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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): Hun, you're not ready for that stage in your life yet, if your age is correct.
I know it can be hard when you know that he doesn't like you back, and it make you feel very small, but you cannot make someone like you. Love happens naturally.
Sex will only make this situation worse. You should only do that when you find someone you love, and their love is returned. And even then, consequences are just around the corner.
You are not mature enough physically, mentally or emotionally to sleep with someone.
My best advice; wait. If you like this boy so much, get to know him better and become friends. You have better potential then, and theres a chance he might realize what a nice person you are.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Oh dear lord, no sweetie, sex will NOT make him love you back.
And if your age is stated correctly, you are WAY too young to be even thinking about sex! You are in no way mentally, emotionally or even physically prepared for that sort of committment!
There are so many risks when you start having sex, are you prepared for all of that at your age? Possible pregnancy? An STI?
Don't try to sleep with him, it's only going to make things worse, especially if he doesn't care for you in the first place.
Take Care
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): Whatever you do don't have sex with this guy. If he doesn't love you then you are just going to end up getting hurt and sex will make it worse. Do yourself a favor and wait to have sex with someone who you know loves you. Wait for a great guy to come along who deserves you.
Also, you are very young to be having sex. What if you got pregnant or got a STD? You should wait til you are old enough to handle the consequences before you start having sex. The best thing to do would be to wait until you are married, but since you probably won't, wait for a guy who loves you and who you could actually have a real relationship with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): And,you shouldnt be having sex at that age anyway,it is illegal,cant believe the other people who replied didnt mention that.I dont know where you are from,but in the U.K,where i am from,the legal age to have sex is 16.
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reader, Carrie216  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Whoa hold on a minute sweetie.
First off, if they don't love you back, your first goal shouldn't be sex. Your first goal would be getting to know them better, falling in love, etc.
I see that you are 10-12...
I am not going to sit here and give you a lecture about my beliefs about sex before marriage. But you should carefully weigh the risks of sex before you do it.
Ask yourself these questions:
1. Am I ready to have a baby?
2. Am I willing to live with an STD for the rest of my life?
Those are just two risks of having sex. Are you ready to except the consequences if they were to happen?
If this guy doesn't like you (or, love you) back, don't scare him off by saying "I want to have sex". I have this feeling that that wouldn't go over too well. And, if you find that he would have sex with you, even though he doesn't actually like you, that's not good either. That means he's only using you.
Please think about this. Don't run off and have sex before you can handle the consequences. I am aware that not everybody wants to wait until marriage (even though I believe they should), but at the ages of 10-12...? We have to draw the line somewhere.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Oh please....
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