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writes:This may seem like a strange question, but, curiosity has the best of me. Studies have shown that at certain points in our life, sexual desires are higher than others for both men and women. However, studies have also shown that men appear to want sex no matter what age and that it is always on their mind. So, do the same rules apply regarding not giving up the cookie early on in a relationship regardless of the age? More specifically, when a man gets in his 50's and is beginning a relationship, would he be more or less likely to not want a relationship if a woman gave up the 'goodies' early on? Or are they two people who have lived long enough to know that life is short and what they want? I know when I was younger, the general rule of 'not giving' up the goods early on was highly applicable, but as a woman in mid-life does that rule still apply? Reply to this Question
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reader, Who +, writes (24 April 2009):
 All animals, even human males in their 50’s, repeat behavior they are rewarded for and stop behavior they are not rewarded for. Use this to you advantage, with the “successive approximations to a goal” approach. He takes you out, shows you a good time, talks and listens, makes you feel special and puts you in a good mood? Give him a little reward. Just a bit at first, not the whole cookie. Does the same thing next time? He gets a little bigger reward. You are not teasing him if you are giving him a little more each time, but you might want to explain to him. You can say “I’m not the type of girl who jumps on every man that passes by. You are going to have to go slow with me, a little at a time.” He will agree with this, and tell you he wants to be your gentleman and not rush anything. You can use the first base-second-third base all-the-way thing if you want, just when you draw the line for a particular evening, don’t wavier.
(Also, you might want to Google “how to train your husband like a dog”. Of course these things work out only if he does not know what is happening.)
Best of luck with everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Unless all you're looking for is some no-strings-attached sex on a one-night stand it's best to get to know and love the other person properly - a meeting of minds if you will - before having sex. That could take anywhere between a week and six months or more, so I don't think it's as much a matter of timing as one of feeling deeply for each other.
Biologically speaking, men produce sperm up until their dying day whereas women stop producing eggs from about age 50 onwards, so men are always willing (but not necessarily able - thank goodness someone invented Viagra!) and after the menopause women tend to be not quite so bothered about it and need some assistance in the lubrication department.
It's all down to personal standards and aspirations I suppose!
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