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writes:My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago and I'm still getting over it. I'm wondering if writing things down will either help me get over it (by letting some stuff out on the paper) or it will make me reminisce and think about all the good times we had and make me sad again as I miss her a lot.Since the break-up (or break, I can't decide what it is) I've wanted to write a book about heartbreak from a guys point of view but am scared of whether it will put me on a slippery slope after bringing back all the memories. Any advice on what you think I should do?
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (9 September 2009):
 It seems there was a lot going on there with your ex girlfriend and this seems to have been a real heartbreaker. Klara's advice was pretty good actually. Write it down, anything, keep it private and then burn it all at the end.
The reason why she's saying that is that the best way to get past this is to let all the pain out, and writing it all down and then burning it at the end is a way of symbolically getting rid of the pain forever.
You're still grieving over this and it takes some time to heal yourself.
As far as your drive to write a book, well what you're going through is that stage of listless energy where you want to do something, anything but feel paralyzed at the same time.
Klara's advice helps you do that and allow you to try and do other things in your life till you're ready to start again.
It takes time to get over this and if you have some friends or family to talk to about it, that can help alot too. But if you're doing this on your own, then its a little tougher.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): I'd personally suggest you do this, actually. Do it in digital form (type it, don't write it on paper; whether you want to keep it or not is up to you) if you're worried about someone reading it.
This method generally helps me (I too am trying to forget someone), but my situation is very different, so YMMV... I'd recommend it though.
Also, you could read my article on getting over someone. A lot of it may not apply to you (it's aimed at teenagers), but I hope some of the tips (like writing down the list of life goals) will help:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-crush-on-an.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): just dont write it down.as i too had done this and landed in different sorts of problems,with mom,friends,dad,etc
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