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writes:Hi so I have this problem...well I dont know if it is so much a huge issue but just curious if other people feel the same way. I have been noticing that my sex drive isnt all that high. It isn't all that low but not super high if I compare it to some of my sex-crazed friends. When I am not having sex, I am not really thinking about how I want it and I can control myself super easy if im making out with someone and what not. My friends always ask me how I make it look so easy. ...However, I feel like when I do have sex, thats when my hormones shoot up and I want it all the time. Its like the second my body realizes what ive been missing, I want it over and over again. Then when I stop having sex for a while (meaning like after two weeks or so) I forget all about it and im back to not caring for a while. Is this normal? Does this happen to anyone else?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2013): Yeah that's perfectly normal. When I'm single I don't care about sex at all unless I'm presented with an opportunity to have sex, then I get a rush of blood and a pretty strong need.
I've only ever "needed" sex when in relationships, and even then I can go without for long periods if needs be.
OP sex is like anything pleasurable it can be addictive like a drug. There's nothing wrong with being in control of that, sex-crazed people are generally the one's who do stupid and even harmful stuff to fill their need.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (17 November 2013):
 I hope it's normal because I'm exactly the same as you! I've always felt glad to be that way so I'm not too tempted to do regrettable things ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2013): I guess that happens to people ... Different people different needs and wants and different relationships
I think when u meet that person who your body will connect with u will see a steady pattern
Its mostly about what your body wants and needs
Mabye if your in casual relationships your just filling up on your needs because it might be a month or so till you engage in sexual activity again ? Or mabye u look so cool and relaxed while kissing because your not that attracted to the person i mean the guy could be good looking but do u feel the heat?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2013): It's been so long I can't even remember what sex feels like. I think you just start getting used to not getting any after a while and end up occupying yourself with other things. I wouldn't exactly say that I don't care about it though. When you stop measuring the length of your dry spells in weeks and start counting by half decades you start caring a little more about it.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (16 November 2013):
 Sure, that happens to plenty of people! It's like smoking - you're fine when you've quit and you carry on with your life as normal... until you have just one and suddenly you're buying packs again.
I think you're perfectly normal. And hey, having a healthy amount of self-control is a great quality. Good for you!
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