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writes:hiya im 19 years old and the youngest in my family. my parents are extremely overprotective and they don't let me go out too much.i'm at a point where i dont keep in touch with too many people for fear they might ask me to come out and my parents won't allow me to go.i really feel lonely right now, i don't want to be in a relationship but i want to find some good friends.what's the best way for me to handle my situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): So your parents wont let you out full stop?
I mean, you are 19, you have your whole life to live and your parents make you stay in?
I think its time to talk to your folks in the mature way that I'm sure you are, tell them you realise they are trying to protect you, ect and you appriectate it, but the time has come for you to be a lot more independant and go out like most 19 year olds. You say you have siblings? talk to them and let them know how you feel, and together you can help each other get on with your parents. Maybe they dont want to let go of you because they still see you as the " child " in the family.
Go for it girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): I guess while you're under their roof you have to live by their rules.
That said, you're over 18 and can theoretically do as you please. Maybe they need for you to tell them that you're a responsible sort of person and that keeping you cooped up will only result in anger and bitterness, and when you do eventually get let out you'll be trying to do a week's worth of living in one night, and coming home plastered might be a result of that.
There's only so much cotton wool they can wrap you up in before you start to rebel. Can a relative perhaps have a word with them on your behalf? Might be worth a try.
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reader, LouLee +, writes (26 September 2008):
 move out maybe?
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reader, ChaseTerrier  +, writes (26 September 2008):
If you can afford it, you may want to consider moving out of your parents house.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): Has a parent myself i think someimes we try and hold on to our children naturaly ,But i really think your parents should cut you some slack .19 is not too young i think the age is not the issue here babs ,I think your parents are being selfish not intentionally ,My youngest Son recently left home to live with his Girlfriend hes 22 .Yes i miss him but thats life love ,Talk to your parents and try to explain to them how you feel .
Good luck .
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): Has a parent myself i think someimes we try and hold on to our children naturaly ,But i really think your parents should cut you some slack .19 is not too young i think the age is not the issue here babs ,I think your parents are being selfish not intentionally ,My youngest Son recently left home to live with his Girlfriend hes 22 .Yes i miss him but thats life love ,Talk to your parents and try to explain to them how you feel .
Good luck .
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