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writes: Shall I tell ex not to text/email or I just ignore?Still dearly in love with him, but I dont feel he loves me back in the way I want. He ignored me and put his friends first. We broke up 3 times, every time he got me back because I love him so much and so unconditionally. Now we moved to different cities. He asked me through email whether I wanted to go to NYC(he lives there now) to work, I emailed him back telling I had two options either NYC or SF and asking for his suggestions. He just said simply-choose whatever appeals to you most. I think that means he moved on, I am thinking he might get a gf already or in a relationship already. he texted me every time when he was in Long Beach.He kept going Long Beach 3 times within one month, which made me think there was someone significant in his life at Long Beach.I dont know is there anyway we can get back together,but keeping touch makes me expect that and think of him even more. Should I just cut off emails/texts without telling him why or should I tell him directly? What chance I have if this time I am the one who is going to try to win him back?
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (20 July 2006):
 Move on and tell him you've decided to move on. He obviously doesn't feel the same as you do for him, no point in waiting around for you.
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reader, Withnail700 +, writes (20 July 2006):
 You should move on. I have been in this very position, but from the other end; I was the boyfriend who left his girlfriend four times and very time went back for whatever reasons. I'm not proud of it, but intend to learn from it.
You are right when you assume he doesn't love to back in the same way you love him. He gets back together with you because he's comfortable with you - but he'll never stay. If you get back you'll just be postponing the inevitable. Why prolong the agony? He'll only go and leave you again just like the other four times because the original reasons for him leaving you in the first place will always be there, and will never go away.
Ignore his texts and terminate all contact. Tell him you're moving on. It's hard but you must do this. Move on and go find someone better who knows what he wants. Good luck!!
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