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ArmyMedic
writes:Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering.Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys reading this disagree with me please shout out.When you are dating, the first few weeks it's cute for your girlfriend to send you lots and lots of texts through out the day, after a few weeks and her replying every text with "luv u tb xoxoxox" I started to wonder what tb was so naturally I asked and it means text back! WHAT? Seriously telling me to text her back after every message.So here is an example of a typical girl/boy text conversation:G: Hey babe, how r u? TB xoxoB: Good thanks hun xG: What you doing? TB xoxoB: Just chilling x G: What do you want to do tonight? TB xoxoxB: I don't mind xYou get the picture, now in my opinion as a boy the text could have gone like this:G: Hey babe, how are you? Do you fancy doing something tonight, I thought we could meet at x at x time. What do you think? xoxoxB: Yeah sounds good see you there xxBoys like to be efficient and to the point, long dragged out text conversations are boring and waste our precious time on the xbox as the phone beeps we pause the game and reply, then continue, then beep beep, pause the game, and this goes on for 8 hours or more!As a rule after 3 texts from anyone I will call them as they obviously are bored and want a chat, and just because they have 70,000 free text messages doesn't mean they have to use them all on me!Girls it's not that we don't love you but we boys don't like texts, the older guys amongst us really HATE text speak, and we all have little sausage fingers that are not designed for our little phones, please if you want to tell us something get to the point, or if you want a chat phone us and we'll be much happier.Just because you are bored doesn't mean we are, so don't get offended if we don't reply, give it some time and don't barrage us with messages because we will ignore them because you are starting to bother us, it's a whole new way of girls being clingy.I personally, have finished with a girl for over texting and using text speak all the time.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (23 January 2010):
 Hey, I'm female and I will give an AMEN to that one too.
Texting just shits me big time.
I've never initiated a text chat (I do send a few people pic's occassionally tho but don't even bother writing anything), and pretty much coz I agree with all the OP's sentiments and a few more reasons to boot.
I especially hate those silly little girly chain mail things - what rot, and probably initiated originally by some person in the basement of the phone company trying to generate some text message fee revenue ..lol
Thankfully, most of my friends have now learnt that I wont bother with a dragged out text chat, and that if I dont send their silly chain mail back, that I still love them anyway ..lol. I do have to worry tho that I will come off rude with new people tho, so yep, like the OP, I just pic the blooming phone up and spare myself the pain in the butt. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): nice explanation...
but what if she only texted once? just to say hello? and the guy usually wants a quick reply from her when he initiates the contact. but if she does, it takes him ages to reply, sometimes never at all...
why do they do that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): lol exactly! Amen brother. Amen and Hallelujah! I have been against texting for a long time. You have outlined many of the reasons for me.On the flip side of it, texting is also mad impersonal. have you ever been broken up with by text? Nothing is more infuriating than that. It's like what? They can't even muster the nerve to talk to you?
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reader, uncle111  +, writes (26 April 2009):
if you r txting a girl to the 50/50 thing so she dont get mad and you dont get mad and for the guys call the chick and the girl will call to that 50/50 its not fair to you both to call every day if just one of you r doing the callling or txting there a exmaple hey how r you today give the girl a morning txt message lol it does them good say like good morning beautiful have a good day ill call you later or you can txt me later and so on lol
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