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We got drunk, made out, fooled around... And now she's gone mentalist with me!

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Question - (31 March 2006) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 April 2006)
A male United States, anonymous writes:

Last Friday night whilst I was out I bumped into this girl that I work with and I really like. We had a few drinks and she ended up staying at my place. We fooled around a bit but nothing serious because she was really drunk.

When she left the next morning she said she would text me later. After not hearing from her in 2 days I text her asking if she wanted to meet up during the week. Later she text me asking me if I could cover a shift at work for her, it was blunt and only work related. Feeling like I had been snubbed I didn't reply.

2 Days later I get another angrier text about covering her shift, I was a bit drunk and text her to ask why she was being this way towards me.

She called me and started shouting at me, saying that she hadn't got my text about meeting up. She said I was making her out to be a bitch and that I was accusing her of ignoring me and blaming her for not getting in touch. Now she won't even talk to me.

All seems like a stupid misunderstanding to me but now she seems to hate me and I feel terrible.

Is there any way I can put things right or is it a lost cause? I just wanted to know why she hadn't been in touch or replied to my text and now I feel like I've driven her away.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2006):

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Well I waited a couple of days and txt her to apologise but no response. I also found out that someone else that we work with has made the situation a whole lot worse! They had overheard me talking and went and told her that I was bitching about her, which isnt true!

Earlier today I got another work related text which I replied to as normal, then she followed it up with a text that simply said 'ur a prick'. I don't know what I have done to provoke this attack, all I've tried to do is make things right - now I feel worse than ever!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2006):

HEYA.... Well this is a real bad situation, you feel like s**t and really want to sort it out... leave it for a few days though, but first lets look at the possiblitys... Is she doing this to drive you away, what happened was to do with the drink or did she not get the text? First of all, so you'll know for next time, get delievery reports on your phone, this is a text you recieve when the person you sent it to, gets your message. I have a feeling this girl likes you, so leave it for a few days and text out of the blue, don't ring she might hang up... text and say: Look i'm dead sorry for what happened, I just thought you didn't want go out again, and when you sent me the message asking you to cover your shift I thought u were being nasty, I'm sorry I got it wrong, but I hope we can leave it behind us cause I do like you (",)... always put something sweet at the end, don't text till 8,9 or 10 o'clock, any other hour looks desperate, plus studies have shown, women forgive more and feel relaxed more at night time... hope all goes well.....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2006):

If you really like this girl and are worried that you may have offended her in some way, why not give her a call or if she won't take your calls, text her apologising for what seems to be a misunderstanding and invite her out for a drink, by way of an apology.

If she doesn't answer or reply, let it go, she may have her own reasons for acting this way,that has nothing to do with you.

Good luck.x

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