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writes:Here is my question, plain and simple. How should a guy approach his girlfriend when she thinks that he is the center of their world? When I began dating my girlfriend, the center of her life was diverse and balanced. She took time to be with friends, to hang out with family, and also to be with me, her boyfriend. We have been dating for two years now and the balance has shifted completely to me. I control her security, her wisdom, guidance, and power. Everything she feels, does, and reacts to is solely based on what I do. She is completely reactive and not proactive like she used to be. Please help me with this, I need advice on how to talk to her about re balancing the relationship. I feel that I'm being smothered, and it's not healthy for me or her. Thank you in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (7 November 2010):
 What you describe seems to be codependency. I have been in your situation before where I was also placed at the center of my GF's world (and not by my choice). In the end, that relationship ended, but perhaps yours might need to end.
The only advice I can suggest is that you read this information.
http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/codependency
I would also encourage you to seek the advice of a professional (a councilor or psychotherapist).
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