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writes: So this question is nothing about dating. It's just a feeling I'm experiencing and would just like to know if I'm over thinking or what. I'm twenty and knowing that, my parent's friend, who happens to be married and has a kid, came on to me. He didn't do anything, but made it quite clear that he felt attracted to me and wanted to act upon it. I was horrified and told my parents and from then on, we have almost cut contact with this particular person. This somehow brought back memories of one time, when a relative, tried to take advantage of me when I was young. I distinctly remember. This relative is a close one and means well and I really do respect him. And it was only that one time. But I'm guessing that it still has an effect on me. Anyway, my main problem is that, lately I've started distrusting my father. With no fault of his. I mean I wouldn't even think of him doing anything wrong to me and I really love him, yet, the fear still lies in my head. I know it's my insecurities talking and so, I just want to get rid of this terrible feeling. I've been crying over it and it's really not pleasant. Thanks for your time and I'm open to all opinions which will help me do the right thing. I'm so embarrassed by asking this question/ stating my problem, but I really do need help. Thanks a lot for your time. Reply to this Question
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reader, Snowshoe  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 It sounds like you have a good relation w your Dad. As a Dad myself I would want my daughter to speak with me. I suspect that yor Dads heart would be broken if he thought you didn't trust him because of something creepy relatives did. It may also give you a chance to express your feelings with someone who truly cares for your well being. My heart goes out to you. Good luck
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reader, Leodjoneluv  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 The first thing that you have to do is FORGIVE the other guys for what they did to you. you have to forgive them for how they hurt and made you feel. You need to speak to some one. (your parents) Tell them how you feel. The uncomfortable feelings are bottled up and you have to release them to move on
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reader, pink_daisy +, writes (3 February 2011):
 As a third party unrelated, I want to just say, you're over thinking it. But as a 21 year old woman who has expeditions with depression, I know how easy it is to over think just about anything. I was abused by two very close relatives. Not in a sexual way, just emotional abuse to an extreme level. I saw a therapist for a while, and I would never recommend her, EVER, but she had me write a letter to one of the relatives who abused me. I never sent it, but I could have. So perhaps confronting that relative is your answer? Obviously this person has harmed you emotionally - it's made you fear your own father. This relative has LITERALLY taken away your sense of security and living in fear is allowing this person to win. So I say, if you have the courage, confront this person. Either directly or through written words.
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