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writes:40 and i love lady how is 24yers old but she send me email taling me {that you know that i like you, buti dont love you}. so pls how cain i make hemer loves me Reply to this Question
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (28 June 2008):
 you are 40 and you still think that you can MAKE another person love you?? jesus grow up!!
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reader, Marco262  +, writes (27 June 2008):
You can't, man. Sounds like she's giving you the "Let's Be Friends" speech. Just accept that you've had your chance with this girl and try to move on.
On the other hand, if you're in a sexual relationship with this girl, consider yourself lucky and leave it there. Very few 40 year olds get to have casual sex with 24 year olds on a regular basis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): My friend, I know exactly how you feel. And no, previous answer, we sometimes never learn when it comes to love. It is what is known as blind optimism.
However, all may not be lost. Be yourself, don't go too overboard with telling her your innermost feelings, she already knows and doesn't need to be reminded. Send her regular, flattering emails and be nice and tell her what an amazing memory you will always have of 'us', but slowly let the regularity dwindle One email a month, one every 6 weeks(yea I know, it's a bloody long process but maybe worth it!) and then none. If you're very lucky, she may hit a spot in her life where she's all alone and needs a good friend - SHE emails YOU!!! You then tell her you're here for her etc and just maybe, you can build on that.
Of course, I could be just talking bollocks but the softly-softly approach worked for me!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): in relationships nothing comes with a guarantee that says " will love you" If you want a guarantee buy an appliance. Other wise it's all risk. We risk they will love us in return as much as we love them. My point is you cant MAKE any one love you. You can only hope! Meanwhile go on with your life and take the risk of finding the one who WILL LOVE YOU.. ( guarantee not included)
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reader, no_issues +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Keep pestering her until she files for a restraining order from the local dispensers of justice. That is a sure sign that a woman loves you.
Then when you have violated the restraining order and are about to go to jail, shave your head and learn to become someone's prison bitch. That is what you do for love.
Or, you could give it up and move on, because she doesn't love you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): At 40 years of age, you should well know by now that you cannot MAKE someone love you.
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