boyfriends I have been with and if I had been with larger than him. Of course he c...
A. 30 January 2010: Unfortunately there is a lot of social programming that leads young men to believe that big is better when it comes to penises. It is maybe a little more subtle than the message to young women that they had best have big boobs and slim waist but ... (read in full...)
My g/f sometimes sleeps in the same bed as her mum
Q. My gf (she's 22 years old) some times she still sleeps with her mother when her father is at work on the night shift. She is not the only daughter but she only does sleep with her mum, I find it kinda weird ?How do you view it? Thanks ...
A. 27 January 2010: Very normal here in China.... (read in full...)
I got my sister pregnant.
Q. I'll give you some background im 22 and i have an 18 year old sister. We've always been really close. When my mom and dad split up she was made to decide where she wanted to live. I had already moved out and got an appartment so to spite our parents ...
A. 23 January 2010: I'm sorry but you should really take immediate action to lose this baby. It is not a nice thing to have to do but in this case it really is the lesser of two evils. Keep some condoms in the house.... (read in full...)
Is your first time really special?
Q. When people say your first time is special is that..really..true or are they saying its fun have fun..is it bad to think that i want to get my first time through so i can get the pain over with..idk i KNOW im 15 but it seems like its time to be ...
A. 13 January 2010: Don't build up your expectations too high. Like anything if you raise your expectations to high you are likely to be disappointed, especially if the guy that you are doing it with is a teenaged boy. The point is that one way or another you will ... (read in full...)
I'm being harrassed by his wife! How do I get rid of this married man I had an affair with?
Q. I recently read an article in regards to a women in a relationship with a married man for 18 years and some of the comments were pretty harsh, understandable, but harsh. Like her, I too was in a long term relationship with a married man, 13 years. ...
A. 13 January 2010: Move.... (read in full...)
Will using a condom keep me a virgin?
Q. Ok here's another question for all of you wouldn't having sex for the first time with a condom on keep me a virgin? lol and plz read the question before answearing it ...
A. 13 January 2010: No, of course not. But it might keep you from being a Daddy.... (read in full...)
Is my present really that insulting?
Q. So my friend is getting married soon and I decided to make her a couple of soft toys as part of her wedding present (I've become quite good at soft toy making). I had a look through my pattern books and saw this really cute elephant pattern I just ...
A. 13 January 2010: Sounds like a cute and thoughtful wedding present - better than a toaster. I'd steer away from it only it the couple have reason to be self conscious about their size.... (read in full...)
Am I repulsive?
Q. dear agony aunts, well i guess im kind of embarrassed to ask this but here i go. im not fat, as in, reallllly big, im about a size 14. i have small boobs and a bigger belly, and i know they say that the guy you love (and who loves you) will ...
A. 13 January 2010: Obvious he DOESN'T find you repulsive to look at otherwise it wouldn't have got this far. Looks are most important at the first impressions stage and as you have got through that stage it seems that he doesn't have an issue.
If you yourself... (read in full...)
Scared of Anal sex?
Q. I'm 19. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year, and I've built up this barrier in our sex life. I'm afraid to have anal sex, so much so that I've made him believe I can't have it or I'll freak out. I know he had anal sex in his previous ...
A. 11 January 2010: Don't do it. Anal sex is great for those that like it but many many people don't like it and don't do it. It is not one of the things that fall within the range of things that a boyfriend has a right to "expect" you to do. ... (read in full...)
Can a labia majora be docked?
Q. my best friend has a quite big labia majora and a friend of us suggested her that she should put a rubber round it so it can cut out(docked),like people do it on dog's tails.is that ok?i am worried about her......
A. 11 January 2010: Bad bad bad idea for all kinds of reasons. First of all what on earth is wrong with big lips on a girl?... (read in full...)
Worried about nipple size
Q. This is probably a self-esteem question. I've been seeing this guy for a while, and I want to take it to the next level. Not sex yet, but other things. I have a problem with my body though and I'm scared he won't find me attractive after. My chest ...
A. 7 January 2010: Sounds very cute. He'll be delighted.... (read in full...)
What do women mean when they say they only want to be friends cause they are not ready for a relationship?
Q. I've recently started talking to someone, she knows i have strong feelings for her, but she just had her heart broke by a guy and says shes not ready just yet and this is an email she sent to my ex gf who both get on well and are actually talking ...
A. 7 January 2010: If a girl is attracted to you she will act on it. If she doesn't feel it then everything else is just a rationalisation of the way that she feels. The fact that she may be a sweet and lovely girl doesn't really change the fundamental dynamics of ... (read in full...)
My husband has been watching real life couples having sex on a porn site whilst he is working away, is this normal?
Q. been married just less than a year and found out that my husband who works away has been viewing real life couples having sex on a porn sight. i am shocked and wonder if anybody thinks that this is what men do when working away and is it normal?...
A. 6 January 2010: He must have been following the porn related discussions on this site in which we are told that all porn is artificial and asked how can wives be expected to measure up to the 18 year old, silicon enhanced, airbrushed porn babes. By going for ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my erection is hard enough?
Q. I am a virgin and I'm a little worried about if my erection is hard enough. I can get erections easily and things fill out well, it just seems like the "grip" is lose. I don't know how much sway it should have while I'm erect. Can anyone ...
A. 6 January 2010: Take a typical averagely loaded women's handbag, slip the handles over your erect dick. If you can hold it in place for at least a count of 25 seconds then you are good to go. If it flops off then you may have stiffy related issues.... (read in full...)
What do women mean when they say they only want to be friends cause they are not ready for a relationship?
Q. I've recently started talking to someone, she knows i have strong feelings for her, but she just had her heart broke by a guy and says shes not ready just yet and this is an email she sent to my ex gf who both get on well and are actually talking ...
A. 6 January 2010: She feels that you are a nice guy but she doesn't feel any gut level attraction for you.... (read in full...)
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