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She has a boyfriend but should I tell her how I feel?

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Question - (30 June 2014) 3 Answers - (Newest, 30 June 2014)
A male United States age 22-25, *ohn1999 writes:

Every day I can't stop thinking about this girl I like. But she has a boyfriend, she has told me they aren't to serious. Every time I'm alone with her I feel like I should tell her how I feel about her, but at the same time I don't. What should I do?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2014):

If they're not serious, just be friendly but don't tell her how you feel. She might say the same thing to other boys, if you try to be her boyfriend. Let her end it first.

She might be saying it's not serious; because she wants to take advantage of your attention. Then you'll end up in trouble with her jealous boyfriend.

Best to keep it to yourself. That way she can't play with your feelings and lead you on. When she decides that she doesn't want the other guy, and he is completely out of the picture. You can chat with her and see if she likes you.

The safe thing to do is not let her play on your feelings.

If she likes a lot of attention, she will string other boys along; and still keep her boyfriend.

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A female reader, jls022 United Kingdom +, writes (30 June 2014):

No I think you should keep it to yourself for now. You know she has a boyfriend, so don't disrespect her relationship by making a move (which telling her how you feel effectively is). If it's not serious, you might find it fizzles out shortly anyway. If and when that happens, you can tell her.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (30 June 2014):

I don't think you should. If she really liked you that much, she would have dumped him some time ago. It would be disrespectful of you to say anything to her whilst she has a boyfriend. I think unless she dumps him and is single, you shouldn't say anything.

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