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writes: Hi everyone....merry Xmas and happy holidays by the way. I was with my partner for about ten years. We split about six months ago. We tried to remain friends but I guess there was bitterness on my part as he was really the one who ended with it so there has been no contact for some time. He now lives in another city....the same city as my brother and I will be flying out to visit my brother. Part of me wanted to bury the hatchet and call and wish him happy holidays while I am there but my gut tells me that could make me vulnerable if he rejects me again. I think....but am not sure that he has someone new which be further reason for me to be cautious. I just think that it is sad that we have a shared history of ten years and I am cagey of calling him because I do not want to get hurt again. Call or not to call....any thoughts....any replies VERY appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): he knows you're thinking about him at christmas. afterall you sent the last 9 christmases with him. admit to yourself that you are not calling to just to wish him happy holiday. you are literally only going to hurt yourself; his new woman will answer the phone or if you get him, you'll obsess about how he reacts coming to stupid conclusions. hold back. ring an old friend you havent been in contact with instead. its boxing day so this is pointless. hope you held back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): Thank you to both of the people who took the time to respond.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): No, don't call. Let sleeping dogs lie, as they say. Why stir up old feelings. If he doesn't respond you will thinking about it all over the festive season and that could ruin your time with your brother. You should let well alone. He ended it then you should have the dignity to leave it that way.
Take care and Merry Christmas
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (19 December 2006):
If you're only calling him to wish him greetings for the holidays, there's no reason to hold back. If you have other intentions and not looking to get rejected in any way then don't do it. If you've gotten over whatever hangups you guys had when you broke up .. then do make contact with him. Who knows ... after all this time, maybe he's mellowed out a bit since you guys broke up. If he's still as angry over everything then you'll know better next time and save yourself time and energy in the process. Some things, you won't know till you try.
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