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writes:i am on the topic of trying new things that we never done before and it has already been done and that whats keeping us closer and we even come to a conclusion to moving to a different city for that major change. i am a gay dad of a 8year old boy who also lives with me. we are like a family. the hard part is that my bf has a heart of a kid and does not want to grow up and like who does but again he is a shopping freak and that where it kills us for money but we do pay our bills. shopping to him is like a diamond for a girls best friend and i can not take that happiness away from him. he says that we should wait on the sex and give time and what should i do about that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): not overly sure what you have asked but i'm reading between the lines (maybe tooo much) but i feel like you are basically saying a man has moved into your home with oyu and your young son, you obviously love the guy and cannot stop him spending stupid amounts of money. You pay the bills and i suppect you and your son go without the glamour of shopping for yourselfs sop your boyfriend can continue to act like a kid? Then and this is the bit that makes me laugh.... he wants to wait beofre you have sex. That means what exactly? I see this guy is having his cake and eating it mate. Sounds like you are being used big time.
Stop with the pampering and give your love, time and attention (and money) to the real child in your life.
If i've got it all total wrong then sorry and i regest that you re-write your question making the situation clearer.
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reader, rugmonkey +, writes (7 July 2009):
I'm not sure I understand your question, could you restate it?
If money is an issue, you need to have some frank discussions about it. Shopping is fine, but maybe instead of Banana Republic he should be spending time at Old Navy or Ross, or The Goodwill.
As far as waiting for sex. That's not always a bad thing. It allows you to see if there's any basis for a relationship before becoming blinded by the intense bonding that sex can create.
Good luck!
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